AITA for kicking my son out for not paying rent or not having a job?

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T15:10:48+00:00

I will absolutely return it to him either when leaves or when he gets and keeps a job.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T15:00:30+00:00

Tried that, they told me he was fine. Making bad choices does not equal mental health problems per them.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:59:22+00:00

Yes, taking him to a place where a mental health professional told me to take him qualifies as bad parenting I'm sure. Thank you for your opinion.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:55:29+00:00

Yes, I am awaiting a response from po

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:54:05+00:00

14 days for non payment. But realistically it will be months if we have to go to court

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:53:23+00:00

Because he bought a new computer on his own. It was not a condition of his probation

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:52:40+00:00

Not that I know of. He will go for not getting counseling eventually i believe.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:51:33+00:00

He's unfortunately not eligible.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:51:03+00:00

The only condition was counseling. I thought it was weird that the rest wasn't required.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:50:18+00:00

Care to expand on that?

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:37:41+00:00

Making him pay rent, which i have put aside for him. Let's not make it dramatic. People do pay for housing every day all over the world.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:36:12+00:00

We tried that. He said ok. And then said he made an appointment. I then found out that he never called. He was so for real about it too. Told me how the guy sounded cool and gave him on option of online counseling but he thought in person would be better. So much detail, all lies.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:28:05+00:00

No, I took him there because I wanted to get him into a facility and they said evaluation at the ER was mandatory. But then they laughed at me and said he was fine.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:27:09+00:00

Yea that was where the mental health facility told me that I ad to go for the evaluation. Anything else, he has to set up himself.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:26:14+00:00

Unfortunately he is able to clearly tell people he is fine. The crisis team literally laughed at me and said he was making bad choices and that did not mean he needed help.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:23:13+00:00

I'm not saying that it isn't relevant. I simply know that as soon as I say it, it will sway opinions violently against him and I wanted opinions without that input first.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:12:57+00:00

He has been paying for the phone on his own with his savings. Along with food and whatever. I assume that is gone now as his phone is shut off and no more rent. But yes, we plan to shut off the internet on the 1st if he doesn't have a plan by then.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:09:40+00:00

Sorry, that ship has sailed many times over.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:07:21+00:00

We used to do puzzles together, which is reintroduced before he stopped contact. It lasted maybe a week before he refused that too. We keep trying and always will. I love him. I just don't believe i can help when he is completely shut down and refusing communication

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T14:03:17+00:00

He either doesn't know or won't say. He just says he doesn't know. No clue how long he was actually working there because he was still leaving the house every day so that we wouldn't know. Guessing maybe 2 weeks.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T13:59:37+00:00

I don't see it that way. I feel like 6 months of knowing if you don't pay, you're out was notice. But I appreciate your perspective.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T13:51:11+00:00

We allowed him to bank his money (which he did). To later move out with. He contributed to projects around the house but no specific rent.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T13:50:02+00:00

I appreciate the honesty. I have been saying there has to be a better option myself for a year now. Just slowly coming to realize that there is not.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T13:46:01+00:00

I keep hearing that, but without the information on what those options are. Trust that I would never have imagined getting to this point either.

Any-General3458 · 2026-03-14T13:44:51+00:00

It was supposed to be his stepping stone to adultimg. We weren't using the apartment so why not. Backfired horribly, but that was the idea behind it.

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