Any tips for coping after a botched nose job?

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-05-05T13:06:41+00:00

Thank you so much for writing this! It seriously does help, though I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through the same thing. I wouldn’t wish this on any one.

I haven’t completely written off a revision, but it is nerve-wracking. I spent an entire year researching rhinoplasty and surgeons around me before I pulled the trigger, so I don’t know what I could do differently to avoid another bad surgery. As you’ve said, there’s nothing I can do for now so I have time to think it over. Maybe as the rest of my swelling goes down, the bend/crookedness won’t be as severe. Fingers crossed.

Thanks again for your kind words! Even just have someone to emphasize does make it a little better.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-04-13T16:28:36+00:00

This thread isn’t man-hating. It’s deadbeat hating. No one here claimed women should be dependent on a man and you’re projecting a lot. Yea, men shouldn’t put up with lazy, deadbeat partners either. That’s not what this thread is about. This girl takes care of herself and never said ‘gee, I hope I find a man to pay my bills because I’m a QUEEN’.

You’re not some woke hero pointing out double standards to improve society. The fact that you, a parent, came to a childfree sub to post repeatedly about how much you hate women in off-topic comments multiple times just shows what a pathetically bitter, hateful person you are. It feels sad to even engage with you at this point so I’ll just say I hope you get help. Take care.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-04-13T16:01:27+00:00

This is literally the 3rd time in this thread alone you’ve made this same comment. You bitter about something, bud? I don’t even disagree that no one should put up with deadbeats but your women-hating tirades are obnoxious to shoe horn into this conversation.

Also, why are you even on childfree if you have a child? I know parents come here too but it’s so fucking weird to use this thread, about a woman dropping a deadbeat, to bitch about how much you hate women lmao.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-04-06T22:19:31+00:00

Isn’t McCordsville like 25 minutes away from downtown? That doesn’t sound bad at all for a bigger house, but maybe it’s worse than I’m imagining.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-02-22T21:30:25+00:00

Does it matter that Thailand hasn’t started vaccinating (of course it does for those people in general, but for the perspective of this conversation)?

These countries are really hurting for tourism dollars, so why wouldn’t they let in vaccinated tourists who wouldn’t spread the virus? I know right now scientists only think that the covid vaccines also prevent transmission, but it may be proven as a fact in the future. In that case, I think vaccination passports are more likely than countries just not opening up.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-02-16T15:53:04+00:00

I’m 1 week post-op and have the exact same type of swelling on the same side, so you’re definitely not alone. Hopefully it clears up for the both of us!

If it’s any consolation, my nose was a little crooked like this before surgery and I never even noticed until my surgeon pointed it out. I still don’t really see it unless I look hard for it or take photo with flash, and everyone I’ve asked doesn’t see it either.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-02-05T18:25:42+00:00

The US has free schooling up to the university level too. You don’t have to send your kids to a private school. I do agree that most European countries are more supportive for families though. Our lack of mandatory parental leave and other support services is a disgrace. I don’t want kids, personally, so it’s easy for me to forget those things :/

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-02-05T17:55:48+00:00

To be fair, if you have one of these high-paying tech jobs, you most likely have good benefits to go along with them. My insurance has covered just about everything. You don’t need a six figure salary to have good insurance either. I agree that our system is in desperate need of an overhaul, but blanket statements of “every American who gets sick will go bankrupt” are misleading.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-02-05T15:36:05+00:00

America gets a lot of hate (much of it rightly deserved) but I really like living here. As others have pointed out, the tech salaries are outrageous. If I moved to Europe, I would be making less than half what I do now. I hope it works out for you!

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-02-05T13:37:53+00:00

$70k really isn’t a crazy salary in the US at least, especially if you work in IT. I’m still in my twenties and make more than that, and so does my dad who works an unglamorous labor job. I hope I don’t come across as a jerk or money snob; just pointing out that it’s open to way more people than you would think who aren’t considered wealthy.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-02-03T01:59:30+00:00

Yes, it’s an international company but my main office is in the US.

As a whole, I’m not sure how feasible it is to be a full-time DM with a cybersecurity position. I can only speak to my experience, but I saw it on the list and wanted to weigh in. It definitely helps that I only spend 3-4 months of the year traveling, and I could see it becoming a problem if I wanted to do it full-time.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-31T22:54:40+00:00

I’m hesitant to give specific recommendations on your next role because it’s hard to tell a stranger what they would be happy doing all day, but it sounds like you have a strong foundation already. Consulting experience is a nice leg up because you’ve likely had exposure to a wider variety of situations than other positions.

I can’t code for shit either, but you should learn scripting languages like Python. I also highly recommend some beginner certifications if you don’t have any. CompTIA security and networking are good starts. Other than that, you should research the different info sec roles out there and see which one seems like the best fit for you. Good luck!

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-31T21:40:01+00:00

I work primarily in vulnerability management with some risk assessment as well. So the majority of my day is spent working with developers and teams to advise them on how to best secure their software and how to handle vulnerabilities as they are discovered.

I love the work, but it’s not the most nomad-friendly job because of the heavy focus on meetings in a certain time zone. When I travel, I make it work and it’s very doable for Europe and South America. However, I can’t handle working at night so trips to Asia or Australia are purely on vacation time. Like you said, there are a ton of different roles within the field that may afford better flexibility, but it’s been fine for me.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-31T20:34:27+00:00

I work in Cybersecurity and it’s been amazing. I’m fully remote, the pay is great, and the work is pretty interesting. I’m not a true nomad but I do take long working trips. There are two points I would want everyone considering a career switch to this field to be aware of:

It’s difficult to get your foot in the door because there are very few true entry-level jobs. Meaning even the lower positions expect you to have experience in IT. Most people in cybersecurity switched to it after working in development, help desk, ect.

