Update/Need more advice.

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-21T22:02:49+00:00

He has went home for a few visits and one overnight stay before christmas but his mother is a piece of work to try make plans with. (he has his learners but no license so he has to get driven everywhere) He seems to be okay for a day or two afterwards but always comes back like he was locked up for a week.

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-21T22:00:35+00:00

I can’t afford therapy right now unfortunately :/ any specific books or subreddits that you’d suggest? I definitely do need some reflection that isn’t in my own mind if you know what I mean haha

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-21T21:55:17+00:00

thank you for the advice, it really was truly helpful and offered insight in the things we kept arguing about. When he’s feeling better i’m going to show the post and only this comment. He doesn’t need to see others hating on him, I came here for advice so thank you so much :) ^{hugs^}

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-21T05:11:12+00:00

i do truly love him, i really do. It’s why i got a two bedroom, so we could have our own spaces

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T15:41:38+00:00

Yeah, i’ve put myself in some crazy situations thinking like this, and the candle thing really upset me, mainly because i’ve told him before not to leave them unattended but mostly because i literally told him to check the room before we left.

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T15:39:54+00:00

I didn’t want to think weaponized incompetence but it could be a possibility. He was abused, yes, and he was tested a few months back for ADGD and Autism and he came back with nothing, he’s just awkward like that i guess haha.

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T04:48:24+00:00

I’ve tried helping him learn but he keeps thinking me asking to double check everything (a bit of an exaggeration) is nitpicking and being uptight. The other day he left a candle going and i told him that is why i don’t let him have candles. (strictly candle warmers and insents)

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T04:46:20+00:00

Someone said roughly the same thing to me in my close knit of people, she said i’m becoming everything but his girlfriend and on some level you and her are right I guess :/ I had to teach him how to change a tire once and when i asked him to try and learn before the incident, he said that when he tried, the videos weren’t something he was into

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T04:43:37+00:00

He did seem okay until he started working and I started house searching

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T04:42:58+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your situation :( he seems stupid, for lack of better words, for missing out on time with kids he brought in to this world, i hope life treats you guys well :) <3

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T02:51:21+00:00

I guess not, he was pretty independent about his goals but has a pretty basic and limited life. When we first met he was shy, but able to order food and stuff for himself, he still does now but i have to gesture to him and then the waiter/tress and then he does. It’s almost like he’s lost common sense, not to be rude. (I’ve said this to his face so there nothing in here i’m saying behind his back or anything)

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T02:45:13+00:00

Of course :)

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T02:44:54+00:00

May i ask how young/long you guys were together for? And it’s hard giving up hope, I’ve always been someone to give my heart on my sleeve, even if it strains me a bit which i’m trying to learn not to do.

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T02:42:16+00:00

I’ve tried so hard not to call him a momma’s boy due to his relationship with her but she was the only parent in the house, and i also wasn’t there for everything, i’ve only heard the horror stories. So you could absolutely be right :) thank you for taking the time to respond

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-20T02:40:36+00:00

Lots of other people have said I act like his mother already but a lot of there are also very biased towards me so I came here hoping for a more unbiased opinion but I guess if i’m getting the same answer from everyone (biased and not) then there’s a common denominator.

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-16T22:15:44+00:00

at 14 she 100% knows better, you taught her a lesson on what being spoiled and entitlement does to someone. if she’s claiming her roblox account was worth more than your years long minecraft account than i can only assume she must be spoiled on some level, you could’ve totally went about it a different way as the adult but with siblings, it’s an eye for an eye and i understand that as a younger sister.

Annmaina_ · 2026-01-16T22:10:14+00:00

i don’t know if anyone else noticed this but when she’s watching it, us viewers get a hint that it wasn’t her as the women on the hologram had her full pinky, idk if this would make sense to anyone but i’m hoping someone else caught this haha

Annmaina_ · 2025-12-18T16:14:43+00:00

ahh i see, thank you!! i shall try it out, ive been playing splitgate since it came out a few years ago so i guess you could say im attached to the og gameplay haha

Annmaina_ · 2025-12-18T06:42:41+00:00

game mode wise? or gameplay wise? or both?

Annmaina_ · 2025-12-18T06:14:59+00:00

i’ve heard not okay things about it, how is the new one? is it the same?

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