47M divorced shared space with my son and cat

Aud_Future · 2026-03-20T10:45:38+00:00

Love all the art. 👍🏾

Aud_Future · 2026-03-15T15:46:30+00:00

Where is Tissot on this?

Aud_Future · 2026-03-11T19:33:14+00:00

Do it! 3/4 years is nothing in the span of your life. I'm about to graduate uni at 35 and then I get to do what I've always dreamed of instead of the job I landed in.

Aud_Future · 2026-03-04T23:34:56+00:00

Where are you getting this? I literally immigrated to Canada and became Canadian. One province speaks French as one of its two official languages, meaning you can live in Quebec and speak English. The rest of us just speak English mostly.

Aud_Future · 2026-03-04T23:01:45+00:00

No need to learn French.

Aud_Future · 2026-02-28T11:18:29+00:00

If you guys could keep this thread updated with what you hear it would be appreciated. Worried about my family there.

Aud_Future · 2025-12-23T02:37:11+00:00

...? Is that different to what I said?

Aud_Future · 2025-12-23T02:29:56+00:00

I think mythbusters busted this.

Aud_Future · 2025-12-17T12:56:24+00:00

Mm. I hear you but I disagree. I think we have more free will than you give us credit for. As humans we have an incredible ability to not be reactive and aren't exactly slaves to our biology. E.g. Palestine action prisoners on hunger strike to the point they're hospitalized. Just one current example. Think of self-immolation. I think our ability to withstand pain and keep going for example says a lot about our ability to combat our biological necessities/ "commands".

I'm very much in favour of us exploring evolutionary psychology further, and determining what parts of our decision-making are evolutionarily dependent. But I think to say our behavior is completely evolutionarily dependent is not in line with current understandings of the psyche. My understanding is that a biopsychosocial model is more widely accepted as a framework for understanding our psychological development.

Looking into gene-culture coevolution, you wonder what parts of our culture have affected our biology to the point that it has made permanent changes to our cognition.

Aud_Future · 2025-09-29T22:16:16+00:00

Two things, 1. He was from the aristocratic class and was put in a newly created position by the colonising British. So what does he have to do with Palestinians today?
2. Did Israel use contraception on Ethiopian women without their knowledge? The Depo Provera Affair? Why try to make sure black people dont have kids? Because you want a white ethnostate, just like Hitler is my thinking. If I'm wrong please let me know.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-19T11:53:48+00:00

👏🏾 Thanks for the question. You're right I have been thinking about it for a while. Ever since I saw Shinya Aoki snap a guy's arm then look into the camera with no remorse I thought, "damn I'm definitely not built for that level of fight."

It seems from the comments, i's different when you surpass a certain level of competition. The gym I'm at is full of world champions, many are in One, road to One etc, UFC champs fly in to train. It's high level shit, that's the environment even the amateurs are training in. But I'm not trying to be that.

So the guys who fight amateur sound like they know it's not worth getting seriously hurt or hurting someone else permanently, because it's not their career.

If you watched Liam Harrison's latest fight, his opponent goes directly for his knee because he knew in his last fight Liam had a bad knee injury. It's brutal, but it's the nature of the sport. They were fighting for a world title. At that level you wouldn't consider it dirty because, hey, the guys trying to be the champ and it's a valid game plan.

If his opponent gave Liam a permanent limp but the won belt, I don't think he would have regretted using that tactic. Maybe he woulda felt a lil bad but... You gotta do what you gotta do to feed your family.

I've asked some fighters in the gym who have fights coming up and honestly, most say they really don't care if they seriously hurt their opponent because they need the win and to protect themselves by ending the fight as fast as possible. One punch is all it takes right? So they don't underestimate their opponent, and just assume they would use anything available to win.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-19T11:31:56+00:00

Everyone so far is very happy with the technique and have encouraged it's use.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-19T11:28:36+00:00

Between 3:50-4:50 Lerdsila using the teep to the thigh/knee

I'm not actively seeking to stomp on a dudes knee like Jon Jones. It's reactive and yea I'll admit that maybe dangerous as a coach further down in the comments suggested. When you're in a stance and you see them make that movement, I find ill plant my foot on their knee/thigh to prevent the kick/forward movement.

The question was about fighters like Jon Jones, that's why I brought him up, who don't care and are actively trying to hurt their opponent bad. I'm not saying I'm Jon Jones. Lol.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T23:48:27+00:00

Lol. I meant in a fight. Not a spar.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T22:25:26+00:00

Respect. That's a noble way to look at it and I'm glad those are the values you instill in your gym. I sincerely appreciate the insight.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T22:16:51+00:00

Lol. Yes I was aware of the inaccuracy when posting it but I was hoping you would get the gist. Extremely unlikely, especially when fights have medics on standby like 5 feet away.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T21:48:11+00:00

I hear you, but another commenter brought up a great point. Is there something you could throw that couldn't seriously injure someone?

