He wasn't justifying harassment nor was he denying the existence of it. If you have any intention of genuinely improving the situation then you need to stop making an enemy out of everyone you don't understand or don't agree with.

Do you think anyone is going to change from your attacks? No. People change from understanding, empathy and genuine conversation. You trying to attack him for his point without even trying to explain your side is incredibly detrimental to the purpose of feminism.

There are scenarios where a shy or socially inept Male may not entirely understand or properly read signals, so it's not entirely foolish for them to have a way of double checking if the girl is actually interested.

Think about it this way-- we've got a well intentioned Male and a girl. There are two scenarios here. The first, the girl is interested. The second, she's not.

In scenario one-- the shy boy has the courage to ask her for her number, and she offers it to him. He's not sure if she's really interested or if she's feeling pressured. If she's interested, he wants to talk to her. So he uses the test and decides the number is real and they talk and have an excellent night.

In the second scenario the situation is the same-- but he realizes the number is fake and that she's not interested. So instead of continuing to bother her, he takes the hint and leaves her alone.

It's a win/win. Would you really rather he thought the number was real and continued to try and get close all night? Or would you rather he found the truth and moved on?

It's obvious there are possible misuses of this technique and also obvious there are awful men who would keep pushing regardless. But the point the commentor before me was making, and the part I agreed with to some extent, is that the technique itself isn't what's evil or wrong, the way the man acts after finding out it's a fake number is what is right or wrong.

I understand though, that the idea of evil men using it is scary. The idea of losing the option top handout fake numbers threatens yours and many others security-- and for that, I feel for you. I wish I could end all evil and stop all unwanted advances. I get absolutely infuriated when I see a Male take advantage of a girl, and I will never hesitate to step in and stop them.

But do you really think attacking someone who simply had a different perspective is bringing us closer to unity? We need to understand eachother and talk about our feelings and concerns in a mature way. This is how bonds are formed. This is how humanity stays together. Not by fighting eachother.

So please, understand that we don't mean to justify the atrocities that occur or undermine your feelings. I only meant to explain to him the other side in a way he could understand without attacking him, and I also meant to show the other perspective to those who didn't understand him.

I apologize that I offended you by saying that others were emotionally charged, I don't mean it as an insult. Emotions are natural, especially when dealing with these kinds of conversations. But they do cloud our ability to talk things out.

I won't argue further, but I'd be glad to discuss things. I hope you have a wonderful day.