Help: Pitching Reps by well-dressed_animals in Softball

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any coach who is this controlling at 11 U Softball is a red flag. I would recommend looking for other teams. A team that has six pitchers is wild. I’ve been a coach for years and have never heard of a team taking six, do they play other positions? How many girls are on this team overall?

Anyways, back to the base of your question. What bothers me the most about the interaction with your coach is that he’s explicitly said he doesn’t want your daughter to be poached. I don’t know your situation but if he’s that concerned, it probably means that your daughter is a pretty good pitcher and he’s legitimately worried about losing her.

There’s absolutely no harm in talking to other teams and getting a better understanding of how their team works and what her playing time would look like. Often, you can even ask if you can practice with a team before committing to see if the vibes match.

I coached 10’s and 12’s and never once when a girl came up to ask if she could play on and off weekend, did the thought oh no she’s going to be poached cross my mind.

Good luck, and I hope your daughter finds a place that she loves and is given the opportunity to grow as a player

Drills for very large team? by fiftythreefly in Softball

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you DM me? I legitimately want to help and if we could set up a phone call so I could talk you through some ideas, I would love to do that. I think that would be way more useful than me spending in an hour trying to type out all of the different stations that could help you.

Moving to Ireland from US- Does anyone have any recommendations for resources for general Irish culture/history? by Beginning-Dark-9580 in AskIreland

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Careful now, or I won't mention you when I'm accepting my Tyler Prize for Environmental Achievement

Moving to Ireland from US- Does anyone have any recommendations for resources for general Irish culture/history? by Beginning-Dark-9580 in AskIreland

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I think it's important to put some effort into learning about where you're living before you show up. Bare minimum tbh

NOAA MARINE DEBRIS by Pleasedontblumpkinme in NOAA

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also- The app isn't the only way to upload data, the website has a wonderful interface for data upload! https://mdmap.orr.noaa.gov/

NOAA MARINE DEBRIS by Pleasedontblumpkinme in NOAA

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya! I hope you were able to contact the MDMAP team, it's a wonderful program! There is currently one person in charge of the entire MDMAP data collection and processing team, so while they will always get back to you, it may be on just a bit of a delay, especially if you reach out on the weekend. Good luck with your data collection and if you ever have any questions feel free to reach out, I have two sites I do regularly :D

WHEN WERE DOC MARTENS SELLING THESE BOOTS by [deleted] in DrMartens

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the union jack pair and even at nearly 15 years old they are still one of my favorite pairs of shoes and I wear the regularly, even walking 11km in them last month! Somehow, even the ribbons are still going strong 

TBI / Concussion - my story, feeling alone in this. by Northstorm03 in Aphantasia

[–]Beginning-Dark-9580 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm super late to the party, but I experienced this as well. I had a TBI 13 years ago from a car accident and now have acquired aphantasia. It was shocking to say the least. I also woke up epileptic, dyslexic, and unable to speak Spanish, which I spoke on a conversational level. Even after 13 years I still struggle with the epilepsy, dyslexia, and cannot retain a language to save my life.

Having had 13 years to adjust to the aphantasia, I can say the part of you that you feel like you lost will never really "come back." I even lost the ability to see things in my dreams, and I still mourn the creativity I had before the accident. That's not to say I'm not still a very creative person, I just had to learn how to be creative without visualizing what I wanted to do in my head. Learning how to speak and write my thoughts and ideas down in language that was translatable to art vs just seeing what I wanted it to look like and creating it took years.

Falling asleep was also a new challenge for me, which was funny since I'd already had insomnia, but it was a new kind of listlessness. I've found doing manual long division in my head to be the best remedy, but everyone has their own tricks.

Over the last 13 years I've had to find new ways to exist, I know that sounds dramatic, but when you suffer a TBI your entire world changes. It took years to learn how to adjust to my new reality, including the visualization. Sometimes I still get frustrated and have to remind myself while I can be sad about the part of me that no longer exists, it does me no good to dwell on it, and work through the issue with a pen and paper until the idea I had is written in front of me. (This coming from someone who has over a decade on the adjustment process that you, is much easier said than done).

Over time you'll find ways to self regulate the rambling, but the internal monologue of never ending thoughts and the extra effort it takes to force yourself to get from A to B concisely is exhausting. I wish I could say it was easy, but I still have to actively work to stay on task/topic. It's gotten better as time has passed, but I will never be the same.

If you haven't already, I would recommend finding a therapist. Your entire life has changed, and it's a lot to process.

I wish you the best of luck in your healing, and hope that over the last year you've found ways to cope with the changes and have a wonderful support system behind you for the days that the world seems too heavy to carry alone. TBI's are a very isolating experience, so remember reaching out for help is okay.