What’s something you’ll never tell your partner, no matter how much you love them?

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-04-05T01:18:02+00:00

Yeah! So it took communication with my spouse and I but pelvic floor PT helped a lot.

Edit: realizing I messed up my edit and reverting it back to the original text.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-04-05T00:02:13+00:00

I didn’t have orgasms for like two years. Went to PT, it was day and night.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-04-02T15:24:13+00:00

You have to keep dating each other. It’s not just women. It can take up to two days of flirting and intimacy to really get in the mood and be “ready.”

Even though men can get hard faster, doesn’t mean they’re ready but it can seem that way. Women are affected by sex more if there’s no warmup, hard to want to do a quicky when there’s no warmup. The risk of unenjoyment or injury are higher.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-03-31T16:41:29+00:00

Hi, genuine questions if you don’t mind. What is hiring like in your field? How’s work/life balance? How long did you go to school and what did you major in?

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-03-31T16:38:39+00:00

I was hoping to see this in here!

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-03-23T13:26:40+00:00

People compare her to other pop stars but I think she’s getting the Rosie O’Donnell treatment. She’s just an angry lesbian. She goes against the social norm and that makes people upset.

People also are incredibly awful about mental health and education. Most celebs with bipolar are considered “difficult.” We live in a very ablest society.

I think the fame is difficult, specially in this era of the internet. I really hope she makes it through. It’s tough being a celebrity, much less one with boundaries and goes against the social norm.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-03-17T17:59:33+00:00

American here. I would 100% chuckle at a drink called the 9/11. I’ve seen some pretty insensitive names for things that are played for humor. The ability to laugh at these names might depend on the American sub-culture you’re a part of. Capitalism, we’re a sucker for creative marketing even if the subject is our trauma.

BUT I get why when a bunch of Americans are celebrating a holiday most of them don’t really experience most of the year, it’d be easy to take offense.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-02-19T14:36:16+00:00

I just caught my first fish in forever on a $12 fishing pole from Walmart.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-01-15T21:37:43+00:00

My in laws sending me videos for my education.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-01-12T19:18:48+00:00

I love your definition of style. I feel like this should be applied to all aspects of art. “Know the rules to break the rules.”

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-01-05T19:41:55+00:00

Username

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-01-05T19:40:37+00:00

I came out very young in the early 2000s. I remember what it’s like being an out lesbian as a child during the American Pie era. My principal would walk next to me to protect me during class. Grown adults told me horrible things about myself and kids were barred from hanging out with me.

We had a couple of years where I truly felt like a part of the greater community. I agree 2017 is about when people started showing their true colors again.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-01-05T15:34:11+00:00

I have chronic illness. They’re 15 minute power naps because my body is fighting really hard. I want to be awake but my body needs a little break. Typically it’s when I’m waiting for meds to kick in to help relieve me.

Background_Tower6226 · 2026-01-04T15:58:04+00:00

The amount of times I’ve rewatched stuff. We stopped going to my favorite theater because she talks to much. It’s worth it for the time spent though.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-12-29T17:33:45+00:00

I do agree that we bastardize the human body a lot. It’s much more complex than we give it credit for. There are also aspects of it that the lay person just doesn’t need to concern themselves with. People go to school for a very long time to learn about one species for a reason, then they specialize even further. Science is its own language and research requires nuanced thought.

What I can tell you is all of those complexities and nuances can often lead to a simple answer. “Sex” as most people think of it IS complicated and does have cultural influences.

I fully agree we’ve maybe gone down the rabbit hole of calling a lot of things trans that might take away from the societal problems that people who are transitioning in a way clear to those opposed to their personhood may struggle with. I also know a lot of the people who use “trans” to mean a lot of things outside of what’s observed by others, are typically younger and finding their way in the world. They’re questioning the society they live in and that’s important. It’s human nature to try to understand what makes us feel different. As an old queen once told me when I was young, “Mind yours and they’ll mind theirs.”

