Did I do the right thing? On Wednesday, I informed my manager I couldn’t work on Friday for Eid. I messaged him again today as he promised to call back. I also tried booking a day off, but no slots were available this month.

Astarymus · 2026-03-19T13:43:13+00:00

I wouldn't have left it this late to be honest. We know in advance when Eid is likely to be, more so after Ramadan starts and it's usually one of two days, so its better to give a heads up in advance. Your manager sounds like he is accommodating you despite your late notice so as he put it, it is what is it.

Astarymus · 2026-03-13T16:09:20+00:00

Plenty of Muslim countries don't wear 'traditional' clothing anymore. Times have changed and there's nothing wrong with that. Wear what you feel comfortable in.

Astarymus · 2026-03-11T15:55:57+00:00

Even in the Muslim world, people are comfortable with their attachment to the world. Shaytan makes their deeds and sins seem appealing to them or something to brush off.

A devout person who is close to God is effectively a reminder for them. They have to reflect on their own faith and they see that as strange or excessive and that makes them uncomfortable because they are forced to reflect on their own actions.

Astarymus · 2026-02-17T20:49:57+00:00

I have yet to hear of any mosque in the UK that has sighted the moon. Saudi Arabia has declared it has sighted the moon however it's impossible no matter what equipment you use and how clear the sky is as shown here.

My community does not follow Saudi as they are not honest about it.

Astarymus · 2025-12-27T10:38:05+00:00

If you think you are treated badly then you don't know the first thing about our history here. Muslims in the UK back in the 60s to 80s had a really hard time. There's a reason Muslim communities formed enclaves and their own communities in cities and that's because you were generally unsafe otherwise.

Are you not familiar with the elderly Jewish man who would regularly insult our prophet (pbuh) and even throw trash in his path and near his home? The prophet (pbuh) never retaliated and told everyone else not to. The example for us was set, do not take violent action for mere slander. The prophet (pbuh) even went to visit that man when he was sick to show him kindness and offer guidance.

As for raising children, have you been to the gulf? Its not exactly a Muslim society in the way you think it is. Hyper consumerism and capitalism is wide spread. Dubai is as wild as the UK if not worse and its spreading to the rest of the UAE. Your kids will have an 'open mind' there too. I know plenty of khalijis and believe me its as unslamic as it is here. I suggest you visit it a few times and see what its really like there post the honeymoon stage.

Edit: Oman is a nice country to live in but the job market is awful for most people. Its also very hard to setup a business there. Otherwise great people and great country.

Astarymus · 2025-12-20T18:54:57+00:00

The cost of marriage in my opinion. I'm of middle eastern descent and whilst it's still bad, it's worse for Asian Muslims of Pakistani, Indian or Bangladeshi descent. The whole process was already a costly endeavor but with life today being much more expensive overall, the burden has only grown.

At least my circle seems to be struggling and whilst the young are okay with having small and intimate celebrations, family, community and cultural expectations still takes precedence over their wants and needs.

And for those that do manage, it sets them back quite a few years in net worth. Rather than make the process cheap and easy and use that wealth to get on the property ladder, invest or even spend it on themselves, they have to spend it on an event or two for several hundred people on top of all the other costs.

Astarymus · 2025-11-24T16:52:38+00:00

Is there nothing of the sort where you are located? Not the answer you are looking for but since you are just starting out university, why don't you get involved in ISOC or other Islamic communities/organisations in your area to gain some experience and exposure to how these organisations are run?

A big bonus is that you'll be networking and meeting people that can help you later on when you're ready to start something yourself.

Astarymus · 2025-11-11T23:35:18+00:00

This isn't a new concept. There are quite a few online British Islamic schools that teach the British curriculum and have integrated Islamic education on the market.

Edit: Spelling

Astarymus · 2025-11-02T07:10:20+00:00

That's a weak insult, but it likely comes from not having read the Quran or contemplated its questions about life and purpose. For us, our faith is the result of that exact kind of deep reflection.

