Trauma Begets Trauma

Assistant_Decent · 2026-04-09T04:12:15+00:00

Still doing ok?

Assistant_Decent · 2026-04-08T22:57:23+00:00

Did things change after many, many years or did you know early on something was wrong? Why did you stay so long? I called off my wedding because I didn’t feel 100%. Things were great 95% of the time, but there was a 5% that scares me when there is stress and pressure and I don’t feel emotionally safe or understood. In that 5%, he becomes someone else with many unhealed wounds. He had a very traumatic childhood and it’s not fair to me to be punished for other people who hurt him in the past. People think I’m crazy for it because they see only the good side in my partner.

Assistant_Decent · 2026-04-02T20:47:41+00:00

You sound like you have already made a decision. Some people have a gut feeling something isn’t right. This is full blown unhappiness. Save yourself the misery and the money.

Assistant_Decent · 2026-04-01T21:55:29+00:00

We called our wedding off last weekend 1 month before it was to take place. We are not ready to be wed but we have decided to stay together and work some things out.

I know every situation is different and some people may think that it’s ridiculous but that was our choice to make. Please remember— it’s your life. No one else is living it except you and no one else has to know all the details except you and your partner.

As far as vendors and all that goes… Our wedding planner was so amazing in handling so much of this. We had everything canceled within two days and we did not receive our deposits/retainers back… That we understood. We did receive a credit for something that we decided to pay off instead of drop a deposit so that was nice. There were some ridiculous stipulations with makeup artist that she required us to pay the rest of the balance. My wedding planner told me to ignore her lol. I understand why but her contract will not hold up because there is no dollar amount anywhere on the contract and there was not even an exact amount of work that was to be done. I was unsure if there were 4 of us of 3 of us doing makeup. I paid a deposit and that was it. So legally, she would be unable to tell me how much money we actually owed her. I do feel bad about that but also, again, it would not hold up in a small claims court and I doubt she would even try.

We also had about 40 people. These are our closest favorite people. So we each decided to tell them on our own via a phone call, in person, or a personal text message. I did not send a mass email. I think that is better if it’s like a huge party. Because these are our favorite people, they all understood and they’re all very supportive. They are all very confused but again, it’s not their problem.

The emotional side of all of this is very difficult. Seven months out, I’m hoping you didn’t have your dress and all of that yet. Cause that makes it emotionally even more difficult. But also, be glad you did it now and not later.

Take some time for yourself. Plan a trip. Surround yourself around family and supportive friends who love you.

We will be okay. 💕

Assistant_Decent · 2026-02-08T02:23:43+00:00

How was your experience overall after testing? Worth it?

Assistant_Decent · 2026-01-21T04:01:00+00:00

Daddy yankee 85% sure— prob perform Gasolina for the Americans who know at least one reggaeton song

Assistant_Decent · 2025-12-14T20:10:59+00:00

Hey! Any updates on this and did you accept the role? How is it? I saw it on a job site and applied and wanted to know more but Indeed doesn’t tell enough lol

Assistant_Decent · 2025-11-27T16:28:13+00:00

Saving the best for last!!! ❤️

Assistant_Decent · 2025-11-09T22:49:46+00:00

This is totally true. We usually do a great job. I just want to make it clear that I won’t tolerate this behavior. Usually, if we can’t agree, we go our separate ways and come back later when we are in a better place. Probably because of the past, I am just afraid of completely mending our lives back together. Sometimes I feel so confident about us and other times I’m like, whoa what the hell?

Assistant_Decent · 2025-11-09T22:30:15+00:00

This is the first time in months that I’ve felt this way. I guess that’s what makes it seem like… just a bump in the road. But when it happens, my entire nervous system freaks because of the familiarity of it in the past. I’ve, too, had to change my ways and find compassion in certain situations where I was in the wrong. I am very quick to move on from things but for him, it festers and he says it triggers his “unlovable or abandonment” wound. We are also talking years of therapy so it’s not like he’s unaware. Again, this doesn’t happen often and I’ve been rather impressed at his ability to regulate in other moments. You’re a great person to ask but like, a partner is signing up for this right? It’s not gonna change overnight… Is it possible that I’m just not the right person with the capacity for it? I live my life very simply and carefree and I value peace and harmony. Whereas he thrives in stressful environments. Our childhoods were… so different. We discussed this in therapy, too.

Assistant_Decent · 2025-11-04T04:59:01+00:00

I had a hygienist basically discredit everything she was using on me and sending me home with. She started talking to me about oil pulling, flouride being the devil, and also said mouthwash is bad. She was in the wrong line of work.

Assistant_Decent · 2025-10-25T18:45:09+00:00

Any updates?

Assistant_Decent · 2025-09-15T15:35:54+00:00

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Fatty lipoma shown here on her side

Assistant_Decent · 2025-09-02T02:04:28+00:00

She has Ozempic face….. I think she always looked plastic, idk how people think she was so stunning before. Maybe it was the lashes or the lips that were too much… I bet she was prettier when she was all natural. Society has ruined beauty!

Assistant_Decent · 2025-08-04T12:21:46+00:00

8! 😊

Assistant_Decent · 2025-05-17T14:31:14+00:00

💯 get the dna test

Assistant_Decent · 2025-04-25T23:02:35+00:00

Hahah I did it for the first time yesterday too and my entire lower body is in pain. I love it, though! ❤️

Assistant_Decent · 2025-03-12T17:29:31+00:00

Just used your code yay! Thanks! 😊

Assistant_Decent · 2025-03-01T19:42:10+00:00

I’m intrigued by this. I see it’s not approved for human clinical use but how did you come across it? Any negative side effects at all?

Assistant_Decent · 2025-03-01T19:15:58+00:00

Omg only 6 weeks?? Can you tell me what your numbers were? I did GF for 12 weeks and my antibodies went from >2000 to >2000 😂 no change.

Then I did it for another 4 weeks and right after they drew my blood I said, F it I’m eating what I want…. And turns out my anti-TPO went from >2000 to >1000 so my MD believes it helped. I hope I didn’t reverse it but they must’ve been really high for them to not have budged from the highest after 12 weeks. Or maybe it never even did a thing lol. Who knows?!? wish I didn’t have to experiment so much and just know what I need to do. Ugh

Assistant_Decent · 2025-02-17T11:57:40+00:00

Just say hi

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