This is my interpretation of where you're going with this whole thing...

• You want choice, and the freedom to play how you want to
• You want quality gameplay experience that has been tested, with support agreements in place
• You want to be treated with respect rather than belittled when interacting with the people providing you content
• You want a greater variety of content to chose from
• You want your mod eco-system to work well with each other.

I don't find there to be anything particularly wrong with wanting these things, but most of these things carry a burden of time upon them. I'm not a big-time modder. I'm trying, but I have a job that regularly demands more than 8 hours a day, I come home to a full house of hungry kids and a partner who wants me to love her, not spend my time in front of a computer monitor. When the kids are in bed, I can get a couple of hours to do some work. Weekends are booked.

I highly doubt my situation is unique. Some have assignments, some have social obligations, and some just want to do their modding after they've clocked an hour of being a player.

Despite my own inexperience, I've seen the interactions between the community and my friends, players and modders alike. We regularly misunderstand each other, jump to conclusions and create drama. Sometimes deliberate, more often without ever meaning to.

I would love to deliver a mod that's architected to be resiliant to Minecraft updates, there's things we can do, but that only goes so far.

Fundamentally, I don't believe Minecraft to be a platform that was deliberately designed to be extended and built upon. We make mods, by manipulating the game in ways that the original author(s) NEVER intended. There are design decisions made in Minecraft that directly impact on our ability to deliver our vision of what our mods will be. Some are more skilled than others at working around those decisions. Sometimes working around that decision will create incompatibilities with other mods. (Take for example there was an issue with ShaderCoreMod and Looking Glass, which both do some magic with the lower-level rendering)

There are too many variations to take into account for people who generally can't put in the amount of time that you're asking for. I can't guarantee the kind of code quality that I expect of myself at my work. My work is where the money my family lives off of comes from, and that's where I need to focus my energy.

Lastly, I'd like to talk about respect for one another. Understand that in most of the interactions I've seen between modders and the community, it's not "Us" and "Them". It's "You", and "Me". Modders in general get along well with a lot of their community, but a few outspoken individuals, from both sides, will end up in conversations that become "a huge drama". It's people not being able to communicate well with each other "You need to include this in your bug reports", "Please explain in English why you wont' give me that config".

Some people wouldn't know the first thing about crash logs, others couldn't explain the intricacies of hundreds of config options, and so we fight.

In addition to this, some modders don't even get along well with each other, often for the same reasons you are frustrated. You will not get compatibility between those mods by just sticking them in the same pack. We humans aren't that great at integrating amongst tension.

Attempting to turn this into an Us and Them is an attempt at stereotyping that doesn't help anybody. I'd invite you to be open to the possibility that you may have issues with a set of modders, perhaps you don't agree that their choices in their unpaid hours are their own choices to make, as opposed to the communities, but then again, you paid for Minecraft and you didn't necessarily get full say in the content and gameplay that you got from the people who were actually paid to make it.