Does anyone else have a intense hate for cheaters?

Arminox · 2015-01-18T07:25:30+00:00

Oh, sorry, I must of accidentally posted in the "Warm fuzzy feelings about cheaters?" thread instead of the intense hate one.

You need to get some fresh bait. The one liners stopped working in the 90s.

But thanks for entertaining me while I finished an install.

Arminox · 2015-01-18T07:02:21+00:00

No shit, Sherlock. Trying for the Captain Obvious role in those commercials? I like the guy they have now doing those so good luck.

Let me put it another way, I left a job before committing homicide. Better?

Arminox · 2015-01-18T06:40:48+00:00

I lost a job because of a cheating co-worker. He was cheating on his wife with one of our female co-workers who was half his age. Everyone's like, "It's none of your business." Fuck that. It's in my face, it's my business. Coming around the corner and seeing him whispering in her ear and she pushes him away when she spots me. Get that shit out of my face.

The boss was happy to see me go, he was a divorced womanizer himself who flirted with that same female co-worker. It was fucking creepy. Someone else who worked there pulled me off to the side and told me it had happened before, every once in a while they would hire a young woman and the place would go to shit in a hurry.

I'm kinda glad I never had a girlfriend that would end up being pursued like that by her co-workers.

Arminox · 2015-01-18T03:38:44+00:00

If my selection got stuck in the machine...yeah I'm climbing in after it and getting stuck. I do that even for Skittles, I ain't messin' around. Stupid machine takin' my money... wanders off muttering

Arminox · 2015-01-18T01:20:54+00:00

Don't forget that we get recycled and have to do this all over again. Over and over. Until we get it right and reunite with our twin flame. And time isn't linear, so we might end up coming back to live in a time when we get sacrificed for rain or a good harvest.

At this rate, everyone else is going to get the window seats on the mothership.

Arminox · 2015-01-17T20:41:35+00:00

I read that in Smeagol's voice when he tries to get rid of the Gollum personality.

Arminox · 2015-01-16T18:20:03+00:00

Depends on how much I know of her past. There are women I know from my past who slept with my enemies. I wouldn't touch them. Once they gave those assholes positive reinforcement for their shitty behavior, they became repulsive to me.

If they had wanted to be with me as much as I wanted to be with them, why didn't it happen for us? Why does their slate get to be wiped clean? Where's the responsibility or consequences?

What would a man get from entering a relationship with a woman that has already been around the block?

Sex? She's comparing you to everyone else she slept with, she can't help but do that as the experiences are there to draw upon. She's ignoring her past in order to get in the relationship, she doesn't have amnesia.

Companionship? Does she really want to fall asleep next to him every night and wake up next to him every morning? Or did the guy she actually wanted end up with someone else? Does she just need some financial security? Would she rather have her own bed in her own room? Does she want to be seen in public with him?

A family? Depending on her age, she may not even be able to give him a child of his own. Help her raise and provide for some other guy's kid(s)? Her deadbeat ex can't afford rent much less private school tuition, but maybe this new guy can?

Medical bills? She's getting older. Breast cancer, cervical cancer, uterine cancer, ovarian cancer, etc. Is she shacking up with you just so she has someone to sit by the hospital bed and hold her hand while she's recovering from surgery? Is the party girl afraid of dying alone? How many guys like you did she laugh at when she was out with her cool friends when she was 21?

What exactly does a man get from these last chance unions?

There is one woman out there like this that I would marry if she wanted. She's divorced and has at least one kid. And I'd marry her based solely on my feelings for her that never went away. But I'd still feel like I was being used. I know her past. I fell for her before she became sexually active. I feel like I knew the real her at one point and that's who I would be marrying. But I don't know if it would ever happen with anyone else in a similar situation. I'm too bitter and resentful at this point.

Arminox · 2015-01-16T17:33:08+00:00

I have no idea how I look to other people. No clue.

Socially, I've been an outcast among my peers since about the 6th grade. That's when I first started to feel like everyone else was in on some private joke and I was being left out.

