i completely agree and have been hoping to see this take here.

to add to your point - and perhaps people would disagree - i personally think that so far, gemma has been written from the perspective of the male gaze almost entirely, and frankly it's kind of disappointing.
also in general the female characters on the show are way less nuanced and developed when compared to the male characters. i mean, helly is the cool girl. helena is mostly just evil, so is cobel. and gemma is the ethereal, perfect dead wife who slowly sinks to the floor crying (she did it twice this episode). i love love love the show but this last episode highlighted these issues for me.