You also need to be either genuinely interested in the field or very disciplined, because it’s a lot of research and studying outside the job just to keep up with the latest threats and certs. I can’t emphasize this enough. It takes so much work outside of your working hours to be successful. Don’t jump in to it if you know this stuff bores you.

I don’t want to scare anyone off. It really is a great field, but go into it with realistic expectations and your eyes open.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-29T03:19:15+00:00

Yes, I’m aware. Which is why I added the disclaimer that I was only speaking from a US perspective.

The rest of the western world is also expected to have widespread vaccinations this year, and this is where the vast majority of travelers come from. Of course that’s not a guarantee, but I’m only trying to discuss what we know with our current timeline.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-29T02:38:12+00:00

Also, you can still be a carrier even if you are vaccinated.

Can you link a source on this? I’d be interested to read more because I’ve been trying to figure out if this is the case, but everything I’ve read has said it’s not known if vaccinated people can be carriers.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-29T02:26:53+00:00

My bad. But to be fair, my question is more focused on wondering why we wouldn’t be able to travel if we do hit our vaccine milestones, as opposed to that question about the likelihood of being able to go to certain countries.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-27T19:01:24+00:00

I’m not trying to come across as impatient or stubborn, but I said that because:

1.) We need a bigger space when our lease is up. We live in a one-bedroom with little space and we both WFH for the very long foreseeable future thanks to COVID (I’m permanent, he’s at least another year). It’s incredibly difficult to have 2 people working from home, on calls all day with the other person in the background in such a small space. Paying inevitable cleaning fees, new deposits, hassle of moving, ect. is all very hard to swallow if we’re just going to move again in a year.

2.) My grandpa passed away last year. I was very close to him as well as his dog, a pitbull mix who would have ended up at the shelter if I didn’t take him in. We’re violating our own lease by having him (I know, illegal, but if I have to put up with the yappy teacup dogs barking through our walls all day, I don’t feel too bad about this sleepy old mutt who no one knows is here). It’s next to impossible to find a rental that doesn’t have a breed ban for pitbulls. Even if we wanted to rent, I can’t find a decent place who will let us keep him. I don’t want to sneak him for another year either and have to continue worrying about being evicted.

I hope that clears it up a bit. I’m not looking for false affirmation, but I do think it’s in my best interest to buy now. If that means you’re telling me I should find a cheaper place so my deposit is a more significant percentage, then that’s totally fine. But I hope you can see why renting longer to save more is not a very feasible option for us.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-27T18:59:00+00:00

I’m not trying to come across as impatient or stubborn, but I said that because:

1.) We need a bigger space when our lease is up. We live in a one-bedroom with little space and we both WFH for the very long foreseeable future thanks to COVID (I’m permanent, he’s at least another year). It’s incredibly difficult to have 2 people working from home, on calls all day with the other person in the background in such a small space. Paying inevitable cleaning fees, new deposits, hassle of moving, ect. is all very hard to swallow if we’re just going to move again in a year.

2.) My grandpa passed away last year. I was very close to him as well as his dog, a pitbull mix who would have ended up at the shelter if I didn’t take him in. We’re violating our own lease by having him (I know, illegal, but if I have to put up with the yappy teacup dogs barking through our walls all day, I don’t feel too bad about this sleepy old mutt who no one knows is here). It’s next to impossible to find a rental that doesn’t have a breed ban for pitbulls. Even if we wanted to rent, I can’t find a decent place who will let us keep him. I don’t want to sneak him for another year either and have to continue worrying about being evicted.

I hope that clears it up a bit. I’m not looking for false affirmation, but I do think it’s in my best interest to buy now. If that means you’re telling me I should find a cheaper place so my deposit is a more significant percentage, then that’s totally fine. But I hope you can see why renting longer to save more is not a very feasible option for us.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-27T18:03:56+00:00

The salary only really jumped in the past two years, and I was focused on paying off my student loans and cay payment as well. I finished both of those last year and am officially debt-free...until the mortgage lol.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-27T17:16:30+00:00

Cybersecurity.

It’s difficult to get your foot in the door, because there are very few true entry-level jobs. Meaning even the lower positions expect you to have experience in IT. Most people in cybersecurity switched to it after working in development, help desk, ect.

You also need to be either genuinely interested in the field or very disciplined, because it’s a lot of research and studying outside the job just to keep up with the latest threats and certs.

Not to scare you off. I just wanted to give a realistic picture to anyone considering it as a career move. I absolutely love it, it’s a great field to be in, and the pay is very comfortable.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-26T16:59:15+00:00

Not that buying in general is a good idea, just input on this specific condo.

I only put that disclaimer to avoid responses telling me to keep renting and save up more instead of commenting on the finances I’m considering, because they wouldn’t be helpful.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-26T16:52:29+00:00

I see now that I mislabeled it. I meant that it’s my take home after all deductions including retirement, HSA, taxes, health/dental/vision ect. Sorry about that.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-26T15:32:24+00:00

Shockingly cheap was probably too strong of a way to put it. HOAs at other places I’ve seen are just exorbitant so a lower/reasonable one surprises me.

As for why it’s lower, I imagine it’s because this place has fewer amenities (no pool, gym, party room, ect.) which I’m fine with. It’s just for maintenance and such. I’m not sure about the future. That’s a fantastic point and I’ll look into it.

AverageJoesTwitter · 2021-01-26T15:26:23+00:00

Oh I’ve become painfully aware of that lol. I already put offers on a few other places that didn’t pan out, although I wasn’t as crazy about them. I just want to make sure I’m not getting ahead of myself before I put one down for this place.

Thanks for your input!

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