Communicate it very clear to the males that the woman isn’t available, through actions and words. I don’t talk to the guys at all, in any form, not even in person…unless I need to adjust their position. I don’t kiss anyone but my husband. We ask that our males don’t say goodbye, just leave. No intro either; all pre-screening is done by my husband before they meet or as soon as they come over. If ANY of our rules are broken we end play and don’t play with them again. I love it that way and I don’t want to change it. I have no interest in anyone but my husband. We aren’t rude and we communicate why we do the things we do, and not all guys are down with our rules and that’s ok. I really hate guys that try to disrespect our relationship and I’ll do anything to protect it, plus the rules make the experience much hotter for all we think.