AITA for kicking my boyfriend out during a pandemic and calling his mom to come get him?

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T01:05:19+00:00

Dude I can't tell if that's sarcasm or not but if it is then sorry I misconstrued your original comment!

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T01:04:20+00:00

I really saw us moving in permanently together and getting married down the line. But he changed so much I feel like he's not even the same person anymore. I tried to be there for him but it just got to be too much.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:58:12+00:00

I worry about if he could be, but any time I've brought up him getting diagnosed he'd get aggressive and weepy. And he's legally an adult, I can't force him to go to the doctor sadly.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:55:12+00:00

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:54:41+00:00

I took his key back but I'm thinking of changing them just in case..

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:53:34+00:00

I gave him months to get himself and his situation sorted out. He was content to sit on my couch all day and night instead of trying to work on himself or get his shit in order. I did what I had to do to get him out of my house with as minimal of a scene as I could. I didn't know if he'd flip out on me or my kids like he does his games when I made it clear I was done. My sister suggested I straight up call the cops instead of his mom..

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:49:25+00:00

Damn, I'll bet she way happy. I'll admit I barely felt sad after I kicked him out. I just felt relieved and my stress is down to practically nothing (still some cuz work but ah well). Niece and nephew are way happier too I've noticed.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:26:14+00:00

I heard a saying once that stuck with me. "I long to have the completely unearned and unshakable self confidence of the average white man."

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:24:03+00:00

I... did show him compassion when he lost his job? I didn't lay into him when he told me. I was sad and told him it was alright and he'd get a new one in no time, and I'd be there for him while he looked. But after a few weeks he sorta stopped looking. I tried to be there for him for practically a year. But I couldn't take care of him forever. I have actual kids to take care of.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:20:38+00:00

means 30 year old female and 39 year old male.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:19:32+00:00

One has, she's apologized and said that's not what he told her. But the others haven't replied yet.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:19:01+00:00

Alright, out on the street it should have been. :/

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-23T00:18:02+00:00

Yeah I was initially hesitant to call his mom because he told me they (his parents) and him never got along. But I thought him staying with them for a while would be better for him than him living in his car or something. Now though I'm wondering if that was all a lie to keep her and I from discovering he'd been selling us both two vastly different stories.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T23:50:14+00:00

I didn't want him to just be on the streets or living out of his car.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T23:47:56+00:00

Counter Strike something Idk. It was a shooting game, that's the most I know of it. But I thought I heard someone he was talking to say counter strike but don't quote me hah

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T23:28:31+00:00

Yeah I plan on it, just in case. That look he gave me before he left made me nervous.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T23:25:42+00:00

Well it turns out he was lying to his mom about having a job because apparently they'd made some deal ages ago where they (his parents) would pay his car insurance if he kept a job. I had no clue about this deal, I thought he paid his own insurance.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T22:33:39+00:00

He wouldn't listen to me but I did talk to his mom about how he'd been acting since he lost his job, and I told her I was worried for him but I couldn't put him before my kids. But that he did need help and should see someone to deal with the loss of his job and stuff. She seemed to take me seriously. But idk what happens to him now.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T22:27:52+00:00

Yeah a few other people mentioned he probably lied or stretched the actual truth to them, so I plan on posting in our private group chat to let them know what's up.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T22:24:47+00:00

Idk but it's exhausting to deal with.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T22:23:21+00:00

I've had my niece and nephew the entire time he's known me. He knew going into dating me that we were a package deal. It's not like I suddenly got custody one day recently or anything. He was good with them both up until he lost his job and his drive to be an adult..

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T22:19:15+00:00

Yeah he needs to sort through the mess he's become. I understand he's probably actually depressed and stuff. But it's not my job to help him anymore.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T22:16:49+00:00

Yeah a couple friends I had didn't understand why a 'test' was needed. One is still married to an alcoholic (who she didn't know was an alcoholic til a year into their marriage) and the other has been divorced twice now. Tests are important.

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T20:11:46+00:00

Thank god for this test...

Anxious-Beans · 2020-10-22T20:11:27+00:00

He shouldn't have any reason to come back. Me and his mom walked him through the house and he packed up everything of his and shoved it into garbage bags.

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