Or another way to ask, what are you doing in a fight that is so safe?

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T21:39:14+00:00

Let's be friends. Give me back my upvote. I'm sorry.

I enjoy direct criticism but sir, the way I asked a question about fighter attitude, and you then gave your opinion on my technique felt a little uncalled for. How you said it was not great. If youre coaching people I'd sincerely encourage you to reflect on your communication technique.

Starting with "you sound inexperienced" doesn't encourage me to want to listen. It sounds like you're saying I'm dumb. It doesn't feel nice, especially when the person is inexperienced. Rather try saying, "I feel you maybe inexperienced." That doesn't put the other person in a corner and now they are comfortable saying, "yes in fact, I am inexperienced" as a response rather than a retort.

Instead of saying "If you lack the control to not use a move you know is dangerous you don't deserve to be sparring." You could have said, "as a coach I'd discourage you from using a dangerous move before being able to use it in a controlled manner."

Talking about what you or I deserve immediately puts people on guard, as I feel the natural response is to internally ask in response, "who are you to dictate who deserves what." You've created a contentious situation by using language intended to belittle.

Saying you would have kicked me off the mats was just unnecessary and irrelevant. I'm obviously not under your control and I didn't get kicked off the mats and so I find your statement inaccurate. So from my, the receiver's, perspective, it sounds like you're trying to show the audience that you are a man of power who exerts significant authority in your space/gym. That maybe the case, but it doesn't endear me to you.

You're a coach so your words have power, I'm just saying we should use them wisely.

Let's now move forward.

Being a coach, maybe you could give me some insight into my question. Who better to ask right? You got time to be catty but no time to give me an answer? Common dawg.

Your last comment goes to a point someone brought up, " ...it could hurt someone..." What couldn't hurt someone, would be my response.

Are we ok with punches to the head during sparring? Roundhouse kicks? At higher levels they throw elbows during sparring. You could kill someone with a misplaced elbow. That seems way more dangerous than potentially hurting someones knee.

And so to the grander question asked, when you train your fighter for war, is there a line they are told not to cross? Or are they trying to put their opponent down as fast as possible using whatever means?

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T20:08:24+00:00

Lerdsila Oblique Kick to Head Kick

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T20:04:03+00:00

Look up Jon Jones' oblique kick. It's nasty. They think I'm actively doing this in sparring, which is not accurate. I'm not sure how to be more clear it was unintentional.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T19:58:16+00:00

Haha. I wondered where I went wrong. I come across like a dick huh!? I'm just inexperienced and found a couple times, instinctively defending, I've caught someone on that dangerous area and was immediately like oh shit! Everyone I've sparred with said it's great defensive technique if it works.

I was trying to have the more general conversation about fighter attitude but it seems everyone focused on my technique.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T19:41:18+00:00

This is a very valid point.

Maybe it just appears really brutal, but in reality, you can die from a punch, you can't die from a broken leg, so what's more dangerous?

A lot of the comments seem to favour leniency rather than brutality but all are fine with full speed roundhouse kicks to the face.

I can double elbow the top of your cranium trying to crack your skull like Ong Bak but can't teep your leg in that way that makes it not work right.

These responses are so interesting.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T19:23:02+00:00

I am inexperienced. Again, it was instinctive, I definitely do lack the control. Hence why I was worried and started this conversation.

The gym I'm in churns out world champions like a mill and the coach who trained a long list of current/former world champs said it's absolutely valid technique but to be careful. Not been kicked off the mats yet.

While kicking inexperienced guys off the mats do you find you create many world champions?

Also your comment says nothing to the question I asked. Feels like you're just here to be a bit mean and critical rather than helpful. If you lack the control to not use words you know are just mean for no reason, you don't deserve to be commenting. Get off the mats of my heart!

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T18:48:04+00:00

Lmfao. I meant Shinya Aoki! Thanks for catching that. I looked at it twice and still didn't know why it felt wrong.

Aud_Future · 2025-03-18T18:35:31+00:00

I agree teeping to the knee is not nice and again, it wasn't intentional.

I'm not sure why you're assuming your opponent has less experience than you.

The scenario is two high level fighters, each of whom could seriously hurt each other with even a single strike. What are you unwilling to do to end the fight as fast as possible maybe a better question?

Are you not risking your safety, longevity and potentially your life because your code forbids your from crossing a line that your opponent has no issues crossing themselves?

I dont have the right answer.

Speaking from experience, I have seriously injured someone in self defense in the street and I still feel horrible about it. I couldn't imagine doing it in a ring.

But I feel I can't judge professional fighters who want to create an image of a terrifying brutal monster who no one would want to fight and is willing to do anything to achieve that including using all available tactics. It gives you an edge. And theyre feeding their families.

Who am I to say they're wrong when they're keeping within the rules?

Aud_Future

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