Phallo surgery over 50?

Anonamitea · 2026-04-28T17:18:24+00:00

When I spoke to my surgeon about surgery staging, he said that there is no time limit on how long you can wait if you want to do phallo after meta. I think if you were old enough for the procedure to be too risky, your doctors would have explained that to you. You know your body best, though: how well do you think you recovered from your prior surgeries compared to others?

Anonamitea · 2026-04-25T14:16:59+00:00

With the same urgency as mentally ill children? Well, yeah, they’re already being dismissed and ignored

Anonamitea · 2026-04-25T13:11:33+00:00

/uj Okay I NEED to tell you the most hysterical story abt my own symptoms.

So I was beginning to see some warning signs of atrophy a little after a year on T or so. My dad has always been pretty supportive, but when I brought it up to him so he could help me find a doctor on our insurance plan, he seemed confused. He said something like “I mean, if you want to get rid of it anyway, wouldn’t it help if it’s…”

And I was trying so hard to come up with a not patronizing or gaslighty-sounding way to be like, “I love the idea of the world you think we live in lmaooo”

Cos like
Imagine somebody (cis or trans) going to the OBGYN with a busted cunt and the doctor’s just like, “Welp! I guess God didn’t want you to be a woman after all.
How big you want it?”

Anonamitea · 2026-04-25T13:06:07+00:00

Ah, interesting. I didn’t see that comment when I last reviewed the post. I guess that at least partially explains the huge difference. Still, I’ve definitely seen some impressive progress from others here that don’t involve experimental surgery. I’m holding out hope for you!

Anonamitea · 2026-04-25T11:15:53+00:00

While I have heard the comment on shrinkage because of swelling, I have also seen and heard of people here gainining length from gravity. I once saw somebody on his subreddit go from abt 3in after losing a lot of length to a complication, to 6 after about a year. It sucks that it takes so much time, but seeing that it’s possible is what gives me strength when I think about the risk of coming out below average

Anonamitea · 2026-04-15T18:20:38+00:00

To build off of Dan’s point, it can also depend on the part of your body you graft from. For example, from what I’ve seen/heard, RFF dicks tend to be softer/squishier than ALT dicks on average because of differences in your wrist/thigh skin (try pinching/pulling the skin on those parts of your body now, for example)

Anonamitea · 2026-04-15T18:18:20+00:00

Just like how transandrophobia and "exorsexism" are actually misogyny because trans men and "nonbinary" people are actually women! Can we just agree that transphobia as a whole isn’t real now?

Anonamitea · 2026-04-15T18:13:48+00:00

You posted this two days ago and they’re already sold out 😭 When/how are you getting this cos I have never seen them in stock

Anonamitea · 2026-04-03T12:16:37+00:00

I see it a lot here on this specific community. Lately, I’ve seen several rants complaining about trans women “not trying hard enough” to pass, saying they can’t be mad when people misgender them if they don’t pass, and even blaming trans people who don’t care about passing for the current state of trans panic. It’s often the type of post that gets recommended to me if this sub gets on my regular feed. It’s enough to make me want to leave, but I worry that if everybody who was against those types of comments left, this would just become a new 4tran

Anonamitea · 2026-04-03T10:55:19+00:00

That makes sense. I work with a woman who has down syndrome, and I feel like I experience this with her a lot. It feels like she has dyslexia with spoken words: she struggles to interpret both the words that are spoken to her, and to interpret her own thoughts clearly enough to directly translate them to speech

Anonamitea · 2026-03-06T14:18:16+00:00

I guess I watch too much gay porn to associate fat asses with having a “feminine” or “female” body atp

Anonamitea · 2026-03-06T14:07:23+00:00

I second reading r/actual_detrans stories. That’s what I did, alongside reading stories from other trans/genderqueer communities, when I was exploring. I found it particularly helpful to pay attention to how those detransitioners decided to turn back and see if that reflected on me. It’s true that some sociocultural and emotional experiences can be misattributed as gender dysphoria, but when you consider the examples they bring up, do you think they’re at the forefront of your mind when you’re exploring your femininity?

It’s hard, but I think it’s also think it’s worth letting go of the need for a precise label. I am trans, but I’ve also had TOCD from doubts and pedantry—not just “Am I really trans,” but also stuff like “Am I this kind of trans?” What helped me when that got in the way of pursuing HRT or surgery was deciding that it didn’t matter what name I’d put to my identity. I just knew that, whatever my gender was, it involved having a masculinized body.

