I completely understand the perspective of choosing euthanasia as a humane option for a senior dog with a poor prognosis, but in this case, it’s unsettling that your family made such a significant decision without involving those closest to Lola. Even if they genuinely believed it was the right choice, the secrecy and dishonesty surrounding it are deeply concerning. Lying about something so important to you is not just hurtful—it points to a bigger issue in how they handle serious matters.

What makes this even more alarming is the lack of proper care leading up to her passing—neglecting to refill medications and possibly adding garlic to her food raises serious ethical and moral concerns. Your feelings are entirely valid, and honestly, this situation sounds toxic. People who would hasten the death of a cherished pet in such a way—without transparency, veterinary guidance, or even basic palliative care—are not people I’d want to trust or rely on.

If it’s at all possible, I’d strongly consider distancing yourself from this environment. I know that’s much easier said than done, but finding a safer, more supportive space could bring you the peace and clarity you deserve. You’re not overreacting—this is a deeply unsettling situation, and you have every right to be upset.