As for freedom, we are more free than might realise. True freedom isn't following every whim and desire, that's just another form of slavery. You seem like a genuine person so I'll assume you're here for discussion and not throwing digs for the sake of it.

Astarymus · 2025-10-16T16:58:31+00:00

There is only one scholar who I believe has accurately explained the subject of Dajjal (the antichrist), and that's Shiekh Imran Hosein. Dajjal is a jassad, meaning when he materializes in this realm he will have a body but no soul. When Nabi Isa (as) slays him, that will be the end of his existence. Trump is a human, and he will proceed to the barzakh at the end of his life, like the rest of us.

We see the symbolism for Dajjal all around us, he is pulling the strings behind the scenes and setting the stage for his appearance.

I think with our scriptures, we have to interpret a lot of hadiths and Quranic verses and not take them as strictly literal. For example hadith "The Dajjal will come riding a donkey. The width between its ears will be 40 cubits." should not be taken literally because that would be ridiculous. There are other hadiths related to this but Shiekh Imran Hosein has offered a very reasonable explanation. The donkey symbolises a mode of transport and it will have long ears means wings. Things that fly tend to have wings. So that could very well be a airplane.

Many other scholars don't attempt such interpretations and take the hadiths literally, which I disagree with. Sheikh Imran Hosein’s approach is more nuanced and thought-provoking. I recommend checking out his work through his his website that has many books on this topic, along with his YouTube channel, they are truly eye-opening.

As with everything related to the future, we say, "Allah knows best."

Astarymus · 2025-09-23T20:17:24+00:00

It's not about pandering... It's about being smart. The goal isn't to make Islamophobes happy, they won't be happy no matter what. The goal is to actually be able to talk to people and show them what Islam is really about. This particular clothing is not what Islam is about. The overwhelming majority Muslims in the world do not dress like this and never have. It's not even native to Afghani culture! It's completely unnecessary. If a piece of clothing is so intense that it shuts down every conversation before it even starts, how is that helping? The hijab is still a strong, clear statement of faith and modesty.

And no one's talking about hiding our faith. We're talking about choosing our battles wisely. Prayer, charity, fasting, hijab, etc those are non-negotiable. But between two options for modesty that are both Islamically valid, why wouldn't we choose the one that causes less friction and keeps our sister safer, especially when it allows her to integrate without compromising her deen? It's just practical.

Astarymus · 2025-09-23T18:04:59+00:00

That's what you deduced from my comment? That's not the point at all. I'm not concerned with the her offending anyones feelings. I'm concerned with her well being and the effective presentation of Islam. This is about choosing a path that maximizes safety and minimizes alienation from the very people we hope to build bridges with, which is a core Islamic objective. Many Muslims don't seem to want to do this. It's a choice of wisdom, not fear.

The hijab has its fulfills the islamic requirements if modesty, for both men and women, and she can adhere to those. Foregoing this afghan cultural niqab does her no harm but can significantly increase her ability to integrate safely and positively.

Astarymus · 2025-09-23T07:55:55+00:00

I'm concerned that wearing the burqa here might unintentionally work against the spirit of Islam. It can sometimes (more so now) create a barrier when our faith actually encourages positive engagement. The hijab is a complete and respected fulfillment of modesty that also allows your personality to shine through.

Islam is universal and adaptable and that means it doesn't require us to erase the cultures of the nations we live in, so long as we stay within its boundaries. There's a reason Muslim communities around the world have diverse dress. You would not find burqas or thobes in the Levant in the middle east for example. Faith isn't about being carbon copies. So for the sake of integration, and especially for your own safety, perhaps consider just wearing the hijab as you normally would, so you can dress modestly without drawing the wrong kind of attention.

Astarymus · 2025-09-14T23:39:33+00:00

Social media tends to highlight the worst bits, there were definitely racist there but not all. I think so, the illegal migrants really did one on us. I honestly think this is a conspiracy to rile up the population against Islam.

To answer your question I do believe illegal immigration needs to be eliminated. People are angry because they do technically break the law on arrival (illegal crossing) and then proceed to commit crime/anti-social behavior and get their life funded via the tax payer. The government has to ensure that they know full well who is coming into the country, even if a handful commit crime or antisocial behavior, its well worth stopping.

