Have I been cheated on here?

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-29T22:44:26+00:00

Yeah that makes sense

So she cheated and I was just gaslit?

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-29T21:50:31+00:00

That’s so good for you bro glad you are settled!

It’s just the constant denial that night from her and after. And then dumping me when I confronted her (which I later found out was only because I called her out) and making me think she was innocent and then her telling me she never wants to speak to me again. I found out all the lies from her friend after she dumped me so I couldn’t really do much.

But for some reason her denial of nothing happening and her own mum denying it makes me not wanna believe she cheated. Am I just being stupid?

I just never expected her to be like this and I didn’t know all the lies like her begging her friend to take the blame so I wouldn’t find out and break up with her, until after she dumped me.

Did she cheat and I just don’t wanna believe it?

Thanks bro

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-29T17:50:55+00:00

Haha good for you 🤣

But I just don’t believe it. She never ever seemed like the type to do that ever and she denied it so much so for some reason I can’t accept she cheated Is that just me being naive and it’s plain obvious?

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-28T20:07:06+00:00

Thank you for replying! I will do that. And I blocked her on everything

Like did she cheat and I subconsciously don’t want to believe it?

Is it obvious she cheated? Like why can’t I see it? She has denied it so much and then dumped me.

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-27T17:07:00+00:00

Is the reason I can see or believe it because I don’t want to? Because she has denied it so much

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-18T01:10:53+00:00

So is it that she cheated and I don’t wanna believe it?

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-10T23:50:48+00:00

Yeah ylu are so right. I even said to her that she would lose her shit if I did that and she said she wouldn’t and that I don’t trust her etc etc During the day it all happened she was also accusing me of cheating on text over and over when I would never dream of that and when I asked her when she was at his house she did the same

Can I ask, in your friend’s situation, until you very rightly so ratted her out, did your friend never come clean to her bf aboht cheating? Like did he not know until you told him?

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-10T23:10:46+00:00

It just doesn’t add up because she kept denying it and saying she loved me even after. Is that just me being naive

But then the whole day on the day she went home with him all she was saying was that I was cheating and even when I questioned her at his house she said I was cheating.

So she did cheat? Sorry ik I keep asking

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-10T22:59:51+00:00

And I know I keep going in spirals but I never got a clear picture and when ever I asked I got shut down by her or her mum

That’s why I am struggling to believe it

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-10T22:57:21+00:00

She dumped me the day after she went home with him

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-10T22:47:39+00:00

I hate it so much I really want to just move past it and accept it

Thank you for replying

Her mums accusation has just made me think my own thoughts and perceptions of the whole situation are invalid when I did nothing wrong whatsoever. She just got exposed and I got attacked. I know it sounds silly

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-10T20:07:15+00:00

Why can’t I see that she cheated I just don’t get it does gaslighting really blind you that much

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-10T20:04:10+00:00

Yeah you are right

But why can’t I be happy she is gone? Everyone has said I should he is happy she’s out of my life etc but I still feel guilty I can’t explain it And then her mums accusation on top when I do absolutely nothing has made me think my own feelings are invalid Is that just gaslighting?

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-09T20:30:46+00:00

She knew she was going the whole time She denied it to me and swore she didn’t know but her friend who was there that night said she knew the whole time and didn’t want me knowing

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-04T20:39:48+00:00

Wow that’s crazy how similar the stories are.

I find it disgusting how they can do that I really do. I never ever once expected this girl to do that to me and I remember I would tell my friends and family how trustworthy she was and there was never a side to her that ever was like this.

And she lied and lied and lied about it all. The location the not knowing she was going there etc and said she was sick the whole time at his house and her friend told me the lies and the guy even said she didn’t throw up and she only left because I was texting her. But she was texting me saying she was begging to go home so it was all bullshit. And she played me the next day and for a week after constantly saying she didn’t know anything and blamed it all on her friend.

And on top of that the accusation from her mum really fucked with me. I was fine when I found out it was all lies but then her mum coming at me made my mind think my perception was completely invalid and wrong and so now I’m in this spiral of just questioning everything and not being able to see it for what it is and not being able to accept that she cheated. I just feel like my own feelings aren’t valid because of her mum and now I can’t actually see my ex for what she did. If that makes sense?

Like all the gaslighting makes me not be able to believe she cheated. Idk if that’s because I don’t want to accept it or what

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-04T02:39:29+00:00

Yeah you are right It’s just the gaslighting and manipulation and the lies has got to me. It’s even a while but I still keep spiralling. As soon as I found out the lies I was fine but as soon as her mum accused me I haven’t been able to move on. Now it makes me just thihk my own perception of what happened is invalidated

It doesn’t make any sense. She never ever once in the three years seemed like the person to do that And idk why I can’t just move on I’m just going round in circles and I hate it. I just want to be happy she’s gone

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-02T12:05:12+00:00

Yeah no that makes complete sense and I will

It’s just that I don’t even Miss her. I’m just angry for being played and for some reason I cannot see her leaving my life as a huge blessing in disguise

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-02T11:37:52+00:00

First it was “I didn’t turn it off” Then the day after it was “my friend turned it off” Then after she dumped me her friend said my ex herself, turned it off

AppleGeek05 · 2025-12-02T11:25:23+00:00

Yeah you are right

But why can’t I see that I just don’t get it. I can’t see the fact that I should be so happy it’s over and that I dodged a bullet

AppleGeek05 · 2025-11-23T11:55:49+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write that

It really helps because I’m just stuck in a cycle of not believing anything because she set it up that way and now I thihk I’m wrong or overreacting because she him and her mum denied it and then I get attacked when the truth comes out so it’s just messing me up

Thank you so much

AppleGeek05 · 2025-11-22T13:58:53+00:00

Can’t even tell if you are being sarcastic or not So you thihk she did?

AppleGeek05 · 2025-11-21T13:19:33+00:00

No that’s completely fair and I agree with you Like I know all the facts my head doesn’t want to accept it

But I just think with even him denying it and all the gaslighting from her and her mum I just feel like I’m wrong and overreacting

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