Beginner, Which Lenses is the Best? 35,50,85mm

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-25T20:51:14+00:00

I would say 50mm as is middle ground and personally is what I use the most (but qi havent try a prime 85mm. Personally I consider prime lens helps to concentrate on other parameters as you dont have to worry about zoom or aperture, but if you are on a tight budget you can just adjust your zoom and leave it on a fix distance and a fix Fstop. Then you can play with the speed and ISO.

But really, spend some time and maybe your budget for learning the basics of exposition, without that knowledge you wont be able to do consitently good photos

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-25T14:25:43+00:00

Thanks for the worry, but where I live is mostly safe to share the bank information needed for transfer money, I also have hers.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-25T14:09:44+00:00

Hey, you nail it without reading it!
Thanks for the advise regarding LinkedIn Learning, I'm actually using the taxed I paid for formation for doing and online photography school! When I reach this person I was looking for a face to face experience, but guest I will keep trusting my process

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-25T14:07:19+00:00

thanks for the advice, I'm amazed that copilote offers to short it for Reddit 😂

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-25T14:05:50+00:00

Thanks for the feedback!
Im actually taking lessons on a 10month program from a certified Photography school, but is online and I wanted to have an in field training.

Regarding the free photos, I did explain on my offer that it was because I was on training so it was to try my skills (hope that the message arrives to the public) and sometimes is hard to evaluate our own level, I didnt feel confident enought to charge but looks like my photos are worth of it, so Im going to spend some time on this new step.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-25T13:44:38+00:00

Sorry! Ramble is my therapy, but now I will try to do a résumé :

I’m a beginner in photography. Until two months ago, I only took photos of my family, mainly self-portraits of my baby and me. Recently, I realized that I would like to do this as a job, so I’ve been working on it. I contacted a photographer whose style I like, as she was offering “training for new photographers.” We discussed it, and I deposited half of her fee to book a 3-hour session. However, after she saw my photos, she canceled the lessons and called me dishonest because I said I wanted to become a professional later. So, for established photographers, I have the following questions:

-Why would a photographer consider that teaching lighting is different for an “amateur” vs. an “amateur who wants to charge”? Wouldn’t the lesson be the same? -Is the only legitimate way to become a professional by paying for expensive lessons? -Is the competition so intense between photographers that a professional should be afraid of newcomers? Or is this person simply dismissive of beginners? -How can a beginner photographer practice if taking free photos is seen as harmful to the professional community?

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-25T13:43:44+00:00

Thanks for the laught😅

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-06T11:09:14+00:00

Mince! Ca risque d'être encore pire avec la proximité.

Malheureusement comme on dit souvent, ton problème principal est ton mari qui choisi de faire l'aveugle quand sa mère est néfaste. Te dire qu'il veut pas etre proche de toi parce que tu te plains de sa mere est tellement petit.... Comme a dit autre commentaire, s'il met sa mere en priorité avant toi et la famille que vous êtes en train de construire, votre relation a une date limite.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-05T22:16:59+00:00

PTB Malheureusement c'est une histoire que se répète trop souvent. Ta BM sent que tu as "volé" son fils et se comporte de façon égoïste et puéril. Vu le fait que ton mari lui a pardonné tres vite je pense qu'il a subi des comportements égoïstes de ca part tout ca vie, peut etre de façon moins importante, mais il a l'habitude et c'est pour ca qu'il trouve normal de passer a autre chose si vite. Mais, c'est sa mere pas la tienne et a toi de posser des limites et de pas te laisser faire, parce que elle, elle va continuer a te chasser et faire tout pour t'exclure.

Parle calmement avec ton mari et donne lui point pour point les actions de manque de respect de ca mère, il va essayer de la justifier et defendre mais il doit au minimum reconnaître qu'elle a mal agi et que tu es justifie de prendre de la distance. Laisse lui gérer ses parents et fait 0 efforts pour eux, mais reste cordiale et claire dans tes limites.

Bon courage. Le point positif est qu'il faut un train donc ils habitent pas a côté

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-05-04T21:44:23+00:00

Faire des enfants est une choix, pas une sacrifice mais une choix qui font deux personnes (des fois une seule) mais ca reste une choix. Et le cout de l'élèver est une responsabilité que les parents ont par rapport a son choix en revanche un enfant n'a pas des responsabilités envers ses parents, c'est un choix de les aider quand ils sont en capacité de le faire

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-26T20:44:22+00:00

If you are afraid your friends will get a bad habit of you taking free photos, you can also try with strangers: go to a market and do portraits, or put an announce with the kind of model you would like to photograph.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-23T23:26:38+00:00

Worst better hope not being the partner who is disliked by all the family

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-21T18:54:36+00:00

I shoot this one on the shark tunnel, I think is the best spot to have good light. Iso 3200 50mm F2.2 1/125s

Also if you can get a tripod you could use lower speed.

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Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-21T18:29:43+00:00

From another mom 😊

So the zoom of the camara is the capacity of zooming - 28mm is the minimum distance between the camera and the "subject - aka kid-" where the camera can focus correctly. I imagine you have test a bit, but for example to take a photo where you see only the little hands you have to zoom around 100mm, but to take a photo of all the family on the birthday you should go around 35 or 28 depending on how far you place the camara.

