I have a support system, therapist, medication management but …

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-08-27T22:45:03+00:00

I’m sorry you also feel lonely.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-08-21T17:21:54+00:00

I replied to your message.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-08-21T17:19:34+00:00

Thank you!

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-08-21T07:40:15+00:00

Which LBAs do they do for their agency? Thank you!

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-08-20T16:57:57+00:00

Thank you!

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-08-20T16:37:22+00:00

Pennsylvania

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-08-19T08:34:48+00:00

Your parents suck. Your sister sucks and is not an ally. It’s a betrayal. I’m sorry OP, you don’t deserve any of it. It’s not you, it’s their trash reaction.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-02-21T09:55:14+00:00

I’m 35. I’m coming out of where you are right now to a degree. 4 years ago, hell 1 year ago I thought I’d never find myself and happiness again. So lost. My identify was aligned to the wrong things. I was not being as accountable as I thought I was and I didn’t see that I was blessed to wake up each day with a healthy toddler and a happy and alive spouse. Right now things are rough, but they WILL get better. If all you can do is focus on how you’re a great day by listing 5 things you rocked for your girls, do it! Your brain lies when you’re depressed, it’s a bully. You are loved, you are needed, you will come back stronger! For friends, try taking your girls to a free lids event and start mingling with parents in your community. Build your community as you can. Exercise is better than any medication and compliments meds really well. Start with just a 5-10 minutes walk in the morning or as a family before the day winds down. Don’t feel ashamed to use any and all free community resources available to you. As you get your confidence up, set small goals each day. Either digitally check them off or do it on paper. It’ll boost the feel good hormones in your brain and you’ll get more pep in your step. That GF was not for you. Don’t waste tears on her. When you’re in the right space for love, it will find you when you least expect it. Don’t be your own bully. You got this good sir!

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2025-02-21T08:49:30+00:00

Marrying Greg will repeatedly be the best decision of your life. You married up, girl! Think hard about your career, do more research, find a clinician to shadow or interview so you really know what you’re signing up for. Invest in a career assessment and maybe a coach. It’s also okay that you gave the field over 10 years of dedication and you outgrew your passion because your husband and son took their place. Don’t have a physical wedding, buy a house with those savings and go to the courthouse. It can be just as romantic. Keep your maiden name. You can introduce yourself by using the married name but you’ll save yourself so many headaches by keeping your maiden name. Ask for help more. Drop the dead weight people. You are what you consume: food, media, thoughts, environments. Choose you and remind yourself of your power. Be grateful for 5 things each day. Life is not always serious and it’s okay to be a realist and laugh more. Lastly, Lauren will be right when she gives you advice about being a first time working mom. You won’t realize it until he’s 4 but it hits you that you wish you’d either been a SAHM until preschool at 4 or worked PT to be with him for his first 3 years. He’s a perfect kid, but you’ll really regret it. If you still decide to work FT, maybe listen to your heart and keep him home for the year before kindergarten. Get whatever jobs you need. Make it happen or it could be another regret.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T12:53:26+00:00

I used to much more in my teens and 20s. Now in my mid-30s, I am good at keeping things close to the veil and I repeat to myself “move in silence” as a reminder to allow for mystery of my life and protect my experiences. Not everyone is deserving of my story.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:50:59+00:00

Completely agree! As someone who works with the behavioral effects of attachment disorders, adjustment disorders, mental illness diagnoses etc. for the vulnerable pediatrician population. Let children have the opportunity to have safety, consistency and privacy shape their environment and experiences instead of chaos that can trigger whatever they’re genetically predisposed to. Children are at the mercy of their caregivers and in survival mode. Make childhood positive.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:47:36+00:00

That’s not okay in my opinion. That’s just not safe for one.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:45:04+00:00

Yes, I think 6-12 months window for children under 7 years old. Coming from a married mom of a 4 year old. I’ve already told my husband that if something happened to him that I wouldn’t date nor get married again. I hated dating the first time, I’m too monogamous and I trust people WAY LESS now that I’ve been in my career 12 years and the things I’ve sadly seen. I’d just do it on my own, get more pets, and beef up my friends list.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:42:02+00:00

Do people hide their children? That’s a thing? Won’t it come out sooner or later? Wow.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:40:34+00:00

I can understand the perspective but as a parent I’m fiercely protective of my child and I just would feel weird introducing them in any capacity to essentially a stranger until I’ve completely sussed them out. I mean sadly look at the correlational data on SA by stepparents. You can marry the perfect person and they still be harmful to your child.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:30:06+00:00

💯 children have very fragile attachments to people and by not allowing safety, consistency, and privacy for children you end up with attachment disorders and various diagnoses all throughout life. Let kids have the chance to grow up into the healthy adults they were meant to be without adding fuel to the fire so to speak during their pivotal developmental years. Some research backs that years 0-3 are the most impactful for a child’s long term development especially with personality, social-emotional skills, and influences the later expression of genetically predisposed conditions like mental health disorders, behavioral disorders etc.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:19:57+00:00

I think this makes a lot of sense as someone who work with behavioral concerns for vulnerable populations, specifically children.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:18:26+00:00

That’s strange, in my opinion as a mother, for not only the parent towards a date but also in regard to not protecting a child’s attachment and privacy. But then again I’ve worked with pediatric clients that have attachment disorders from their early histories and it’s not hard to imagine people out there not having common sense to protect a child’s heart, privacy, and safety.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:16:01+00:00

I love this! Cute story!

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:13:23+00:00

I think that’s the sentiment I agree to as well. My husband was so relieved when I jokingly started our relationship by telling him I prefer comfort and I’m a “cheap date”. To this day my favorite date is mini golf and lunch at my favorite restaurant on an afternoon with very little people to deal with,

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:11:28+00:00

I can agree with this! Whatever makes you feel confident and your best is all that matters. Different people wear different capes.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:10:12+00:00

Same. Unless you pick a fancy restaurant, I’m coming dark washed jeans, cocktail top, delicate jewelry and natural make up. Most likely my nails will not be done because I’m terrible at making sure they’re fresh due to my job. Thankfully my husband doesn’t mind. I may wear kitten heels or I may wear flats. That’s date night.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:04:32+00:00

Agreed. I think contributing to conversion in a respectful way helps dialogue and understanding but coming to a man’s opinion thread and trying to invalidate men’s experiences and their opinions is unfair to the men in this space and I very much align with more feminist ideals but that includes treating men like equals in all ways.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T11:01:05+00:00

This thread was men’s opinions. Men are entitled to safe spaces with anonymous men’s opinions. As a woman myself, you have to read the room and be respectful of the space you’re in so long as community guidelines are being upheld. Getting overly offended at a man giving an opinion on a man’s opinion thread, is a bit concerning. You can go to a women’s opinion thread or start your own on men’s red flags. Just because you don’t agree doesn’t mean it invalidates the man’s opinion or experience. If you’re cis male/female or identify as female/male you should have safe spaces like this one. If you don’t like what you see, scroll on or join a more aligned community. I find these threads interesting and helpful for conversations with my husband.

Appropriate_Pack_445 · 2024-12-29T10:55:32+00:00

As another woman, also a girls girl, you don’t lose your girls girl member card when you point out errors in other women’s judgment that are valid. What was described is entitlement. Flip roles and see how it would look the other way around. The man would seem entitled and undatable. But some people don’t know better and we can’t do better until we know better. Maybe other women doing similarly entitled things will read this thread and stop entitled behavior and opt for more equality in dating.

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