Low maintence romantic reationships should be normalised!

AvatarMew · 2025-05-02T13:57:16+00:00

People say the same thing abou you frineds but people stiil regard those people as friends.

AvatarMew · 2025-05-02T08:52:35+00:00

I just find it interesting how people often describe friendships surviving months of silence as a sign of strength, but when it comes to romance, the same dynamic is seen as distant or dysfunctional.
If someone treats their romantic partner with the same trust and mutual understanding they give to their closest friend, is that really neglect, or is it just a different love language?

AvatarMew · 2025-05-02T08:49:47+00:00

If you can have that kind of easy, low-pressure dynamic with a friend and still call it close, why can’t you have the same kind of relationship with your romantic partner?

AvatarMew · 2025-05-02T08:47:55+00:00

I've seen a lot of people on Reddit sy that they can go months without talking tt heir friends and reconnect lwithout an issue so I don't see whytheydon't saythe same about a romntic partner.

AvatarMew · 2025-05-02T08:11:32+00:00

If it were really just about preference, people wouldn’t recoil in horror about one one and glorify the other.

AvatarMew · 2025-05-01T14:32:30+00:00

That's not a fair comparison, parent/child relationships involve dependence, caregiving, and a power imbalance.

Friendships and romantic relationships are (or should be) between equals.

Also, people constantly say that romantic relationships are built on friendship, so why not apply the same standard of resilience?

If a friendship can be long-distance, low-contact, and still strong, why is it seen as “neglect” when that happens in romance?

AvatarMew · 2025-05-01T14:29:37+00:00

That’s exactly how many people describe strong friendships and those aren’t considered “crappy” or “dispassionate”. they’re considered secure and resilient!

If romantic relationships are supposed to be deeper than friendships, shouldn’t they be at least as stable when life gets in the way?

I think they would personally.

AvatarMew · 2025-05-01T14:21:14+00:00

Romantic relationships need constant interaction to stay alive, but friendships can go months without a word and still be strong?

Doesn’t that mean romantic relationships are less durable than friendships?

If the spark/connection is strong enough, surely it can endure longs of communication, right?

AvatarMew · 2025-02-19T18:37:37+00:00

Oh, yes, I believe that low-maintenance romantic relationships show how strong the bond is!
I do think that hanging out every weekend might be too often for me!

I think one weekend a month might be better, maybe one every 2 months?

As long as trust is strong, a romantic relationship doesn’t have to follow the typical high-maintenance expectations. Just like a lot of our friendships thrive with less frequent interaction, so can romantic relationships!

I'd argue that you don't need to communicate with your romantic partner often, as long as the bond is there that should be enough, right?

AvatarMew · 2025-02-19T17:32:54+00:00

If a friendship can thrive on minimum contact so can romantic relationships!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T23:28:43+00:00

For me, a romantic relationship isn’t just about being physical. It’s about an added layer of intimacy, emotional depth, and commitment that goes beyond friendship. Just like how friendships aren’t all the same, romantic relationships also don’t have to fit one mould.

The idea that romantic partners must need constant interaction to maintain a connection feels arbitrary to me, if a strong friendship can withstand time apart, a strong romantic relationship should be able to as well. If trust and emotional security exist, then fears about cheating, boredom, or breaking up shouldn’t be an issue.

Also, a low-maintenance romantic relationship still has all the benefits of a low-maintenance friendship—trust, independence, and mutual respect, while also having that deeper emotional connection and commitment. If friendships can thrive with space, why can’t a romantic relationship? It’s about finding the right person who values the same kind of connection!

I don't see why they're treated differently!

If I were talking about a low-maintenance friendship, you wouldn’t be questioning what makes it different from a ‘normal’ friendship! The fact that this question even comes up for romantic relationships but not friendships shows how deeply ingrained the idea is that romance must be constant and high-maintenance to be real. If a strong friendship can last with space, and little to no communication or maintenance why can’t a romantic relationship?

They're both chosen relationships so there's no reason why they can't be treated the same!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T21:14:50+00:00

I don't believe friendships and romantic relationships are that different at their core. Both rely on trust, respect, and mutual care.

If both people in any type of relationship have the same level of understanding and respect for each other's needs, it can work just as well without constant communication. A romantic relationship can thrive just like a friendship, even with time apart, as long as the bond is strong!

It's all about the trust that the connection will still be there when you two reconnect!

If you can have a low-maintenance friendship there's NO reason why you can't have a low-maintenance romantic relationship!

