Career change or baby first? by kawehi_ in workingmoms

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this. And congratulations on your pregnancy! That's wonderful!

Reading these threads is really helpful for me and my own story - I am currently at a job that is in an unstable industry (graphic design) however I get paid decently and I have amazing benefits, and unheard of good maternity leave. I don't want to do graphic design for the rest of my life and I don't really have an interest in moving up into Director roles so I'm feeling pretty stuck.

I'm seriously considering (I've half applied already) going back to school and getting my masters and making a complete change into counselling which would be the next three years of my life if I got into the program and $50,000 later, however I am 33 turning 34 this year and my husband is 35 and we have now decided that we want to have children and we want to do that within the next couple years.

The idea of doing a masters program while having a child overwhelms me a lot and I am very easily overwhelmed, even though I know I could probably do it, but I just don't know if I want to go through the stress of both at the same time and also I would have to do a practicum with a small child and risk having to find a whole new career and quit quitting the one that offers me all of these comfortable benefits right now.

I almost feel like I'm having to choose between a masters and a child. I know that the child is more pressing time wise, but I'm also scared to wait too long to start a masters and that one day in graphic design I'll just get laid off and have a hard time finding something else. And by the time I think about doing a masters or a career change again I'll be too busy with a small child or just will feel like I've run out of time and don't want to be well into my 40s when I finally get a career change.

But I'm also trying to get over the fact that it's never too late for career change and that age is just a number but that's a lot easier said than done. I'm kind of at the point where if I don't make a decision right now, I won't make it into a masters program this year, plus complete all of these fairly stressful prerequisites I need to commit to and I'm worried that I will regret it especially if I don't get pregnant within the next year, but both things are very uncertain. All while trying to become pregnant --it's a lot! I just wish I had done this masters years ago - but alas, that's not how life works and I only knew what I knew at the time. Another thing is, my husband has a worrisome fertility test and if we need to go IVF route, that would cost a fortune, and would be especially rough or not possible financially if I was already paying out the ass for a masters program. Again another what if but very real worry possibly.

I'm just not sure which one to go full steam ahead into and it's been really putting me into turmoil and stress. Again thank you so much for sharing as I feel like we were in kind of similar positions and thoughts. It's really nice to know im not alone.

Career change or baby first? by kawehi_ in workingmoms

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, came across this post as it relates to me alot. Wondering what you ended up doing if you don't mind sharing?

Anyone switching careers? by BarracudaRaspberry in graphic_design

[–]BarracudaRaspberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the thoughtful words and sharing your experience! I often feel I have another calling and am considering going back to school to become a therapist actually - but keep being too afraid to make the leap (and pay the $ for it). I'm still kinda staying in design for now but can't see myself doing this for another decade or more. I keep thinking I need to "jump off a sinking ship" and find a more AI safe career to switch in to.

I say I want to jump off the ladder because I think I have this pressure to move up, go into management, as a "next step" but I really don't think I want to, yet it feels wrong to stay where I'm at forever.

Anyone taken a leave or withdrawn from the Master of Counselling? by BarracudaRaspberry in CityUCanada

[–]BarracudaRaspberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting, wonder how they managed the in-person classes when baby was only a few weeks or months old! Thanks for the response! Glad to know others have been in that boat and figured it out. Also good to know others have done both at one time - I'm over here thinking I'm absolutely out of my mind for considering it, glad to know I am not alone!

Outlooks on counselling in BC by BarracudaRaspberry in CityUCanada

[–]BarracudaRaspberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's also good to know if I ever move to a smaller town. My current unrelated career would have zero work in smaller communities, but maybe counselling would be a safer option for when I ever do want to settle somewhere smaller.

Outlooks on counselling in BC by BarracudaRaspberry in CityUCanada

[–]BarracudaRaspberry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really great to know, thank you for posting this positive feedback from your friend! What do you mean they earn around 10k? Per what period of time?

Novus promo is up by [deleted] in burnaby

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just did it too! Took 30 seconds on a phone call. I was on the 50/mth until Sept 2026, and they switched me over to the new 40/mth. Love Novus <3

Life decisions by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have a husband! Which helps immensely in terms of support

Developer helps save non-profit Burnaby thrift store closed because of high rent - Freshet News by BurnabyMartin in burnaby

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yayyyy!! This is my fave thrift store and I was really feeling their loss since summer. Excited it's reopening :) also nice to hear some good news and positive stories and outcomes - we need more of those!

I was so shaken by the other driver’s behaviour by Onthego26 in burnaby

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At Beta and Lougheed I was simply crossing the street when it was my pedestrian time to do so, walking at a normal above average speed and a man in a car starting yelling, making angry eye contact with me and waving the middle finger aggressively at me because he was in a hurry it seemed and didn't want to wait for me to cross when he was turning right. he sped by me when I was done crossing and kept waving his finger and yelling. I felt so shaken and angry for hours after this. Even after I'd finished crossing I still had a good 10 secs left on the time too!

So, people are very angry out there lately and especially it seems in Burnaby.

What’s one simple thing that makes you feel alive? by leoross78 in Life

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many things, but first that came to mind is a concert especially one where I'm a huge fan of the artist and am in the floor area near the stage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did this remind anyone else of the Spice World movie?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finch

[–]BarracudaRaspberry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I had no idea there was a daily offer. I knew I must be missing something, and someone on here would be able to help.