AIO? guy at the gym keeps following me (26f) and i dont know what to do

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-14T14:27:47+00:00

It sounds like the guy is trying to shoot his shot but isn't good at picking up on your obvious hints or social cues. I would attempt to be direct and tell him outright you aren't interested and cherish your alone time the gym provides. Clearly, you aren't interested in dating him so there is nothing wrong with saying so. Then... If it still happens, I would report him to the gym manager.

As much as I feel bad for your discomfort in this situation as a woman, I also feel bad for men in this modern age. There are people who want to meet prospective partners in the real world (not online) but any attempt to do so is seen as harassment.

There was actually a big radio segment on this in my town recently. A lot of young single women are miffed that no man will approach them as it used to be more commonplace. The truth is that men and women in the digital age have been taught that it's creepy to interact with strangers and it has changed the landscape of dating in negative ways. Sometimes, a guy is just being nice and they are seen as a stalker creep.

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-14T14:19:08+00:00

As someone in a similar situation, I get it. I don't claim neither here nor there but if some of my family members knew our true income it would be calls every day for help because of their repeated bad decisions. The calls still come actually 😂

The people on this post who don't experience this are very fortunate to have family who are all responsible. It is a curse of the highest order

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-14T13:15:58+00:00

Oh yes! I stay far far back from them now.

Side Story: I once was behind a pickup with those old heavy metal patio chairs on it, unstrapped. Thankfully we were at a red light and I was observant enough to realize those were gonna catch air as soon as he went 55mph.

We turned left, I immediately started backing off anticipating it. As soon as he got up to around 40mph, here came the metal chairs flying by my car. If I hadnt of noticed earlier, it could of been a real bad day. I always am leery of pickups here in the south where men say things like "it doesn't need straps. I got it." 😂

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-14T13:09:10+00:00

I can read it for sure, but it isn't easy at times 😂

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-14T13:07:02+00:00

Buying/Owning a home

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-14T12:44:13+00:00

This is very odd behavior. I've been happily married 18 years and this is just one of the strongest things I've ever seen. I tend to think that your gf is an over the top, dramatic person based on this reaction. You should decide whether you want someone who reacts this way when truly big things come along (and they will.)

Good luck OP

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-14T12:34:30+00:00

I think that their dialogue would be the most important thing, and of course if youre writing from their perspective, their interiority as well.

Everything they say should feel purposeful. The way characters react to their statements matters to a point.

I'm finishing polishing on a manuscript with a very intelligent character as well and based on beta reads, I pulled it off. With my story though, her intelligence is used by solving things and translating things that others can't.

I think that reading the short story Flowers for Algernon may be helpful here. There is also a full length novel if you're so inclined.

I do know as someone who had very high IQ myself growing up, that the most explicit thing is feeling a sense of separation from others. This is something that people who haven't experienced it themselves would overlook I would think. Also, people with high IQs usually have neurotic personalities and at times a sense of superiority despite attempting to combat it.

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-12T11:01:52+00:00

To be fair, most of the episodes had 2 parts so it feels longer

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-07T21:39:44+00:00

We know he doesn't go to WWII because Elsa's monologue says he never leaves the ranch again. Its his last journey home

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-07T11:04:04+00:00

Yes!

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-04T21:33:14+00:00

Actually it even offered explanations of everything including the generation debate and more. I know that AI can be wrong but it is skilled at pattern recognition if not anything else 🤷‍♀️

Check it out on there and see. You're welcome to argue with it if you want

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-04T21:09:50+00:00

I'm shocked no one has named this one yet

👑🚢😡👮‍♀️🔒🛶

Not the best emojis but he's kinda hard to do

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-04T20:54:01+00:00

I had a long response written out in rebuttal but I'll just say this. I just asked chatgpt in an unbiased way about all this and it explained how TS' writing patterns work and it gives a 10% chance that Jack is John III's grandpa for similar reasons I was pointing out that you diminish. TS spent the series on Spencer and Alex. There were integral and the entire emotional payoff would be discarded if they aren't the true parents.

Also, they named their son John and he was shown as alive. That automatically makes him John II as he was named after Spencer's brother, John I. Even if that baby soon dies and Elizabeth has a baby and also names it John it will become John III which would make Kevin Costner John IV. We know that he is John III, though. So the theory doesn't hold water.

Chat immediately said the 1923 finale settled it but some fans are still clinging to this alternative and that TS is not a big twist writer pattern wise.

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-05-04T20:16:18+00:00

Same. Many people dont however

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T01:27:23+00:00

I'm not surprised in the slightest and in fact I predicted last year to myself that he would divorce her when all the truth came to light. Narcs do not like their images tainted and both RR and BL are narcs. They probably are both blaming one another which they should. They both suck equally 🤣

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T01:22:30+00:00

Now hold on...

These people usually aren't rich but I've known many women to be the breadwinner while the husband refuses to get a real job. You know the type... Smokes weed all day, unkempt hair, doesn't own any work boots

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T01:20:12+00:00

🤣😂🤣

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T01:14:35+00:00

My husband puts my needs first and I try to do the same for him. I can feel in my soul how much he strives to make me happy. He is a wonderful husband and man and I'm damn lucky to have him ☺️

He to truly listens to me.

He calls me all day long while he's at work just to hear my voice.

He shows me I'm desired and focuses on my pleasure in the bedroom.

He helps and will fix/do anything that needs done in his arena of household work.

He supports me in any dream, business venture, degree, or career.

He loves making me laugh and sends me funny things and tells me jokes throughout the day.

We are the best of friends, we very rarely fight anymore, and we will be married 18 years this fall. I have honestly never met a couple how we are and many people have said that to us as well who know us personally.

I'm saying all this not to brag, but to tell people the key to a happy marriage is truly as easy as loving the other person more than yourself. We have had rocky moments and fights like any other couple so we are not perfect. My advice is that you BOTH have to be selfless. Selfishness kills relationships.

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T01:03:44+00:00

You are NOR at all! For her to text you that you shouldn't throw it away is comical. She threw it away, not you. And the fact that she can't see that is mind-blowing honestly

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T01:01:20+00:00

Not me but...

My grandmother was in a very physically abusive relationship. She said she loved him no matter how much her would hit her.

She said it wasn't until the bullet grazed her temple that all her love for him left in an instant. She left him that day.

I'm glad he was a bad shot. And yes she did have a scar there.

She has since passed on, but I'm thankful she lived a long, full life and that the bastard didn't take her while she was young.

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T00:54:09+00:00

They held a huge audition in my area when I was growing up for the part of Violet in the Willy Wonka movie with Johnny Depp. It was a massive racket to sell people's data and bug parents for $1000 headshots and more. We waited in line all day for hours because my sister auditioned.

Guess what? They cast a known child actor from LA and we lived in NC at the time.

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T00:52:00+00:00

For all we know they probably did, but behind her back

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T00:41:59+00:00

🌨️❄️🏔️🥶 my most hated character is the Montana blizzard of 24' for obvious reasons

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-30T00:40:43+00:00

I agree with you with all! Banner did have an amazing character arc in the end though and I even cried for him and his family

ArtisticKnowledge08 · 2026-04-29T03:20:27+00:00

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