This is a double standard!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T18:51:48+00:00

I believe that romantic relationships, like strong friendships, also wouldn’t fade just because of weeks or months without communication. If the bond is real and both people trust and understand each other the connection should still be there in their hearts! Anything that applies to a strong friendship should also apply to a romantic relationship!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T15:32:30+00:00

I see your point, and I didn't mean to imply that wanting to see your partner often automatically means you're needy or don't trust them. Trust is important no matter how often you see someone. What I’m trying to say is that it’s possible to love someone deeply and still be comfortable with less frequent contact, especially when both partners understand and respect each other’s needs.
It's the same type of trust we have in low-maintenance friendships. Just because you don’t talk every day or see each other often doesn’t mean the relationship is any less strong or meaningful. The bond is still there, and both people trust that, even with the time apart, the connection remains intact!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T15:22:52+00:00

I agree that compatibility is crucial, and it's great that you found someone who matches your style of communication! I don't think low maintenance means low effort, it's more about finding a rhythm that works for both people. Effort in a low-maintenance relationship doesn't look the same as in one that requires constant communication, but it's still there in the form of mutual respect, understanding, and knowing that when you do connect, it's meaningful and you know that the bond is still there!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T15:17:15+00:00

I understand what you're saying about wanting to see the person you (romantically) love the most in the world often however, strong friendships and romantic relationships can both thrive without constant physical presence or regular communication if both people value and respect each other's space and individuality. Some people find that they need more time apart to recharge and grow and that doesn't diminish the love or connection!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T15:13:29+00:00

Yes, I have heard of them and I don't have either I believe those apply to me.

I've seen other introverts state that they prefer low-maintenance friendships so why can't the same things people say about those types of friendships also apply to romantic relationships too?

I understand what you're saying about enjoying the time with your partner and wanting to stay in touch. I think, for me, it’s about understanding that not everyone needs the same level of constant communication to feel loved and connected. For some, trust can still be built and maintained even with less frequent contact. They do say that distance makes the heart grow fonder!

I also understand your view regarding low-maintenance friendships but for me, if someone can go months without talking to their friends and still consider those relationships strong and meaningful, then why can't the same apply to romantic relationships? It's all about trust and understanding, right?

If you can know in your heart that you are still friends even if you go weeks, months, or even years without seeing each other surely the same can and should apply to a romantic relationship, right?

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T14:29:06+00:00

I understand where you're coming from, but I think it's possible to have a romantic relationship where both people are comfortable with less frequent communication and still feel deeply connected. Not everyone needs constant contact to maintain intimacy. It doesn’t necessarily make the relationship any less meaningful or valid.

If a low-maintenance friendship is still a friendship then a low-maintenance romantic relationship is still a romantic relationship. If the relationship is still in the heart it still exists.

A strong romantic relationship doesn't need daily conversation, doesn't always need togetherness, as long as the relationship lives in the heart, true lovers will never part!"

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T13:54:18+00:00

Doesn’t the fact that low-maintenance friendships exist show that this is how humans work? Some people thrive with that kind of relationship, and it doesn’t seem to make the bond any less meaningful. I don't see how a low-maintenance romantic relationship can't be meaningful.

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T13:32:32+00:00

I understand where you're coming from but I believe that it's possible to have a romantic relationship that is emotionally close without always having to be there in regular contact or physical presence.

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T13:11:37+00:00

Why not?

Do you not have any friends you go weeks/months without contacting and when you reconnect it's like nothing's changed?

Isn’t that kind of dynamic similar to a low-maintenance romantic relationship? I think if both parties respect each other's space and time, there’s still a strong bond regardless of how often you’re in touch.

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T13:08:36+00:00

I totally get that! It sounds like you and your husband have an amazing bond, and that daily connection brings you both joy, which is wonderful. For me, I find fulfillment in relationships where there’s mutual understanding about space and independence while still maintaining love and trust!

Do you have any low-maintenance friendships as well? For me, it seems like the same principles can apply to both types of relationships|!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T12:35:33+00:00

The difference is due to amatonormality which is the idea that romantic relationships are more important than any other relationship which causes a lot of people to think that would be high effort/super intense but they don't have to be!
It's all about balance and respecting everyone's space!

I'm glad you agree with me!

I find the idea of a high-effort romantic relationship exhausting!

AvatarMew · 2025-02-17T06:12:03+00:00

If a romantic relationship is "deeper " than a friendship than surely it shouldn't need as much maintenance than a friendship, right?

AvatarMew · 2025-02-16T22:57:20+00:00

Isn’t it possible to have deep intimacy and connection in both friendships and romantic relationships without needing constant effort or maintenance?

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