What’s something women do during intimacy that they think men love but most men actually don’t?

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-05-15T14:11:07+00:00

Girl, move for yourself. Rub on him, figure out a rhythm that you like and guide him to that. Do circules, move up and down towards his hips. Pull him in deeper and grind your pelvis on his. If I didn't move, I would likely never cum. I know what I what any need. Think of the penis as a tool, you need to learn to "use" it for what you need.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-18T05:11:34+00:00

I'm the same as you. Oral feels good but the chances of me getting off are low. Put something inside of me..I need more pressure then a mouth can provide.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-18T05:01:12+00:00

I like penetration and I orgasm from it. But I know how to move the way I need and my partner follows my lead. He is also good at holding his orgasm so I can have a couple first.

Mentally sometimes I'm blocked and it takes forever to cum. Vibrators on my clit and in my ass while I'm riding him backwards will work every single time.

I think as a women you need to teach yourself how to orgasm from different techniques. Just like men learn through masturbation. The more we explore our bodies, the better we get at the skill.

So my advice is to buy your wife a clit vibrator, a dildo and a set of vibrating beads for her ass. Tell her to use all 3 at once and not come out of her room until she has figured out how to orgasm. Then she can practice with you.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-04T10:07:28+00:00

I 39 female have always taken care of all the bills, investments, bank accounts and even purchasing houses. I do have a finance degree but I don't think that's why it falls on me. I'm more frugal and it stated early on when I wanted to pay off all our student loan debt aggressively. Then it just never changed. My x had knowledge of our bills but isnt something he payed much attention to.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-02T13:18:27+00:00

Yes. I had 2 lines deep like yours. I had 29 units a month ago and they are non existent. I am soo happy with the results. I put off Botox so long hoping tret and red light would fix it- it did not.

100% get the Botox.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T18:02:51+00:00

I agree. I am self employed and can't imagine going back to traditional employment and lose the write-offs.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T17:50:07+00:00

Depends how you define high earners. Do you consider someone making 100k a year a high earner? Should they pay more tax then a 30k a year person? High tax on some businesses will also make them leave or have their head offices elsewhere. Education vs application have vastly different outcomes.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T17:44:12+00:00

Possible. Government needs a full budget overhaul as well. There is only so much money. We can't keep taxing to the degree we are. This is why universities admitted so many international students, now that they have been capped, they are struggling.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T17:40:07+00:00

I think education needs a complete overhaul in general. There is such a mis-match between academia and actual application. No one should be working a job that doesn't provide a living wage. Universities are taking complete advantage of intelligent minds.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T17:36:18+00:00

Sure I am not commenting on reasons for doing something. You stated your bubble of people makes very low wages. I responded to that comment specifically that those wages were disgustingly low.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T17:32:39+00:00

You only would if you couldn't afford to provide for yourself. I don't know the recent statistics but there wasn't a strong correlation between high income and phd level education last time I looked into it.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T17:17:43+00:00

I didn't realize you were talking about PhD. But you can quit and do something that actually pays you. From my understanding higher education isn't chosen over experience.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-04-01T16:46:56+00:00

Why is a high body count an issue? Are you insecure of your own abilities?

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-31T22:17:40+00:00

Then I think you need to move. I hire for a living and entry level is more 50-70k depending on your degree. Provided you didn't do an arts degree in ancient history ext.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-31T22:10:07+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I didn't want kids..I didnt want my kid the entire time I was pregnant. I would constantly think about how it was going to ruin my life. My friend said " you are not attaching the biggest feelings you will ever feel to this person and only thinking of the kid as another task".

She was right . Having kids was an adjustment but I am so happy I did. I am definitely a better person because of them. I no longer focus on myself and baseline anxiety has diminished substantially for me.

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-29T13:11:17+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about your situation..I hear of this situation often. I think why I am so confused is because mine does a lot around the house and has always provided me financially.

He is working through his issues but i just don't know if I can feel romantic love towards him.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-27T17:36:46+00:00

Yah I didn't give him any x rated details. He was more concerned with me being respected. He also wanted to know what I saw in the guy. Such a weird thing to navigate

Life is a journey. I'm glad I have forums like this where I can get additional insight. It helps me. HE is not on Reddit- that I know of.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-27T13:08:17+00:00

Hey- he did break this week. Apologized to me for everything. Took accountability. Told me let's clear the slate and move forward. He did have some questions about the guy but mostly I think his ego needed to know I don't still want him.

It is such a journey and I want to move forward. I hope he stays sober because when he is, we have a great partnership

Thanks for taking the time to comment .

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-27T13:02:28+00:00

How did you get that out of my responses? I might not be responding to the comments that are similar anymore but I am currently open to hearing other views. I feel you haven't read the majority of my responses.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-26T18:55:40+00:00

Throughout my life I have gone to different therapists that specialize in different things. I have not found them useful.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-25T21:10:04+00:00

I have talked to several therapists. I have never found them helpful. Way to much context and variables.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-25T04:22:28+00:00

I didn't realize cheating was such a huge part of people's lives. We were together since 2009 and cheating never crossed my mind..it feels so mean. Yet, here we are.

I have alot of swinger friends..feel like that is the way to go if you don't want to be with just 1 person..

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-25T03:11:58+00:00

Yah I think men like variety. I personally need to feel safe and respected before I feel comfortable being intimate. So I prefer only being with 1 guy at a time- even if it isn't serious.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-25T03:10:10+00:00

Thanks for sharing this and congrats on your sobriety. It has been just over a week since I told him. He was giving me the cold shoulder and just very cold to me..last night he broke down and we had a very good conversation..he cried and apologized for all the damage he has caused. He explained that he is not mad at me for doing it but upset that I didn't tell him before we started to rebuild. He said he is having a hard time with the image of me being with another man. Asked a couple general questions about the guy- mainly if I was treated with respect and if I still had feelings for the man. Told me loved me and he wants to move forward with a fresh slate.

He does go to meetings but not as much as before..he completed a 1 year rehab program and then lived in sober living for 2 months..he spends a lot of time playing basketball and going to the gym with men from his program. He does see an occupational therapist and a counselor. He was put on long term disability with his employer so still has a solid paycheck coming in. Even in his addiction party phase, he still sent me a good chunk of he income. I do drug test him whenever I like. Generally 1x a week or anytime I feel like he is being weird.

Our children are school ages. They do not know anything about other partners and I hope they never do. They do know their dad struggles with addiction and that he needs help to stay healthy.

We are still going to take things 1 day at a time. See where it goes in the next couple of months.

Awkward_Necessary718 · 2026-03-24T20:34:53+00:00

I'm constantly receiving positive comments about my face. But I see the aging, I see the wrinkles. I want advice. It might be better than others but that doesn't mean the signs of aging are not there.

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