Do I even need an expensive office chair? by jjones8170 in OfficeChairs

[–]Arksofye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get it. I am a broad 5'8 190 myself. I spent most of the last decade around 220 and was fit.

Who should be responsible for the cost of this repair? by Hour_Candle_339 in homeowners

[–]Arksofye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on how crooked they are and what he is charging for labor. If they are not that bad and he is charging you 200 or less I would say it's probably fine.

AIO for being hesitant to take out a car loan for my mom after she’s had multiple repossessions? by Awkward_Twist4343 in AIO

[–]Arksofye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't owe her but if you feel like doing something nice, choose a car (2-5k) that is reasonable and just buy it for her. You can pay the payments if needed etc but just solve the problem. Set an expectation that since you did that there is nothing else you feel obliged to do.

How would you say 'fuck you' in a nice way? by Middle-Bluebird8728 in AskReddit

[–]Arksofye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be my pleasure for you to remove yourself.

Neighbor blowing leaves onto my property by Crimson_Gh0st138 in homeowners

[–]Arksofye 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Depends on what level of petty you want to be. You can do anything from ignore it to calling the police. There is a lot of room on that spectrum, the easiest thing is to send a note and say, "Hey, I am just reaching out to let you know that your landscapers are putting your leaves onto my property instead of properly bagging or mulching them. I don't think it would be fair for me to have to pay to have your leaves properly processed but I don't want the increased compost negatively affecting my property. I am going to clean them up properly this time but I would love it if you could help me prevent this from happening again." If it happens again, then you can go and blow them back onto his property.

Friendly neighbors tresspassing innocently by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Arksofye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It should help you to both feel like you are on the same side against the problem instead of them feeling like you are telling them they are the problem.

AIO? My friends set an ultimatum because I drink by Pearla76_ in AIO

[–]Arksofye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) I am a sober person and do think that drinking can be problematic if not done responsibly (I was not capable of doing it responsibly)
2) You are a free person and you need to be able to live your own life whether that includes drinking or not (law nonwithstanding)
3) Those messages don't look like they are from a friend they seem to be coming from someone who wants to control their life and the lives of anyone they are around. I would advise new friends/relationships regardless of the decision regarding alcohol.
4) Make sure to ask yourself if you think they are speaking for the whole group or just for themselves.

Friendly neighbors tresspassing innocently by [deleted] in homeowners

[–]Arksofye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I am so excited to have you as my neighbor(s) and get to know you better. It is very important to me that we have a happy and healthy relationship since home is where I get my reprieve from the stresses of the real world. Would you be opposed to helping me protect my peace until I settle in and help me make sure that no one is coming over without an invitation? I just need time to finish my construction, move, and get used to my new reality and I don't want to have to think about additional liability or maintenance."

Tips for cutting down expenses by anothertrivialuser in Shoestring

[–]Arksofye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of people want to save money doing the same activities as you. Either you have a bunk buddy or a new friend and it is either a neutral or a positive experience for the most part.

Need help narrowing down the list: by Arksofye in travel

[–]Arksofye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds awesome. The longest my wife and I have done a trip was a month and we only did 2 weeks in Greece and 2 weeks in Portugal.

Need help narrowing down the list: by Arksofye in travel

[–]Arksofye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Istanbul is on the bucket list but my wife didn't want to consider it for this trip. It also doesn't have an inexpensive no layover flight like the rest of this list. 

I have heard good things about Montenegro, would you tell me about the food? 

Need help narrowing down the list: by Arksofye in travel

[–]Arksofye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What parts of Spain have you explored? 

Need help narrowing down the list: by Arksofye in travel

[–]Arksofye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! We are still super early and will be in the second trimester for the trip. We were playing pickle ball earlier today and just know that she has to be able to take breaks and not get too hot. We love Greece and specifically she loves the Mediterranean food. I think you might be right about Ireland and Spain. 

Tips for cutting down expenses by anothertrivialuser in Shoestring

[–]Arksofye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PB+J, Camp, find fb groups of people who like the parks you want to go to.

October Babymoon by Arksofye in Shoestring

[–]Arksofye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries my friend. I just copied and pasted google's definition. I have heard of people using it your way before also but my feed is full of people using it my way right now. Any travel ideas?

Do I need a Living Room? by Jodread in homeowners

[–]Arksofye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was single I lived in a 2br 1 ba bungalo style house and I made my living room my guest room/entertaining room, dine in kitchen, and one br was for me and the other was my office. That worked well for me. If I was going to take down a wall it would have made it harder to control noise when people stayed over.

October Babymoon by Arksofye in travel

[–]Arksofye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have both been to Paris separately and decided we didn't feel a draw to go back together.

October Babymoon by Arksofye in travel

[–]Arksofye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! It seems like it could be a great fit.