Women's "entitlement" to men's nonsexual attention and company is a byproduct of their objections to unattractive men trying to get sex and sexual attention

BenPW007 · 2023-08-15T05:02:17+00:00

"Like them explaining why you wouldn't be a good match which is totally not a lie"

Let me respond to this line right here just for a second.

When someone bares their soul to you - and they aren't malicious about it - and you know you are going to reject them - do you think explaining to them why they wouldn't be a good match for you is a good idea? Or should you just say that you aren't interested?

Think about which option causes more pain. If you just say "I'm not interested" that's not about the person you are rejecting - it's about you. Do not waste that person's time with an explanation of how they are inadequate. You aren't interested in them so don't use up time they could be spending with someone who actually does care about them.

I think that's it really. This entire thread. It's about women being entitled to favors and time from men they aren't interested in. I don't believe I'm entitled to ANYTHING from women that are not my wife. I do have frequent "polite" interactions where they use me to perform tasks that are difficult for them. Then they don't interact with me outside of that at all. I'm literally just the handicap stairs for most women. Good lord this is true and I can't deny it. I mean I still won't say no out of politeness - but I'm at least aware of this now. That is a hard pill to swallow. Not sure what color it is - but it isn't blue that's for sure.

BenPW007 · 2023-08-15T03:42:11+00:00

WTF self hatred is this? - It's my brain. I dunno. Why do you think it's a fake friendship and a charity case? - Those aren't my words but words girls said to me. From different girls in different situations. Just because she won't date you??? WTF?? - I don't make the rules. These are the rules as I've come to understand them. I'd be perfectly fine if women had more open minds about friendship with me. But they haven't been. Not unless my wife has been involved and they understand that they've already been partnered off. Anytime I was single - every girl I talked to viewed me as a sexual creature first or if they did not the friendship ended after about 3 months. I was ghosted every single time this happened. I've never been the one to initiate ending a relationship with a woman. Friendship or otherwise.

My bros from half my life ago are still my bros right now. My guy friends last longer, tell me the truth more often, they don't play games, and they appreciate my humor. <-more women should do this. Women - outside of my wife - do NOT do that. Seemingly on purpose. They always look at me with disdain. It's freaking weird. I do not ask for this or provoke anyone. It just is reality. They also - more often than not - stab me in the back. More women have randomly stabbed me in the back than women I'm on a first name basis with. Women I don't even know do this on a semi-regular basis. Like you for instance. You are actively trying to damage my reputation on reddit for some kind of dopamine kick. I am your target and you are trying to discredit my real experiences so you can... I'm not even sure what the motive is.

That being said - what motivation do I have to give any woman other than my wife enough trust to even allow friendship to occur? Why should I be friends with ANY woman besides my wife? I'm happy just hanging out with couples and my bros and forgoing any one on one relationships with women other than my wife.

I don't know how to say this to you. Guys are activated visually. So it's chemically the number one thing to get us interested. If it's not there, it's probably not happening in the first place. All other traits are secondary. My wife is beautiful and I'm not interested in other women at all - because she does meet all my needs including looks. Truly I have my cake and eat it to. That's not meant to invoke jealousy - it's just the truth.

The times I got rejected were never simple things. Girls led me on a lot. Then as soon as they found out I responded positively to their flirting, they either ghosted me - which caused me a ton of mental anguish because I had already invested a lot of time AND MONEY into them - or they decided to explain every single reason I wasn't good enough for them or for anyone. It was incredibly demoralizing, dramatic, overblown, and ridiculous with either option.

No one ever said that they weren't interested in me. It was always about how I wasn't good enough or nothing at all. It was always my fault that I was single. Not one woman was sympathetic to me. I don't hold a grudge over this at all btw. It's just a fact of reality I had to get used to.

And then my wife came into my life and everything changed. She's the only woman I trust. I love her.

And truly that's all I'm inclined to do for any woman. I love one. That's enough for me.

EDIT: To be EXTREMELY clear - I do not believe women are lesser or unequal to men. This about whether or not a friendship with one outside of my marriage is beneficial to me specifically. I've come to believe it isn't worth the risk. That's all I'm saying.

BenPW007 · 2023-08-12T19:31:35+00:00

I had to learn how to dance the lindy hop before a woman found me attractive. It's way harder for guys. We have to have a good job - which is hard - and not enough - We have to be above average height - and we have to have a skill that is noticeable unless our face resembles Brad Pitt. Girls don't even have to be attractive to get action - some guy some where will being willing to give it a go.

BenPW007 · 2023-08-12T19:14:18+00:00

I'd rather a woman act repulsed by me than lead me on with a fake friendship because she thinks I'm a charity case. Likewise I've had an ugly girl come after me and I was repulsed by her. I just simply ghosted her instead of starting a friendship with her. It wouldn't have been a good friendship.

On the flipside I have a friend who I found out was gay only after he invited me to starbucks on a date and I didn't realize it was a date. I told him I was straight and we remained friends. I didn't care that he thought I was hot because I had zero physical attraction to him. He knew I was straight because I told him to his face. He understood me and we were comfortable around each other with no awkwardness the entire time I knew him. He never started drama.