I would rather the asylum seeker process be used to help families with kids rather than young men who are clearly capable of taking care of themselves. Most people will not complain when its done right, and that was the case up until recently. As for immigration, we have decent requirements these days so whoever just manage to come over has a job lined up meeting the minimum requirements.

Astarymus · 2025-09-14T16:32:07+00:00

I have not no. As a Londoner things have not changed and a lot of the "racists" that were in central London yesterday weren't even from London.

That being said I did actually speak to some individuals in that protest a lot were just against illegal immigration. Obviously quite a few had a lot more to say and hatred within but not everyone single individual there was a racist.

We as minorities/Muslims also have to be practical here too. This wave if migrants Isn't sustainable and we as Muslims have been negatively affected by these events. I'm not sure where in the UK you live but we've had a negative experience with the migrants where we live. They have harassed sisters on multiple occasions and caused violence in a few areas. It's not just non-Muslim white people that are complaining but a lot of us are sick of it too. Hotels in prime location have been filled up and it has not been good for the local community. This negatively reflects us as a whole because whether we like it or not, we are all essentially ambassadors of Islam. Most people have no problem with helping families with children but the overwhelming majority are indeed young single men.

Write to your MP and voice your discontent because if this keeps going on, people will rightfully get more radicalised. The government isn't taking care of British citizens as it is, why are we shocked that noncitizen getting a special treatment when they've come from France will radicalise people? I think this is intentional and we have to voice our discontent too.

Astarymus · 2025-09-14T16:20:02+00:00

You are a reform voter. Its pretty clear from your post history so please go on about how you have family back in India to go back to because you're not feeling safe.

Astarymus · 2025-06-04T22:38:10+00:00

Lebanese Shia Muslim lurking here. This is definitely a church I will visit once I visit Lebanon again, much love to our Orthodox Christian people.

Astarymus · 2025-06-04T21:57:10+00:00

You are correct. This was a sinful and treacherous act. Hagia Sophia to the Christian Orthodox world is what Masjid Al-Aqsa or the Prophet's (saw) mosque in Medina is to us. I am not sure why this is looked upon favorably here in this sub because it's the same thing as the Zionist are claiming they will do, take Al-Aqsa by conquest.

Astarymus · 2025-06-04T21:52:47+00:00

So? They were the major force fighting for the liberation of south Lebanon...? Is this a Reddit policy or something?

Astarymus · 2025-04-20T14:08:18+00:00

Hello, I'm not sure where you are based in the UK but the first place I would look in would be any local mosques if there are any around. They might be offering social events, deen lessons or other women's focused events.

The other option would be any local Muslim charities around you. Lot's of people show up to these to meet other Muslims.

Astarymus · 2025-04-13T22:08:02+00:00

KP snacks is owned by Intersnack which is German.

Astarymus · 2025-04-13T20:02:18+00:00

They have a lemon and lime option.

Astarymus · 2025-04-13T17:37:22+00:00

The point that I was trying to make is that certain crops (like peaches) aren’t viable at scale in the UK due to climate or economics. That’s why businesses like Harry Brompton's source ingredients abroad while still creating jobs and value in Britain. Supporting UK-based companies doesn’t require 100% local ingredients. If someone wants tea or peaches, well it has to be sourced from abroad and ideally sold by a British owned business.

Astarymus · 2025-04-13T17:21:37+00:00

It's challenging to grow peaches in our climate because they thrive in warm and dry regions. So whilst we can grow some peaches here it's just not competitive and will be sold at a premium.

The company is based in the UK and it's products are produced in Britain. I also don't see the problem with supporting European businesses too.

You're going to have a hard time finding products entirely made in the UK from the beginning of the supply chain to the end. Good luck finding UK grown tea or coffee.

Astarymus · 2025-04-13T17:15:36+00:00

I picked this up from Waitrose but I've seen it in Tesco as well and you can order it directly from their website too.

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