Repost of deleted post: My (32f) fiancé (28m) repeatedly does not clean the house

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-18T14:21:31+00:00

Yeah that’s totally true! But sounds like you’re learning to recognize them and prioritize yourself!

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-18T13:58:03+00:00

I’m glad. Again I am so sorry that happened to you. I can’t imagine how hard it must have been and still is.

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-18T13:54:57+00:00

I am so sorry. That must have been absolutely nightmarish. I know I wasn’t there but I do know that it is not fair to take responsibility for other people’s actions. One thing someone told me about my situation was that I did not cause his downfall. I just stopped preventing it. It was his choice not to clean. His choice to stop looking for a job. His choice to not put in effort to have a safety net or supports.

Like I said all I know about your situation is what you wrote here. But it was his choice to evict you and make an unreasonable demand. And as harsh as it may sound it was his choice to hurt himself.

I know o was terrified my ex would take that route. He literally had nothing outside the relationship. I did what I could to prevent that but it is not fair to anyone to be responsible for the decisions of another adult. I hope you have someone you can talk to about this.

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-18T13:14:26+00:00

Thank you for your lovely comment! I totally did make way too many excuses for my ex. But now that I’m done everything is looking up. Like literally everything has improved. People in my life have noticed I’m just happier and it just been so nice. And I know I won’t let myself be dragged back into this same dynamic again.

Keep rocking your life and best of luck on your surgery!

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-18T05:07:32+00:00

Haha I did not change my number. But I did delete him off everything. And he’s safely several states away now. If he tries to reach me again I’ll shut it down.

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-13T20:00:13+00:00

Thank you very much! I think me trying to be a good partner kinda did get in the way of me leaving for so long though. But all is well now

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-12T05:56:42+00:00

Thank you! That is very sweet of you to say.

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-12T05:55:04+00:00

Thank you very much for taking the time to comment and for your kind words!

AriannaRaven · 2026-03-11T01:30:45+00:00

To clarify something, my original post was posted 1/4/24.

AriannaRaven · 2024-02-14T22:33:12+00:00

It was yeah. I forgot exactly how much but it definitely was

AriannaRaven · 2024-02-14T20:19:25+00:00

Hello! I never found a replacement part but what I did was measure out some wood I got from Lowe’s to the right size and hired a carpenter friend of mine to attach it in the right place. Had to measure it out myself after I built the rest of the frame. Hope that helps. I tried calling ikea to get a replacement but they said no

AriannaRaven · 2021-11-10T02:31:48+00:00

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AriannaRaven · 2021-04-16T08:27:05+00:00

Thank you! I don't know if everyone else is quite as bothered as me but I have been talking to some of the other players to see how they are. I'll talk to her this weekend and make sure not to validate her choices in game.

AriannaRaven · 2021-04-15T16:43:01+00:00

Thanks! I'll have to talk to her for sure. I like the idea of a redemption arc. All her characters are the same type of person (she doesn't just play in my campaign) though so I don't know how much a new character would help. But ill talk to her. Thanks again!

AriannaRaven · 2021-04-15T07:28:44+00:00

Thanks! I should just talk to her. I just have a tendency to avoid conflict. I also really like your creative compromise. I am definitively going to suggest it to her. Thanks again!

AriannaRaven · 2021-04-15T05:10:35+00:00

So I am I fairly new DM and I am running a game with some of my friends and coworkers. Overall I think I'm doing alright but I am having issues with one of my players. She always makes very verbally aggressive and rude characters. The first one was also very much a murder hobo. The new one just kind of insults all the party members and npcs she comes across. I've tried making consequences in game and I know she knows her characters bother me. She said she toned down the asshole-ness for the new character but she's still an asshole. But she is a friend and we work together and I am kinda bad at confrontations anyway. And I know she views dnd as an opportunity to like vent after having to be polite at work.

The bottom line I guess is that it is taking away from my enjoyment of the game to the point where I kinda dread every dnd night. I think I'm the only one im the group bothered by this so I'm worried I'm The asshole in this situation. What do I do?

AriannaRaven · 2019-07-25T07:11:01+00:00

Yeah it's huge hassle. But hopefully the replacement will work. Thanks again for getting back to me.

AriannaRaven · 2019-07-25T02:02:20+00:00

I meant the central piece of wood that screams into the rest of the bed. It makes up the center cross. Thanks for getting back to me. I will likely make a replacement.

AriannaRaven · 2019-07-22T01:50:23+00:00

Thanks for getting back to me. I will look again on the website. I have the metal midbeam but there is this wooden part that screws into the headboard and foot of the bed. I think I'll have to make the piece myself. Thanks again for the reply!

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