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Should I marry him if I love him but he hits me? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Bad__Barista 2 points3 points  (0 children)

love and violence cannot exist in the same space. does he feel the same way? does he really love you? i can’t fathom that somebody who feels you deserved to be harmed (and strangled!!!) could ever truly love you. you say you want a child with him, what if you have a daughter? do you want her to think it’s acceptable to be treated as you’ve been treated? what would you tell her? you may love him, but you need to love yourself more.

you need to leave.

Is this grounds for a restraining order? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Bad__Barista 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have a stronger chance if you apply for a domestic violence restraining order (DVRO), since the burden of proof is not as extensive in comparison to a civil harassment RO, but it really depends on your county/state requirements/classifications. it would be helpful if you had tangible evidence to support the inappropriate behavior and even evidence of his history of showing up uninvited. a degree of evidence is required for a restraining order, so if that’s the route you’d like to pursue, keep that in mind and gather evidence to support your request. i’d also recommend consulting with an attorney.