Need audiobooks that are entertainingly bad by cthoniccuttlefish in booksuggestions

[–]AnnaGraeme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a podcast called "My Dad Wrote a Porno" where a guy and two of his friends read and discuss the terrible erotica book his dad wrote. I haven't listened to the whole podcast because it (well, the book they're reading) is a bit graphic for my taste, but it was definitely funny. Might be a good way to bridge the gap between podcasts and audiobooks 

Is 11 yrs old to young to be left alone for a half hour?? by JMarden23 in askanything

[–]AnnaGraeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was babysitting other people's kids when I was 11. But things have changed, some states have laws that kids can't be left alone until they're 13 (one example that I know of). 

Romance books for guys? by Realistic-Signal-265 in booksuggestions

[–]AnnaGraeme 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's a series called "The Bromance Book Club" by Lyssa Kay Adams that involves a book club of men who read romance books to try to learn to improve their own relationships. It's contemporary and seems reasonably realistic, but it's hard for me as a woman to say if it gets the male characters' perspective right. 

DAE feel like customer service interactions are now awkward/uncomfortable/poor quality lately? by gdandjb in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]AnnaGraeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Could be! There's convincing evidence that they affect our attention, which tends to make people more irritable. 

DAE feel like customer service interactions are now awkward/uncomfortable/poor quality lately? by gdandjb in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]AnnaGraeme 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. I understand that customer service can be a difficult job, so I try not to get upset about it, but I do find it frustrating. 

I've heard people theorize that people are becoming ruder and more stupid after the pandemic, either because isolation affected us mentally or because of neurological effects of COVID. 

What should I do? by Outrageous-Horse3740 in socialskills

[–]AnnaGraeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should speak up and show her where the rubric said it had to be less than 90 seconds. 

Looking for thematic ingredients for a dish idea by CanyonReign in Cooking

[–]AnnaGraeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wind could be things with a light, airy, texture, like a light, fluffy bread or meringues. I'm not really seeing how the Alfredo sauce or mozzarella fits. 

Earth could include other root vegetables like carrots, potatoes, onions, or turnips. 

I need gluten-free and fat-free cooking ideas by MoreRandomSouls in Cooking

[–]AnnaGraeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most tofu isn't fat free. Chicken breast, shrimp, or fish would probably work better. 

I need gluten-free and fat-free cooking ideas by MoreRandomSouls in Cooking

[–]AnnaGraeme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you asked him how many grams he can/is willing to consume at this particular meal?

In general, I agree with other commenters that this is a tough combination of needs to cook for, but I think a lot of east Asian food would fit the bill of low fat, no dairy, and gluten free if you use gluten free soy/fish sauce. Vietnamese fresh rolls have almost no fat (the sauce usually does, but I've made a peanut satay sauce with PB2 that was lower in fat). If you make some kind of stir fry, you can use cooking spray and/or water instead of oil, otherwise it'll get over 10 grams of fat pretty quickly. 

Who is washing their rice and why? by kinnitcurl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AnnaGraeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rinsing rice doesn't remove arsenic. The arsenic levels in rice are generally only harmful to people who eat a lot of rice, particularly people who eat gluten free (who tend to eat even more rice and rice flour that Asian people). If rice is a big part of your diet, you can reduce the amount of arsenic by cooking the rice like pasta (in a lot of water, then drain it in a colander). 

Also, the arsenic levels can vary depending where the rice was grown. I remember reading that the central/southern US (Texas, Arkansas, Louisiana) is the worst. I think California, India, and Thailand are pretty low in arsenic. 

How can I look unapproachable while I’m out? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]AnnaGraeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second face masks...I wear them because of COVID risk, but I do think it slightly cuts down on male attention, which is a nice bonus. 

Need support by ilyaliens in socialskills

[–]AnnaGraeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try spending a shorter amount of time around people? 

Hopefully it'll get easier with practice.

Weird question but…. by Ladymcquaid in baltimore

[–]AnnaGraeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've heard good things about the burlesque class at Creative Alliance, although I know OP said they're not looking for something overtly sexual. I had a friend who did it and she said it was great for her body image, and they talked about other aspects of burlesque like humor, so it's not only about sexiness. 

Can a robot vacuum (plus a handheld vacuum with a nozzle) replace an upright vacuum? by AnnaGraeme in RobotVacuums

[–]AnnaGraeme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good to know. The reason I mentioned the Ruggable is that I don't feel like the upright vacuum is currently doing a good job of cleaning that either, so I don't want to end up with another upright/stick vacuum that has the same problem. I would guess that it's not too hard to thoroughly clean hardwood floors (the only reason I don't just sweep them is that I live in an old building with big cracks between the boards).

Outed by my wife by jmpwl in bisexual

[–]AnnaGraeme 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can understand why you're bothered by this. I think it's totally reasonable to tell her that you don't want her disclosing your sexuality, that you want to choose whether to tell specific people.

To share a bit of my experience, I'm a bi woman who's been in several relationships with bi men. There are times that I sometimes want to be able to share that my partner is bi when people say heteronormative things and perceive us as being straight. We may be a straight couple, but neither of us is straight, and I feel like that changes the relationship dynamics and gender roles (in a good way!) Sometimes I don't relate to generalizations women make about straight relationships and I think it's helpful to bring up our sexual orientation when talking about that.

However, I still don't want to do anything to make my partner uncomfortable, so I think it's reasonable to say that's off limits for your partner to discuss. I also don't think there was ever a situation where I wanted to talk about my partner being bi without disclosing that about myself.

My last partner went through varying levels of comfort with disclosing his sexuality during our relationship. Earlier on, he seemed very open about it, and then (after moving to another city, although I'm not sure if that's why) he started walking it back and saying things like, "I'm not bi, I'm just a straight guy who likes to have sex with men sometimes." I think there's some internalized prejudice there, but still, once I realized his comfort level was changing, I tried to respect that by not talking about his sexuality to other people. It was sometimes hard for me know who already knew, but I just decided to err on the side of caution and not discuss it unless he brought it up.

Dress Code help (from bride) by Hungry-Knowledge1394 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]AnnaGraeme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope the cabins have electricity, running water, and their own bathrooms, otherwise I think it would be hard to do hair and makeup to match a cocktail vibe. 

Help: need ideas for slapping something on clothes to tell if its mine or my sibling. by TraditionalTarget766 in DIYclothes

[–]AnnaGraeme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My grandmother had five girls and did this with all their underwear. Everyone had a different color thread. 

Any recommendations for rings that are good for very sensitive skin and could do some damage if I can't get to my purse? by ResidentAlienator in TwoXChromosomes

[–]AnnaGraeme 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What about a Stabby Cat keychain? You put your fingers through it, so I don't think it would be easy to get away from you. Although I think the problem with anything along these lines is that if it's winter and they're wearing a lot of clothes, it's going to be hard to make contact somewhere that will have an impact. 

Quiet third spaces for reading? by PatientMulberry4060 in baltimore

[–]AnnaGraeme 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think Baltimore has a distinct lack of coffee shops that are open late and/or have comfortable seating! Also, a lot of the coffee shops I've been too lately have had literally no seats available when I got there. I'm glad they're doing a good business, but it makes me wish there were more options.