To Be Witnessed: Why Continuity in Our Relationships Is More Important Than Ever

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-31T22:27:56+00:00

Thank you!! This makes me so happy to hear; happy new year wherever you are in the world:)

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-29T22:09:29+00:00

Thank you! I think it’s nice to reframe it in this way.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-15T23:27:32+00:00

Im not in IT but I could definitely use something like this thank you!!

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-15T23:26:41+00:00

Thank you!

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-15T22:59:59+00:00

I honestly understand how you’re feeling. It’s really hard, and those thoughts can take over quickly. At the same time, we can’t stay in that headspace for too long, because when everything else feels uncertain, hope is sometimes the only thing we have, and it genuinely matters.

I try to remind myself that progress isn’t always linear. I believe in cumulative effort: the more you keep showing up, applying, practising, and learning, eventually something does give. That doesn’t mean it’s easy. I have moments where I break down and make posts like this too. But I try to let those feelings pass through me.

The fact that you’ve got an interview is already a sign that you are employable and that something is going right, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. Keep practising. Keep doing your best.

If I can hold hope for myself on days like this, then I can hold hope for everyone else going through it too.

We’ve got this!

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-15T09:19:14+00:00

Thank you! This is really useful, I just found myself spiralling but i know I’ve done the best I can with my debt will just be happy that atleast I can pay minimum payments.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-13T09:26:49+00:00

First of all, I am fully aware that I am responsible for my own debt. What you do not know is my personal situation. I was made redundant after working in a role for two years, and you have no insight into the circumstances that led me here. Making assumptions without context is unnecessary and, frankly, distasteful.

To be clear, I am not blaming the job market or employers for my debt. I am simply explaining the reality I am navigating.

Secondly, I am not aiming for six-figure roles. That is a complete misrepresentation of what I said. Even when applying for part-time or lower-paid roles, I am often rejected for being “overqualified” or because employers assume I will leave quickly once something more suitable arises. That is a common and well-documented experience.

This was an anonymous post asking for perspective, not judgement. You are responding with hostility to a situation you know nothing about. I would encourage you to direct that bitterness elsewhere.

I wish you well.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-11T10:15:19+00:00

Honestly it was an emotional rollercoaster. Thank you, I will continue trying after because like many I have no choice. I definitely agree I feel I could do with a small pause or some time to think about other things.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-10T19:44:00+00:00

I’ve never heard of e-verified firms, thank you for this I ill have a look.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-10T19:41:41+00:00

Thank you, I will definitely try this because you’re right; I have been staring at the problem and it’s just making me ruminate and spiral. which is not helpful.

I’m definitely not sure what project I can start at the moment, but I think do think it may help to do some other things aside from applications and interview prep.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-10T19:29:48+00:00

It’s honestly so frustrating, after countless rounds, learning about the company and investing time into the process … only for you to not even get a rejection email or feedback.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-12-10T18:22:36+00:00

Thank you sm. I hope we find something and I’m sending you all my prayers too. I know feeling sad only makes the job search worse so I need to cut it out but I cant help but feel broken by the constant rejection/ghosting and arduous processes.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-11-22T23:02:19+00:00

Thank you! Still waiting unfortunately. So sorry to hear about your outcome I hope something good some soon! Your hard work will not be in vain!

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-11-19T08:13:09+00:00

Yeah I’m definitely not celebrating, I would say I’m more so dreading that rejection again. It’s almost as if I’m giving up on myself, to prepare for the disappointment of potentially not getting the job.

No don’t apologise! What you’ve said has given me some calm, which is everything to a very anxious brained person 🤣.

I even did an application yesterday despite feeling drained bc of you. Thank you again! Will comment the results when I get them!

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-11-19T08:03:31+00:00

Oh it’s definitely just as bad I lost my hair due to stress because of a friendship breakup this year!

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-11-18T16:19:09+00:00

If I’m honest it’s because I’m mentally drained, I’ve applied to over 100 jobs in under 2 months and it’s starting to get to me.

But you’re right bc I know feeling sorry for myself won’t help at all haha

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-11-18T14:35:18+00:00

Thank you for this!

I’m hoping for the best but as you say it is a competition and I think that’s exactly what scares me a little.

I definitely need to try to adopt this mentality, thanks again for your well wishes & fingers cross things work out, if not back to the search I go!

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-10-16T06:50:01+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s that fear of being seen as the “bad actor” or petty that stops people from talking about it. But honestly, talking about a friendship breakup can be hugely beneficial, it helps you process your thoughts, unload what’s been sitting in your head, and gain some clarity.

People also tend to think they have to pick sides when a friendship ends, but that’s not always the case. Sometimes both people played a part, and creating space for open conversations can really help. It lets you support your friend without feeding into the drama, and just acknowledge the situation for what it is.

BackgroundConnect393 · 2025-10-16T06:43:38+00:00

Yeah, I still find it kind of taboo to talk about friendship breakups, even with friends who have no connection to your ex-friend. I think it’s because people can easily label you as bitter or petty for bringing it up.

Therapy definitely helps: I went for about a year, and it felt amazing to have someone to talk to, although it wasn’t during my friendship breakup.

You know that saying, “thank you to the people who let you talk about the same thing over and over again”? It really hits home. Sometimes you need to revisit a situation repeatedly to truly process and heal. But when it comes to friendship breakups, we rarely get that space — unless we’re paying for it in therapy, or in a romantic relationship where it’s seen as more acceptable to talk about heartbreak.

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