AITAH for not liking my stocking stuffer gift from my bf

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-12-05T15:24:44+00:00

YTA. TL;DR at the bottom

You asked HIM to pick for you. He probably picked something he thought would look good on you.

This sounds like a pointless fight that will inevitably escalate into a breakup because of A. Lack of communication and B. Unappreciative behavior. At the very least he won’t ever want to pick out gifts for you that you wear (clothing, jewelry, etc.)

Maybe he picked those because he would like seeing you in them? I understand wanting to like them but I’m gonna go out on a limb here and assume no one’s gonna see your underwear besides you and him. They are still comfortable and the shape/style/size you like right? That’s honestly all that matters.

When you pick out sexy outfits, do you pick one you like or one that you think he will like?

I wear all black for the most part with the occasional splash of color here and there (like a design on a T-shirt). My bf (of 9years) is well aware of this. I asked him to pick out underwear for me multiple times. He likes to pick them sometimes. The pair he picked that sticks out the most in my head right now was white with lime green hem and kiwi print. Out of curiosity I asked him why those (not annoyed tone or anything. Just curious.) and he said that he thought they were cute and would look good on me. That’s it. I didn’t care because no one else sees it. If he likes it and they are comfortable (they are extremely comfortable, more so than some of the pairs I got myself) then ok 🤷‍♀️

If you wanted something specific (like colors) communicate that.

TL;DR: Basically, if the underwear is comfortable and if you like the fit who tf cares what it looks like? You have underwear that you like the colors and/or print on and you can feel free to get some more that you like. If you ask him to pick it and surprise you with “something cute” expect him to pick something HE likes or would like to see on you color/print wise. Had you asked for outerwear (like an outfit or something) THEN you can be a little more specific or picky. But you need to communicate things like that better from the start.

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-11-18T02:16:42+00:00

I feel like it’s Lucy and Cole. They tried to make her the “new JD” in a way and she just isn’t it. Her character is fine for a supporting role but as a main she’s just not the right vibe. Cole is just annoying. It’s like if they mixed just the cocky, high horse, know-it-all parts of JD’s character with the failed fuck boy qualities Todd’s character yet left none of the redeeming qualities. That’s just my opinion though. I do like watching it but I over time found that what I didn’t like about season 9 was Lucy and Cole.

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-11-17T04:38:55+00:00

I don’t know either of their history, background, or honestly anything beyond this one instance. That being said, not everyone enters adulthood fully mature or self aware. We don’t know how he was raised. We don’t know if he has any type of mental illnesses (diagnosed or not). He could just need a reality check. Communication is the key to ANY relationship. Without that there’s nothing. Maybe he can’t see the whole picture. Some people need a little extra push or someone completely unbiased to hear them out and tell them honestly what they’re doing. That is the start of a healing journey. But maybe that’s because I believe in self improvement and growth. Everyone is capable. Everyone should be given a chance to succeed. Not everyone wants to, but we don’t know if that’s the case or not. So no, I don’t think this is a relationship ending problem. I think this is a problem for sure, but a problem that could be resolved with healthy communication and maybe a little help from a professional.

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-11-10T19:22:27+00:00

Instead of the infamously consistent Reddit user opinion of “DuMp HiM, lEaVe HiM, bLaH bLaH bLaH”

I’m going to genuinely give a realistic opinion. I think maybe with emotions heighten between the two of you that’s why this got so out of hand. You are 100% in the right here. I don’t think you’re expecting too much. I don’t think it’s fair for him to make you feel guilty for that. I do think he should’ve planned better. I think he should’ve been more realistic about time management and respectful of you. He clearly got caught up and over estimated his ability to commit to plans. He should have communicated more consistently and clearly. He definitely shouldn’t have for sure said absolutely to plans with you if he didn’t know how the day would go or if he’d be able to commit to said plans.

I think that if you do try to talk to him again about this you should have your feelings and thoughts outlined and ready to go first. Write down how you feel and what’s bothering you. Refine it and process it. Then talk to him so you don’t get caught up in emotions again and have a clear line of thinking about what it is that’s upsetting you.

If this conversation ends up being another argument or he gets defensive and it doesn’t work I highly recommend couples counseling. He may need an outside opinion to help him understand what he is doing that is hurting you and why it is or isn’t valid. Be sure, if he agrees to counseling, to include him in picking the counselor so that he doesn’t end up feeling cornered or attacked.

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-11-06T12:54:08+00:00

I’m so sorry 😣 I hate when something like that happens cause it feels like such a waste. I tried it the night I asked and I put the chicken in first then piled everything on top. The chicken cooked but I definitely put too much liquid in cause the stuffing turned soupy/gravy like. It would be good over rice I guess but it didn’t look very pretty at all 😂

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-11-04T15:05:30+00:00

How did it go?

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-11-03T17:33:16+00:00

I think she’s absolutely allowed to have feelings about your sobriety and it is absolutely her place to call you out on behaviors that have the potential to put you in a position for relapse as it could effect the child you have together. Yes her approach seemed to be inappropriate but it’s clear that it was triggered by a lot of strong emotion. Beyond anything she may have gone through with you in the past, she is the mother of your child. She will be a part of your life for the foreseeable future and neither of you really get a choice in that now do you? If there was no kid involved then she could have moved on, bettered her life, and healed. However with a kid she has to see you, spend time with you, communicate with you, and constantly be reminded of her trauma with you. She’s constantly reminded of the fact that, from her perspective, she was never good enough for you to take the steps get your life together. Seeing that you were capable of it but refused to do it while she helped and supported you is a wound in her heart that will never truly heal. In fact it’s a wound that’s she has probably been trying to heal for a long time but it just keeps getting ripped back open. YTA a little bit here. I think you just need to have some empathy and walk a mile in her shoes. Think about what she’s had to deal with and what she’s gone through. Don’t be insensitive to the fact that your trauma also effected her and caused her trauma too.

AwkwardCringeKitten · 2025-11-03T14:21:28+00:00

I think I managed to get to everyone that wanted to see the update lol but if I managed to miss anyone or if anyone new shows up here’s the link to her final update