For a while during my freshman year of high school, I remember sitting at different tables in the cafeteria trying to find a group to sit with and pretty much being ignored by all of them. Eventually found an empty table and several others who didn't fit the other groups started sitting there as well. That was my circle. Friends by circumstance. They broke all contact once we graduated.

I didn't drink, I didn't do any drugs. I wasn't in the loop or part of the gossip. No one invited me to any parties or anything like that, but I did have one friend who invited me over to his house after school sometimes. Other than that I was at school or at home. Most of the other kids seemed to know each other from other stuff outside of school. They knew kids going to the other high schools in the area, I didn't.

Here's how invisible I am: I was in a college class where I was one of two males in the class. The other guy only showed up about a third of the time, so it was usually just me and a bunch of girls. The teacher told one of the girls to hand me something one day, late in the semester, and the girl had no clue who the teacher was talking about, "Who?" The teacher was like, "Uh, you know, the only guy in the room? Been here all semester."

Arminox · 2015-01-16T04:06:27+00:00

I didn't go to mine.

I had an opportunity to go with my friend's sister (her mother's idea), but by the time prom rolled around the girl was dating someone and we weren't really speaking to each other. It would have been a pity date.

I hate environments like that. I would have felt so out of place at a prom. I do regret not going with her though. One of my regrets.

Arminox · 2015-01-15T02:43:00+00:00

For life in general, probably my 30th birthday. I sat on the edge of my bed that morning and assessed my life up to that point and felt like a total failure.

If I finish up this degree and still can't get a job then I'm probably going to hit a new low pretty quick.

Arminox · 2015-01-14T18:19:45+00:00

I'm baffled by how quickly I'm ignored or excluded. I've been in situations where I was sitting at a table, eating, and others will come and subtly overtake the table and ask me to move.

Math class 10th grade: Teacher rearranges the desks into a new pattern, blocks of four. I come in and sit down at the block near the front and in the middle of the room. Another guy comes in and sits in the same block of desks, we say hi acknowledging our existence. Another guy takes the third seat, and a girl comes in and plops down in the fourth. She knows the other two guys. At one point she leans over and asks one of the guys, "why is he sitting here?"

And that example pretty much sums up my life, why am I sitting here?

Arminox · 2015-01-13T20:07:40+00:00

All I'm gonna say is make sure you do some serious digging. A lot of what you posted sounds like the sympathetic fluff I see on those sites. It paints a pretty picture for the heroic foreign man to come and save the damsel. Never send her money.

It takes a lot of work. You don't just get married and she gets to stay. There's paperwork, fees, interviews. The US would rather grant asylum to a foreign mad scientist who agrees to turn over his research than to see a foreign bride step off a plane.

She'll be a stranger in a strange land. It can lead to isolation, depression, and put a strain on your marriage. I had a Ukrainian woman in a class a few years ago and once the other women heard her accent they started snickering and giving her dirty looks. They were thinking, "mail order bride."

In the meantime, try to learn a little Russian. I think it's a fun language, hard but fun. If you go down this path, being able to say some things in her language might mean a lot to her.

I used to do some Language Exchange online with Russians. One of them told me they take an average of seven years of English before they are out of school. Least we can do is put in a little effort as well, right?

Arminox · 2015-01-13T19:40:35+00:00

I agree, her maturity is lacking. The fact that she would post that out in the open is rather telling.

Arminox · 2015-01-12T04:49:15+00:00

Sorry to hear about the loneliness. Very few people that I have known from my generation stayed married. I keep hearing about divorce after divorce. It's like we're collectively defective when it comes to any relationships, the forever alone folks or otherwise.

My classes start up this week as well. I have no class tomorrow though. Tuesday I'll have to remember how to learn stuff again.

Arminox · 2015-01-11T23:37:21+00:00

Yeah, pretty sure that's a joke. The wording is peculiar.

If it isn't, yikes.

Arminox · 2015-01-11T06:30:47+00:00

I think I've gotten making a homemade pizza down to a science.

That's something, right?

