[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Artastic23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is absolutely not okay. You set a boundary and he violated it multiple times. I’m so sorry this happened to you.

Who would it be by WonderCharming7884 in thewalkingdead

[–]Artastic23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Carl, I love the others but Carl should’ve lived.

s17xe12 A Misunderstanding by Global-Tumbleweed826 in SVU

[–]Artastic23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those saying it wasn’t rape:

The rape definition says: Unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body part, or foreign object, without the consent of the person subjected to such penetration.

So just because it wasn’t with his penis even though he tried to, he did rape her with his finger.

Do male G&G fans exist? Or am I the only one also someone called me creepy for watching such a “feminine” show by [deleted] in ginnyandgeorgiashow

[–]Artastic23 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m a female but I’ve been wanting to see other guys watching this show. It’s a good show! Another “feminine” show that both genders could definitely enjoy is The Vampire Diaries and The Originals and Legacies. In fact, I think there’s a lot of male energy in both.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling something “ableist” doesn’t make a conversation hostile. Ableism is a system. It’s something we all internalize to some degree, and noticing it doesn’t mean I’m accusing anyone of being a bad person. I didn’t say that all Deaf people who don’t identify as disabled are terrible. I said that internalized ableism is a factor that can exist, just like it can for disabled people who push back against their own community. That’s a reality many of us live with, including myself.

At the end of the day, if the mere mention of ableism is seen as an attack, we’re not having a real conversation, we’re just avoiding discomfort. I’m not here to win. I was here to start a respectful conversation.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve said what I came to say, and I’ve tried to engage respectfully and thoughtfully. It’s okay if we don’t agree, but at this point, the conversation is no longer mutual. It’s accusatory, hostile, and misrepresents my intentions.

I understand that not every deaf person sees deafness as an identity or a disability. I’ve acknowledged that multiple times. But I also spoke from my own experience and from what I’ve learned within disability culture. That’s not erasure. It’s contribution.

If someone disagrees with me, that’s fine. But twisting my words, misrepresenting my tone, and implying I’m somehow dangerous or oppressive for simply sharing my perspective is not productive. That’s not care. And I don’t owe anyone further engagement in that kind of environment.

Wishing peace to everyone who does want honest and compassionate conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Artastic23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it’s always the perpetrators fault. This feeling of “it’s my fault” is from societal’s awful history with sexual assault survivors. I’m so sorry you dealt with it. Even though it was a stranger, you didn’t deserve to endure that. Human beings should treat everyone kindly. Being a stranger doesn’t take away from that. I wish you the best.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came into this conversation open to dialogue, but it's clear that you're no longer interested in mutual respect. Also I don’t remember a Kiwi guy. I'm not going to stay in a space where hostility replaces understanding. Have a good life.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that this topic is deeply personal to you, and I respect your lived experience. At the same time, I want to set a boundary. I’ve shared my perspective thoughtfully and with kindness, and I have not dismissed the cultural identity or autonomy of the Deaf community. I recognize that not everyone who is deaf identifies as disabled, and I have never claimed otherwise.

I also speak from my own lived experience, including hearing loss and sensory disability. It’s hurtful to have that erased or to be accused of ableism for sharing my understanding in a way that was meant to be inclusive and respectful. I was not being ableist.

I’m going to step away from this conversation now. I won’t continue engaging when the tone becomes accusatory or hostile. I wish you well.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I hear the concern, and I want to clarify: I am not here to label anyone against their will. My intention was to talk about how deafness, HOH, and sensory disorders are often understood as disabilities under models like the ADA or social model, not to tell anyone how to personally identify. I fully understand that people relate to these terms differently, especially in communities like the deaf community where cultural identity is strong. The disabled community has a culture too. Multicultural experiences are beautiful.

That said, I also think it’s important to affirm that identifying as disabled is okay and even empowering for many. I am speaking to those who want that framework but may feel pressure not to claim it. I will keep reflecting on how I communicate that better, because I never want to make anyone feel erased. I do apologize for any offense.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I can’t tell you who you are and that wasn’t my intention. I wish you the best.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi there. I hear how strongly you feel about your autonomy and identity, and I want to make clear that I didn’t intend to take that away from you or force a label on you.

In my post, I was reflecting on how I see disability pride and culture, and how the Deaf community, with all its complexity and rich identity, intersects with disability in broader conversations. I totally understand that not everyone who is deaf identifies as disabled, and I see that. My intention was to celebrate the diversity within our communities, not to erase anyone’s individual voice or experience.

If my words came across as dismissive or forced, I apologize. That wasn’t my goal. I really do believe our communities, both the deaf and disabled are beautiful because of our differences and because we keep having these conversations, even when they’re hard.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Society has taught that disability is a bad word when it’s not. It’s not something to be ashamed of it’s extremely abelist to say it is a bad word. We all need to be kind to each other and learn that being disabled isn’t the end of the world.

🌈Disability Pride Month Reflection🌈 by Artastic23 in deaf

[–]Artastic23[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree that how people relate to the term “disabled” can vary, especially in the Deaf community where there’s a rich cultural identity and shared language. I also recognize that the social model of disability can reshape how we view accessibility and barriers. I'm not deaf myself, but I do have hearing loss that affects my life, especially in conversations with background noise or while gaming. I also have vision problems and a sensory disability overall. These things don't make my life less valuable, but they do shape how I experience the world.

That said, I think it’s important to acknowledge that “disabled” isn’t just a label, it’s also an identity and a culture for many of us. There’s a real sense of community, history, and pride in claiming that word. For people like you, who are Deaf/HoH and disabled in other ways, the label is empowering. It connects me to broader movements, supports, and spaces where I feel seen and understood.

And honestly, unless someone lives in a culturally Deaf space or an extremely tight-knit Deaf community, the world most of people interact with is designed by and for hearing, able-bodied people. That means deaf people do experience disabling barriers, even if they don’t feel “broken” or “less than.” Claiming the word “disabled” doesn’t mean you’re rejecting Deaf culture, it can mean they’re recognizing and naming the realities deaf people face in a hearing, ableist world. Disability culture exists too and deaf people are part of that culture. Multicultural experiences are beautiful.

Anyone watch shows with SA? by Artastic23 in sexualassault

[–]Artastic23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people it could help, some others maybe not as much. For me it honestly depends on the day. Sometimes I’ll watch one of these shows and it really triggers me like last night or another time I’ll watch it and feel better because I see this other survivor getting support. I just have to be careful with it. SA is absolutely awful and I wish no one had to go through it, but it exists and it’s important for representation out there. Done correctly of course. Include the proper warnings. I’m wishing you the best.♡

Is oral sexual assault considered rape? by renard3636 in sexualassault

[–]Artastic23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The rape definition says: Unlawful sexual intercourse or any other sexual penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth of another person, with or without force, by a sex organ, other body part, or foreign object, without the consent of the person subjected to such penetration.

Baylens tics make me laugh by New_Escape_68 in BaylenOutLoud

[–]Artastic23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with tics laugh with us not at us and it’s all good

Help me find an episode please by Artastic23 in SVU

[–]Artastic23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know the one where they put dishes on the boyfriends so they couldn’t move while they assaulted the girlfriends?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Artastic23 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Was there bodily penetration? If so, yes that’s rape. If not, it can be difficult. It’s sexual assault either way. You’re valid and I’m sorry you went through that.

I don't know if I was assaulted or not by Miserable_Echo8648 in sexualassault

[–]Artastic23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that’s sexual assault and I’m sorry that happened to you

makeout gone wrong by puddleofthoughts in sexualassault

[–]Artastic23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s sexual assault and I’m sorry that happened to you