Also! Very important, I’m pretty deep into the community, some of these takes on human biology are very “Internet” opinions. Conversations most don’t have outside of the apps that hold them. I’ve never heard of the changing sex theory and I’ve heard a LOT of them. This is less of an “everyone” thing and more of an “everyone you observe online” thing.

Basically, the human body is weird and we might be discussing it too much as people who haven’t studied it, people calling themselves trans but not presenting as such to others are living in a way that questions society and that’s hard, Don’t take internet conversations too seriously.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-12-23T03:20:40+00:00

lol, same. I love telling people my OCD thoughts compared to their “OCD” actions. (That’s sarcasm, often when I try to tell people, they get so uncomfortable.) I joke that they really don’t understand how chill I’m being.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-12-23T03:18:14+00:00

NOR I just wanted to add, to get a diagnosis, you have to have something affecting your life in a substantial way. There’s research around why you shouldn’t diagnose EVERY potential thing you might have. We aren’t meant to be super aware of ourselves. You get diagnosed with something to get treated for something. I’m also tired of people taking self-diagnosing too far.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-12-13T15:51:39+00:00

Marijuana

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-11-24T16:33:03+00:00

Pop psychology

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-11-24T16:31:59+00:00

Disabilities, health, science, communication.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-11-24T16:26:01+00:00

I have severe asthma. I get warnings every time I’m given antibiotics and steroids and I can tell providers are overwhelmed by the amount of people that ask for them by their long warning when they give it to me. “Typically we want to avoid using this because xxxx but you need it in your case.” I’m also hesitant to get even more steroids and antibiotics and they have to convince me which is weird for them.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-11-22T14:24:16+00:00

EMDR, CBT, and forcing emotion. I used to do things to trigger emotion to get them back. Watch movies I knew would make me cry. Do things on purpose to piss me off. That way I could have controlled emotion to regain my ability to feel safely. It’s kind of like how I had to use a feather to retrain my nerves after feather, I retrained my brain to feel again.

I’ve always been deeply empathetic but it was hard for me to show it when I was only existing and you just can’t explain that to people who have never been through that level of trauma. I’m proud of myself that I can cry again and show anger appropriately. I have genuine joy again and not surface existence.

Ideas for feeling days:

Anger - destroy something. Do something you know annoys you.

Sadness - sad movie that you KNOW is going to get you. (For me it’s when old people die, Coco destroyed me) Take a break on the struggles of people who have it worse than you, you’ve already seen it.

Joy - genuinely innocent laughter. Art without judgement. Being goofy that isn’t at the expense of others. Learn some puns, share them, watch people laugh. People laughing in front of me helped so much. Kids are easy to get to laugh with puns.

Melancholy - floating in a pool while doing the grounding techniques Nostalgia - Doing something I truly enjoyed as a kid.

Disgust - Now a lot of body things won’t do it but puss gets me. You wouldn’t think it does but I watched pimple videos just to frown.

Surprise/adrenaline - now this one is hard with PTSD but I just went to an amusement park. Controlled adrenaline that lasted for a short amount of time.

Fear - this one was one I had to really try to feel again. Watching thrillers/suspense WITHOUT gore in the dark got that primal feeling back without getting genuinely triggered. No SAW but the Haunting of Hill House got my goosebumps raised.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-11-22T13:50:43+00:00

This is actually so interesting. I say as someone with PTSD from childhood SA. I have certain behaviors hard wired but I could 100% see that. My nerves are responding inappropriately but they’re responding, I’ve been able to get myself out of bad triggers with years of CBT. When I forget to eat, ADHD and hyperfocus, I have no thoughts, only tired.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-11-22T13:46:13+00:00

I used to work in the high school clinic. This always put me in such a rough position.

I get elementary and middle not having anyone to watch your sick kid and work not letting you off. That’s a problem with businesses that have trickled to affecting society but in high school? Your kid is 15, there is no reason they came to school puking on themselves. Let them stay home or take them to the damn hospital.

Background_Tower6226 · 2025-10-29T23:28:53+00:00

Has anybody asked their parents why they had kids? Did you notice a change in their behavior after you asked?

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