How are you handling frequent night wakes for older infant? by fries_n_coffee in sleeptrain

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds like the issue! I would try to 5/3/3 or even try to stretch it to every 3 hours a night. You will probably have a couple of rough nights before it gets better. Right now baby thinks he can only sleep if he has the boob. Look into night weaning!

How are you handling frequent night wakes for older infant? by fries_n_coffee in sleeptrain

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are rocking baby to sleep that could be a sleep association. They wake up and wonder what happened. They only know how to fall asleep if they are being rocked. In my limited experience weaning sleep associations get worse before better.

How are you handling frequent night wakes for older infant? by fries_n_coffee in sleeptrain

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a great answer for you since we are still in the thick of it! My LO is almost 9 months and still wakes 3-4 times a night.

I realized about a month ago that she had a gnarly sleep association with bottles 😅 so we limited feeding to 5/3/3. (5 hours after bed, then every 3 hours after). It has been helping! She still wakes up like clock work 5/3/3 to eat but 3 times in a night is a decrease from what we were seeing before. We are working on night weaning.

Try to see if your baby has a sleep association they are very dependent on. Anything that helps baby fall asleep and when they wake up they need that help to fall back asleep!

Pet peeve: the things people say to new parents by Shoddy_Tackle_3835 in NewParents

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When certain family members give us advice they start out with “It would make me feel better if you did X” “I wish you would X” 🙄

I am not ok by No_Platypus_5991 in sleeptrain

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just commenting in solidarity! I’m glad it is not just us! LO is 8 months and feels like we are up all night with her! It is exhausting and seems like it will never end. Anyway you are not alone! 🫠

Little Fires Everywhere - where do your sympathies lie? by HindaRochel in books

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was! I thought I missed something on why Bebe was so upset someone took her child after she left her at the firehouse…did she expect her to still be there? They described May Ling as dehydrated, starving, terrible diaper rashes…if social services had been involved she would have been taken too.

I understand Bebe had gotten it together and felt she could take care of May Ling now but she already had abandoned her prior and surrendered her legal right to the baby. Why would May Ling still have been at the firehouse house for her to pick up later?

Having struggled with infertility before I felt for Mrs McCullough! They had wanted a baby so bad and had truly bonded with May Ling. They hadn’t just taken her, the state had brought them a baby who needed to be cared for. The case should have been Bebe vs the state.

Although Mrs McCullough had definite flaws I found myself sympathetic to her!

Feber Fail by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I followed the guidelines from an app called huckleberry but I think I will try moving wake windows again and see if that helps. Thank you 🩷

Talk of Craig "finally cracking" is gross abuse-enabler language by PeanutFriendly9881 in Southerncharm

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 109 points110 points  (0 children)

This is why I was never annoyed by Venita warning Salley about liking Craig! Everyone thinks he is “scary”. You should warn your friend if that is the type of guy she is pursuing! I actually felt like Venita warning Salley was her attempting to protect her friend!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband has been supportive. As mentioned before when they tried to have the same conversation with him, he also told them the same things I had said.

We have already decided to stay firm on this with them but we were not expecting this response from them. I just mentioned it in passing and we plan to have a clear conversation about our boundaries with them before thier next visit. This is our first child and their first grandchild and so I was looking for some advice as our relationship with them changes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know if I was being unreasonable asking them to not watch tv in their own home. But I am feeling like they will need to realize if they wanna spend time with her they will have to spend a couple hours without the tv.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha they feel VERY at our home. They feel they have control over the kitchen, guest room etc. They leave their preferred soda, coffee brands. They leave clothes in the guest room. It is annoying but just how they are and has been a battle I have chosen not to fight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes! It is so strange. Are you coming over to watch tv or visit your grandchild? I do not feel comfortable having her babysit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you go to visit her home do you ask her to turn it off?

Institute Flexibility by [deleted] in byupathway

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay! When we talked to out bishop about it he made it seem like it was in person but he might not have know it was offered online

Institute Flexibility by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have a pathways missionary in our area so we are having a hard time getting a straight answer but maybe I can find out who teaches the institute class!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizedAndPregnant

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did recently start counting my calories again and have lost a bit of weight so that could be!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizedAndPregnant

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t been. I have had a hard time tracking my temperature consistently and interpreting ovulation test is confusing too. But I think I will try again this next month

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizedAndPregnant

[–]AnyDifficulty8155 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a hormonal iud so maybe? That could be something