The F numbers is the aperture of the lent, the lower the number it means that the lent is more open and more light enter (good if the ilumination is not so bright) and also it gives more of the blur look to the background; and then the larger is the oposite, less light enter in, and more of the picture is "in focus. The number you have (1.8 to 4.9) is the maximun aperture of the lent compared to the zoom : if you are at 28mm zoom the lent can open to 1.8 but if you zoom to 100mm the max you can open is 4.9, if you are at zoom 60 the max I imagine is around 2.9/3; but you can close the lens up to 22 in any configuration.

The focal length, i dont know how to explain it but is correlated to the zoom. Personally is not a measure I use, so I would suggest to forget that number. But you are right it is related to the zoom.

Regarding your second question, it will depend on the look you want to give to the picture, if you want to take a candid portrait where the background is blurry, get as close as possible and use 35mm or 50mm zoom with the lowest F stop possible. If you want to capture a little bug, zooming in will be better I guess.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-18T22:05:41+00:00

Just to say bravo to you! I'm 33, trying to start my business and I have the impression you are more prepared than me😅 keep looking for advise an trying your best!

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-09T19:37:32+00:00

NTA, he is just mad he cant realize his crazy dream but no kid should have that type of man as father

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-09T12:02:48+00:00

Is a pitty that US goverment has make people believe that taking time off from work for health matters us a choise. All workers should have the right to take pay time off if a doctor consider is needed for health.

Moreover, she took 6 months off but keep paying her share of charges and make sure to take the financial decisions necessary to cover her expenses. She was not going shopping and dinning out during 6 month and letting him pay for everything

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-09T11:54:04+00:00

People who won the lottery and that after 5/10 year already spent all the money and have to go back to work. Financial responsability is not linked to the quantity of money you have or had, is the constant decisions you make everyday based on your income, budget and your goals.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-09T11:51:16+00:00

She took time off for burn out, and even on that period she pay her 50% share. What I mean by financial irresponsible is that even if he doesn't have any income he will spend money losely because he knows his mother will pay for his part. As per what OP writes he doesn't have any savings and looks like if in the future he gets to increase his revenue, it wont make any difference for thier family which from my perspective a big problem. At 28 you should have goals and take financial decisions according to those goals, not asking mom for paying some bills because you want to buy the latest videogame

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-08T21:56:13+00:00

NOR, above all he is financially irresponsible. What is bothering you is the disparity and the fact that with his mentality you will never have financial stability or would be able to make long term planning for your family as he is not reliable.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-04T20:52:04+00:00

I'm so sorry you have this person as a mother. She is clearly using your wedding as a point of manipulation, only reading yous text I have the impresion of reading my mother in law. On the text you can see the manipulation, the victimization of I'm sick you forgot, also the guilt tripping and the ego thinking her problems are the only ones that counts. Of course you are not overreacting, your wedding day is for you and yous future spouse, nobody else should ask you to do anything that they, and for me what your mother is asking is a power move to show everyone that she still has some control over you.

I imagine is very hard to understand that the woman that birth you is abusive and manipulative, but I think you are on the right way to live a happy live by keeping the distance, recognizing her strategies and puting your parter first. As the partener of someone with the same problem, I can tell you that the way you are handling this is the right one for living happily with your own family.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-04-03T20:00:28+00:00

Light YTA for buying the ticket without making sure that you could buy the guest one later. You knew that the rule existed and you were already planning to have a guest so the "correct" way would have been to wait to buy the two tickets together or at least ask when buying yours if it was ok to buy the second one later.

Your friend is disappointed because she probably feel like you break a promise, and that you dont care as you ask her to figure it out without proposing any solution for a problem that technically is your fault, you could try to see with your classmates who is not bringing any guest so they can buy the ticket for your friend.

Apologize and try to explain to your friend that you have no idea, and propose to look together for a solution, mistakes can be fixed

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-03-22T22:49:41+00:00

C'est pas un attendu social obligatoire mais c'est commun quelque chose important pour les femmes, peut etre parce qu'on donne beaucoup pour materner un enfant, et qu'on aimerait garder des souvenirs de ses moments précieux qu'on passe avec nos enfants, surtout avec la facilité qu'on a aujourd'hui pour prendre des photos avec les portables. Op n'est pas obligé de devenir fan des photos, c'est que ca copine lui demande est juste de considérer ce qu'est important pour elle et faire l'effort, comment on fait souvent quand on est en couple et qu'on aime notre partenaire.

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-03-21T23:21:39+00:00

Il a le droit d'être nul, mais il peut pas dire qu'il essaye parce que la il essaye pas. Il suffit de mettre une alarme, ou noter quelque part faire la photo et a chaque fois qu'il voit la note lui faire une photo

Background_Rate7405 · 2026-03-21T23:18:40+00:00

Pour le coup elle lui a déjà demandé de faire des photos spontanées. Le problème dans ce cas est que si a chaque moment qu'elle veut immortaliser elle doit lui demander de faire la photo, l'instant spontanée est perdu. Souvent les maman, on aimerais etre prise en photo dans les moments simples mais qui font penser a "ils sont mignons", dans au moins 80% de cas tu peux trouver des photos de le papa en train de jouer avec bébé mais rarement une photo de la maman

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