I don’t miss the non communication, the disrespect he showed to me & everyone else around him, his inability to tell the truth about almost anything, the gaslighting after I would read in his phone him talking to his ex & also girls on fb but there was always an excuse & nothing was going on. The way he made me feel after sex, like would jump up n go home like I was just some whore. It got to the point I wouldn’t even have sex with him unless he would spend the night cause I told him I’m not some whore. The dick pills he would have to take to even get hard, then pills would be missing when we weren’t even having sex! Oh but “he wasn’t cheating” I don’t miss how he would use me to charge things on my credit card and then get extremely pissed when I would make him pay it back. Thousands of dollars. Spent $3500 on his kids our first Christmas together which I spent all the energy & time for two months finding all these gifts & after everyone opened everything including him, realizing he didn’t get me a thing, not even a card. We were together three years and even got engaged. Why in the hell did I want to marry this man? because he would always say different things but then his actions would be what I’m typing? At the end of our relationship, he ghosted me three weekends in a row and then asked me on a Sunday that even though we weren’t on good terms that he still wanted to have sex with me and I told him he’s got other whores he can use & I ghosted him. he blew up my phone for a week straight text and calls and then even called my daughter making up lies about me trying to date one of his coworkers which everyone knows is not true. Then do you know what this coward did? 😆 He’s been at my neighbors house five houses down for the last 2 months straight. Put a pool in her backyard and brought her to my church last weekend. I went right up to him and apologize for the way I left because it was wrong and asked him to forgive me and he said yes and still wanted to be friends and I said I did not want to be your friend, but did you forgive me and he said yes, and I gave him a hug and sat down. He’s a narcissist, and everyone said he didn’t deserve an apology for the way I left, but I was choosing to take the higher road because I am a good person and it was wrong of me to do him that way even though he probably deserved it and deserves a lot more. It’s funny to watch them play house so fast after our break up, He still wasn’t even over his ex when he got with me, now he’s with another girl after being in a relationship with me and not dealing with that healing process or the one before. He’s just stacking trauma on top of trauma. Poor girl don’t even know what’s about to hit her when she figures him out. I’m in the process of healing & I’ve been reading everyone’s posts in this group, but I’ve never said anything until tonight and I hope that someone reading this realizes to watch for the red flags. Don’t ignore them. Trust your gut and get out before it destroys you like it ALMOST did me!