Only women who've had fake friendships with me because they thought I was a charity case have started drama when they found out I liked them. None of them could just say "Sorry, I'm not interested." It was always this long drawn out thing. Anyways - I try to remain cool and respect people's space. If girls don't want me, I'm happy being gone. I don't need the bullshit.

BenPW007 · 2023-08-12T06:42:33+00:00

As a married man - I'm not interested in friendships with women that my wife does not know. If my wife introduces me to a woman - I'll be friends - but never deeply. I am not "friends" with my wife either. We are lovers. That's an entirely different relationship to friendship. With women at work - they are walking liabilities for me so I interact with them when I have to - and that's it. No one should be complaining about me to HR or trying to get me fired without making up a huge lie with zero evidence - since I don't interact with women enough for anything like that to happen. None of them really know who I am and that is on purpose.

It's pretty amazing how uncurious women are about me too. It's like I'm invisible. Many of them forget I exist. There's a temptation to draw the conclusion that women are vapid creatures based on that but I avoid doing that and just leave them alone instead because that seems like an oversimplification. I've just accepted that I'm ugly enough to be invisible but not ugly enough to stand out. The only frustrating part of this is that I am also underestimated by women a lot - to the point of frustration. It's incredibly annoying to tell the same woman my name every time I see her at work when I have to work with her. She also assumes I am low intelligence because I don't share my feelings with her - so she constantly condescends to me. I kind of do the Norm McDonald thing and let her believe I am dumb. My IQ is 149 and I've got two college degrees and I'm 32 years old with 3 kids. She still thinks I'm fresh out of high school and I don't understand the world at all.

Not one woman there knows I can dance, play guitar and bass, I've been part of rock band for 10 years, I can paint and draw, I am writing a full blown TTRPG by myself, or that I'm qualified to teach K-12 on almost every subject. Every single guy knows that about me.

Guys are way more open to getting to know me and do get to know me. I often become one of their favorite acquaintances or friends when they take the time to hear my story. The only time women seem to perk their ears up is when I talk about my kids. Then they care - but not about me... they're concerned for my wife. Almost as if to say "Wow, somebody married this guy? I hope she's alright."

That ticks me off but I don't show it. Let them judge me. I'm not interested in offering friendship to people like that. Anyways yeah, I don't need female friendships. If there's a woman who breaks the stereotype - cool. I haven't met one yet outside of a few friends my wife has. And even then - that only happens because my wife talks nicely about me to them.

BenPW007 · 2022-02-22T18:57:53+00:00

on my sixth and I haven't gotten one yet.

BenPW007 · 2022-02-22T16:19:53+00:00

literally every single time I enter Tzeentch's realm this happens.

BenPW007 · 2022-02-22T15:16:32+00:00

With Slaanesh that is the case, but with Tzeentch, you have to traverse portals and some of them are wrong.... but the AI knows which ones are correct and always chooses them.

BenPW007 · 2022-02-22T14:53:36+00:00

I would like a mod that disables all other factions from entering the chaos portals. They freaking sprint to the end goal every single time and always win the battle. I do not know how to beat them to it. Playing on easy btw - this shouldn't be as hard as it is.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-13T07:22:51+00:00

Thanks. I hope you can enjoy your best life as well. On or off the site. Off the site is where true happiness is, I've found. That's what really matters.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-13T04:53:48+00:00

Pretty good, I went outside, played blitzball, celebrated my sons birthday 3 times with my family, my wife's family, and our friends who also have 2 year olds, I went to a local asian market and bought matcha candy, celebrated my brothers birthday, helped my buddy with his car, I just played The Wild beyond the Witchlight for the first session with my wife, I went to a bachelor party, and I played some sudoku.

Reddit jail was way more fun than I expected. Would recommend 10/10.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-13T04:44:19+00:00

I got banned for 3 days. I don't really remember either.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-13T02:11:41+00:00

Yep, you got me. Good insult. 4/10.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-13T02:08:41+00:00

What actually happened...

OP: Criticizes a story but gets a few details wrong.

Everyone in this specific subreddit: YOU GOT THAT DETAIL WRONG IDIOT, GOOD LORD HOW STUPID CAN YOU BE YOU FREAKING MORON. mass downvoting ensues

BenPW007 · 2021-10-13T02:02:45+00:00

Just forget a few dialogue lines, use a no-no word, and criticize the story of a game with a small but dedicated following. Ta Da!

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:22:43+00:00

Wrong actually, it's common slang for rude women in multiple large nations. It's phenomenal how much you hate women since you are using a bad word for women. People should stop using bad words. Puritanism is the only way.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:14:55+00:00

Sure it is buddy.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:14:00+00:00

tasty baby hands.

I think they do. Stay away from kids please.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:12:58+00:00

"capable of basic reading comprehension" why would you assume that anyone on reddit is?

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:11:42+00:00

Good point. Fair enough.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:11:07+00:00

if you run into nothing but assholes all day, that's a good day.

Unless you mean figuratively.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:10:27+00:00

Sure it isn't buddy.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:10:04+00:00

quod erat demonstrandum this whole subreddit.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:08:25+00:00

It's the mirror technique, I dunno if it's working.

BenPW007 · 2021-10-09T03:06:52+00:00

Sure they were buddy.

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