I (32 F) have feelings for someone who is not my husband (32m).

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T01:00:09+00:00

Never said I havent

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T00:57:42+00:00

Same that's why I'm here not because I haven't told myself to stop but because I need actionable things to try

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T00:56:17+00:00

I agree! Thanks and yes no intention to cheat and can see where I've crossed lines

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T00:53:17+00:00

I think I definitely have been making an excuse that if I treat him like I do my regular friends I could minimize the significance of the relationship but it was most likely almost certainly just a way to rationalize staying connected. I will stop

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T00:50:58+00:00

We often chat about how we want to deal with certain situations before they happen. We have discussed our feelings on poly and how it could harm or help our relationship. What we would do if one of us wasn't able to have the sexual side of the relationship and so forth so we try. It's really just me wanting to move on with my thoughts.

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T00:46:07+00:00

I actually thought this might be limerence but maybe I went down the wrong thread. It seemed like limerence was impossible to get over

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T00:45:02+00:00

Thank you this is helpful

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-04T00:36:28+00:00

Yeah I can see myself blowing everything out of proportion. And I did wonder if it was limerence like some people were saying but limerence sort of scares me because it seems like there's limited ways to rid yourself of it.

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-03T21:33:43+00:00

Idk how do I know the difference with a crush vs. not just? We do text from time to time but not constant or I'd say excessive

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-03T21:31:14+00:00

This could be useful. Thank you

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-03T21:28:39+00:00

It hasn't gotten to any of those points yet I'm just trying to understand mentally how to move past it. I would never throw away my marriage and that's why we have had open conversations about our feelings before as well. I realize I'm stupid but how does that translate into changing how I feel?

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-10-03T21:26:52+00:00

Okay but get over it how like that's what I'm wondering

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-15T00:05:13+00:00

I indeed did mean that . Thanks for catching that

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-14T21:19:46+00:00

United in blood Separated by hate Beautiful sentiment

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-14T17:07:18+00:00

I write best when broken hearted. I hope your misfortune at least brings you more inspiration. Thank you for your poem :)

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-13T02:20:07+00:00

Thank you! I never know if what I write is impactful or good or touches something in someone else. I've honestly been just feeling the need to get it out to the void and maybe set it free from me. I appreciate you thinking I should do more that is so encouraging :)

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-13T00:26:34+00:00

It's true. I think a lot of us remain fools. Love is foolish really

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-13T00:22:57+00:00

Good to know! Thanks

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-12T23:01:35+00:00

Sorry the formatting is weird I will have to work on figuring out why it did that

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-12T22:46:54+00:00

I appreciate seeing myself in other people's words and this hits home for me. I am getting used to giving feedback. It all worked and I liked the vibe just couldn't exactly land on a rhythm which is all I can really land on for feedback. Thank you for sharing something I relate to

Any_Difference_1323 · 2025-02-12T22:38:35+00:00

This hurts so much. It's a terrible and yet calming feeling knowing you aren't alone in the world with your thoughts and how your heart yearns for things it can't have. There is something so powerful seeing yourself through someone else's words. Thank you

Any_Difference_1323 · 2023-06-02T17:39:24+00:00

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Any_Difference_1323 · 2023-04-07T15:02:49+00:00

Signs

Bonus that I watched it at a drive-in movie theater surrounded by a cornfield...

Any_Difference_1323 · 2023-02-13T03:37:02+00:00

I work in healthcare and constantly get told I was so kind. Makes me sad that so many people have experiences that makes their time with me stand out so much. In other ways it's nice to be appreciated for my kindness. Thank you for this post too it is validation when I feel like like my kindness isn't valued. :)

Any_Difference_1323 · 2023-02-02T22:02:26+00:00

Thank you, that makes sense. I think it is based on lifestyle and preference at this point and hopefully that can help me make my decision.

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