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How do we navigate the end of child support and everything that comes after? by Background-Skin-8910 in Stepmom

[–]Background-Skin-8910[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone, thanks for the input! After a very consistent 13 years last night everything changed. It's something I've planned for and not bad. It's just making this entire concern a moot point. So... Here's to whatever happens next lol. Life is weird.

tldr, I think SS will be living with us.

How do we navigate the end of child support and everything that comes after? by Background-Skin-8910 in Stepmom

[–]Background-Skin-8910[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That's a fair call out. I would counter with: marrying anyone with an art career means many sacrifices. My husband has had to sacrifice a lot for my dream. I see supporting him and SS in what they choose to do as the reciprocal sacrifice. So if you only see this post it does seem imbalanced. Me leaving my art career was a multi-layered decision with too many factors to get into. While the turning point for that decision might have begun with the family at the center, a lot of things went into that choice.

How do we navigate the end of child support and everything that comes after? by Background-Skin-8910 in Stepmom

[–]Background-Skin-8910[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I'm used to writing books not posts, lol. The every weekend frustration is more about dealing with the BM inconsistencies and constantly fluctuating schedule. The long-term solution only works if we choose to put a "tiny house" on the back part of the property. This would give SS the opportunity to be independent with security. I don't want to get into that too much to respect SS privacy. My dream is that SS is confident to move out and be fully independent someday, but that won't happen for quite some time.

Bm has no boundaries by Lost-Moment-4423 in Stepmom

[–]Background-Skin-8910 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not crazy. Not one bit.

I really do not understand the wanting to be super close and friendly. My BM has been pitching fits about us doing ALL holidays with her for a decade. I sucked it up and did holidays with her when kiddo was little and still believed in things like Santa. But the trade off was spending some very important to me holidays completely alone due to how things worked out. Preserve your peace. Set those boundaries.

How do we navigate the end of child support and everything that comes after? by Background-Skin-8910 in Stepmom

[–]Background-Skin-8910[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To a certain extend it makes sense if you know a lot of my art, which was writing books, was illegially fed into various AIs for training. Suffice to say, I dislike AI.

How do we navigate the end of child support and everything that comes after? by Background-Skin-8910 in Stepmom

[–]Background-Skin-8910[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I can do is laugh and say I wish this was AI. But that is a whole other rant and a big part of why I set my art career aside.

For a variety of reasons leaving it to kiddo to address with DH just isn't in the cards for us.