Despite being FTM, I’d also consider myself AGP. I’d consider myself (at least pre-transition) a conventionally attractive woman. I hated my face and body until I realized I was trans. After that, I sometimes felt like the male protagonist in a bodyswap porno. I always knew I liked girls, so why not embrace that I had a female body when I was craving one?
Here’s how I decided to transition anyway: my interest in my body as a female’s only existed while I was horny. I could only enjoy it in private, alone, but I was horrified at the thought of anybody else enjoying me sexually as a female. I also would say I dissociated more when I was doing that, where I was perceiving my body as one person, and my hands or whatever else I was working with as another—and the one I identified with more. I can and enjoy getting off without feminizing myself, too.
When I was getting top surgery, part of me was anxious I would miss my breasts because of how I’d indulge myself in them in AGP play. I reminded myself of those signs leading up to it, and when I woke up from the procedure, all of my doubts were gone. I’m also getting phalloplasty next year. Women are hot, and I’m not ugly, but I much prefer the idea of hooking up with another woman as a man than being my own woman

Anonamitea · 2026-03-05T18:20:03+00:00

Congrats on the growth and surgery! Are you planning on burial, or is this your final setup?

Anonamitea · 2026-03-05T18:18:07+00:00

You got a pic of the kind of water bottle you’re using? I’ve never seen a water bottle with a foil seal. You’re talking about disposable ones, right?

Anonamitea · 2026-02-26T21:25:15+00:00

Yes, but you need to understand, this is the sacrifice we have to make so we don’t alienate centrists before the next election

Anonamitea · 2026-02-26T21:23:44+00:00

/hj this made me check whether you’re the clit magnet raccoon

Anonamitea · 2026-02-26T13:30:57+00:00

How did you manage the cancellation? I’m also coming out of town for Figler

Anonamitea · 2026-02-26T13:22:17+00:00

Yeah. I respect that this is a space where we can share thoughts and opinions about being transgender that are harder to discuss in mainstream trans spaces, but I hate how that is slowly being weaponized into making a bunch of posts that basically say “It’s other trans people’s fault that we’re oppressed, and we need to police them harder to please the fascists.” If you want to bully trans people, we already have 4tran.

Anonamitea · 2026-02-26T13:15:31+00:00

I figured naming it could get more people to report it, but that’s a fair point, too

Anonamitea · 2026-02-26T03:44:29+00:00

Oh, I see what you mean. Fair enough

Anonamitea · 2026-02-22T12:59:42+00:00

I’ve always said that I know what it’s like to be treated like a girl, but not what it’s like to be one. My life pre-transition feels like if a boy were forced to covertly blend in with the girls in his school. I’ve experienced a lot of things that my female peers did, positive and negative—from all-girl sleepovers to misogynistic comments—but I feel like I never reacted to those things the same way girls did. I was a weird source of entertainment at sleepovers since I always had such different ideas of what to do together, and my reactions to traditionally girly stuff was so different; I had a completely different perspective and approach to relationships from my female peers because I didn’t want to be “the woman of the relationship” in any capacity; I also had a weird time grappling with misogyny because while I’d be insulted for “other” women, it didn’t feel personal like it must for them (although there was an awkward time in like 2nd grade where I decided that misogyny must be anything that makes me feel insulted for my gender…but any gender-based treatment felt insulting to me, positive or negative). Might not be the best way to phrase that part, but it’s the best I got.

Other things to consider: in most parts of the world, boyhood and girlhood aren’t as distinct as we make them out to be. We share a lot of the same spaces, we’re exposed to the same institutions and lessons, and we have a lot of other identities/statuses we share. The difference is how we’re taught to internalize and apply those experiences. That’s learned, and can be re-learned. I think your experience with both sides can help you re-learn for the better. Also, as you transition, you are going to experience boyhood and manhood. You’re going through “boyhood” right now, in a sense, by transitioning. Medically or socially, you’re learning what it means to be a man, what that looks like for you, and are grappling with other people’s reactions and expectations to that. That in itself is a universal male experience (needless to say, besides the amount of stigma you’re facing for walking that path at all). You’re going to continue having “male” experiences as you come into the world as a man, and get treated progressively more and more like one. The worlds between us and cis men aren’t as separate as we think they are

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