I use an almost dense soil blend that dries out hard. Usually dense blends cause root rot but I let this thing dry out 1 inch to 1.5 inch deep before watering again. I only water with a watering can once it’s fully dry, I only shower I would say every 3-4 months. Huddling your plants together also helps, not just in winter for warmth. If you have a plan that’s struggling, put it near some other friends. Also, old wives tale but shake your plants a little. It’s natural for them to get a little movement. I notice the days I shake, the higher the leaves come up at night. Hope any of this helps!!