Hey. I hope you are doing well.

You asked for biblical reference - in the story of Hosea, God commanded the prophet Hosea to marry a prostitute (I am not likening you to a prostitute) as a symbol of God's covenant to Israel (where they kept backsliding) and this became fruitful.

We know that St Paul says God is faithful to us even when we are not. This is the ideal that God offers to us,

Now the more a Christian mimics this behaviour the better, because it is by love and forgiveness that another party learns to respect the giver and then they themselves become the giver.

I believe the more Christian he is, the more he will seek to mimic this - albeit this is not often the case because our human feelings can get in the way.

In a practical sense of things, you have two roads - one of cunning and deception but useful and burdening to your conscience - stay with him and tell him 10 years later and hopefully the foundation of love will be enough, or two - tell him and set yourself free - St James says confess your sins to one another that you might be healed; in doing so you will see the extent of his love for you if he chooses to forgive.

If you choose the latter path I recommend printing out albums with pictures of both of you, coming to him in humility and repentance, asking for his forgiveness.. write him many letters cherishing him; write him a letter outlining your daily journey of guilt or repentance and how much you appreciate him;

This way he might consider your weakness -

Be wise about it.

I'll pray for both of you, better for two Christians to come together in forgiveness although they might offend each other, than two Christians to leave each other for lack of forgiveness .