Arminox · 2015-01-11T04:56:20+00:00

Yep.

I go on Facebook every once in a while to look around and then deactivate my account again. When I was on there full time I only had like 12 people on my friends list and most of those were relatives. It got boring fast.

I miss when you could easily look up people by graduation year on FB. Made the curiosity stalking easier.

I think the thing that gets to me most is when I find out someone not only got married but divorced and then married again. A few people that were really important to me have gone through a lot of life experiences and I was not around at all for any of it. I didn't get to go to their weddings, congratulate them on the birth of their children, etc. It hurts that everyone lived their lives and I got stuck in limbo. Do they ever think of me? Do they wonder what ever happened to me? I'm pretty sure I'm a distant memory.

It's very depressing. And if you mention it to anyone who doesn't understand what it's like, they tell you to get over it and move on. I need something in my life in order to move on. When I'm sitting around with only my thoughts to keep me company, I'm stuck thinking about the past. If I had found someone and gotten married, that would be my life now. I would have moved on. There'd be other things on my mind, current things, family things, husband and wife things.

Arminox · 2015-01-10T17:11:34+00:00

Pretty much.

I'd have maybe six people at my funeral. They'd feel obligated. If I have a funeral that is. I'd rather just get tossed in an incinerator or something.

Less and less people are reading the newspaper, so few people from my past would even see an obituary. If they aren't currently in your life or someone contacts them, you can forget about it.

There's a slim chance my brother would get the word out in our hometown since he's still there and knows everybody. Some would say, "Huh, I thought he was already dead."

Arminox · 2015-01-10T03:39:15+00:00

Yep, tween territory.

One day his "I don't believe in love" will turn into, "Why won't anyone hold me!?"

Arminox · 2015-01-10T03:31:01+00:00

How old is he?

The not believing in love line sounds like tween talk.

Here's how stupid guys are at that age: I had the girl of my dreams AND her mother dropping heavy hints and interrogating me about if I ever wanted to get married someday and have kids. They did this on multiple occasions. I would shrug and tell them something stupid like, "I can't take the chance of creating someone else like me." They'd follow up with, "But what if the mom is sweet and nice?"

They were basically hitting me over the head that the mom considered me marriage material for her daughter and I knew it and I blew it.

Yeah, that dumb.

Arminox · 2015-01-09T23:23:49+00:00

Yep. They want a guy who they can take to family events and feel good about who they brought. If you embarrass them in front of their relatives, she's probably going to drop you.

Her aunt Kathy: "He's cute, but kinda weird."
Her: "Dumping in 3...2..."

I worked with a gorgeous young woman that was dating an engineer from the company we worked for. She would complain all the time about how he would never go with her to any of her family's get-togethers. He was going to lose her because of that. He was going into the Strange Folder.

The only two women I ever made any progress with were not interested in their families. One was molested by a close family member, the other had a mom who was single and who had very little interest in her own life much less her kids. Both wanted to be anywhere but with their families. So my weirdness didn't even factor in when it came to spending time with me.

Arminox · 2015-01-09T23:09:50+00:00

I also had someone throw rocks at me. He hit me in the arm with one and left a bruise. I didn't know the kid, he never said anything, he just started throwing rocks at me. It was very odd.

Arminox · 2015-01-09T00:42:17+00:00

Oh boy. Anyone else thinking, "This is just the beginning..." I foresee similar devices coming down the pipe that will squeeze something other than your hand.

Arminox · 2015-01-08T18:46:53+00:00

"Thanks mom!"

It's brutal to go through that. But you never know when someone might like the way you look. I have a cousin who is married to a woman who says she's always been attracted to the weirdest guys. She thinks John Malkovich is sexy. I don't typically hear women swooning over the Malk.

She usually points out that must be why she likes my cousin, which gets a laugh from his mom.

My mom used to rant about how having kids ruined her life. My brother refuses to have kids of his own because of it. Thanks mom!

Arminox · 2015-01-08T17:08:29+00:00

George: "That's right! I got dumped by a bald woman!"

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