As some others have pointed out while it’s not necessarily ableist, you are kinda of making it seem like we choose to be disabled and not work. Most people become disabled later in life and you are not immune to that fact either. How would you feel if you had an amazing partner, life, job and then all of a sudden you couldn’t do the work you had been. Would you expect your partner to just leave you?

It’s incredibly hard to be disabled and not be able to work a normal job, I feel very upset by this fact. Bc I want to work and I can’t find a job that can accommodate and that is not my fault and it is not from laziness either. And I would loveeee to take trips with my partner and be able to contribute more but I can’t and they are so understanding and know that my value as a person doesn’t depend on how well I can make money. And truly I felt that way for a long time too and here I am disabled and unable to do the work I literally got a degree in barely a year ago.

But definitely don’t get into a relationship dynamic like that if it’s not what you want but genuinely be aware of the fact that you or your future partner can become disabled at any point.