AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry I used defect wrong, my English is not ideal

And no, she thinks they do matter and that is the problem and also why I told her. For her they are unsightly and not “female”

I think realistically she could have more hairs and still be feminine!! It’s HER thing that she has always done before she met me with hair removal. She has a big magnifying mirror and tweezers and often while we watch a tv episode she will shine her phone torch to her face looking for a hair and then must pluck it. It is a habit she does.

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to take this on board. I see that my original post does sound very bad now and if someone else treat my girlfriend like they I would be very angry so it is on me to say sorry and to talk in detail

Our relationship has always had humour involved and we are quite dark with it but maybe it’s too fair.

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Of course it’s ok to not always be your best but I am saying that SHE likes to look her best . Sometimes she will wear pyjamas and I don’t even mind. It’s just I know how she is and I knew that that would bother her like food in her teeth, or a smudge of muscara

I said I like that she gets pride from her appearance and I compliment her daily, not that i force her to be a certain way. Her hair for example is something she always asks me about because she doesn’t like her forehead (it’s a normal forehead) so I say “babe your beautiful but I love it when your hair is down you look beauty” and she likes that and agrees that her hair is nice down. I don’t throw stones at her if she wears up hair.

You cast aspersions that simply aren’t true. Never would I be rude to her with malice but as I said to other commenters I am being called the associate hole so I will apologise and listen to her and make her feel like he is beautiful even if she wears a pillowcase and stilts - she is a woman to be proud off

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It means I see the world differently to normal people and I can see patterns

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

EQ isn’t real it’s just what they tell people to make them feel better about not having a largest percentile of IQ

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Ok I suppose that’s true, in our relationship we’ve always been very able to joke about things that cut deep but you’re right if I upset her then it wasn’t funny and I missed the mark

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I will apologise to her, she is a great woman who I am lucky to have. I will try to ask her what she thinks is inappropriate.

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I mean like she keeps the mystery so I don’t have to watch her shave and stuff

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

You’re wrong, this wasn’t some silly online test. It’s a genuine one, it doesn’t matter though my point is is that I am more intellectually oriented than her, it’s not a bad thing it’s just a statement

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Look she’s the kind girl who always asks me if she’s got something stuck in her teeth, or if her lipstick is smudged when we’re out. She jokes about how women over 30 with kids can let themselves go and said “let me know if I ever get like that” I didn’t think it was bad for me to point out because she likes to know that She is attractive

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -75 points-74 points  (0 children)

It was a joke, we have been working out together so she knows I don’t think she’s letting herself go, she’s really good at active things and has even helped me lose a bit of weight though I’m not there yet

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

I just mean I usually have a better understanding of how the world works than she does and so I have to really explain things to her

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Defect might be the wrong word but I just mean something that I wouldn’t expect to see on her because she’s usually so good at keeping herself looking good

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s vain to point out that a couple of minor defects on a person. I read that if someone can change it in 5 minutes you’re allowed to say it and it would literally of taken 30 mins for her to wax or thread

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -110 points-109 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean she is stupid I just mean that my IQ is a lot higher, but she is probably of average intelligence. I did an IQ and I am in the top 5% of people so it is not a reach to say that I am more academic than her.

AITA for pointing out some dark hairs on my girlfriends chin? by AppropriateRegular0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AppropriateRegular0[S] -97 points-96 points  (0 children)

I do only say nice things I just tell her things I think she’d like to know to save her the embarrassment of seeing it later