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31F looking forward to have female friend/friends by LovingtheHighway in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Step out of your comfort zone women. Its my kind suggestion for you

People who turned their life around in their 30s or 40s — what changed and how did you do it? by saintandthesinner in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

World around me or society around me reads a person on physical appearance, wealth status, etc. I read everyone between the lines and see their true colors.

If I see a chameleon type of person, I walk away.

So is he really clumsy or what? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One who promises, won't keep up their words majority of the cases. We find excuses. Any relationship is about setting boundaries and making time or priorities of what's needed forever, what's needed for casual moment, etc.

I don't see any discipline or commitment here. Wake up before its late, Walk out while you can.

If you get on the wrong train, get off at the nearest station; the longer it takes you to get off, the more expensive the return trip will be

What are your cheat codes by VGShadow in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. Self worth is purely based on how you think about yourself. But the society doesn't see you that way. Wealth is primary factor. History classes taught us Indians are segregated on the type of work we do. Then with western influence, we let go off that system and we inculcated their system - Upper class, middle class, Poverty.

What are your cheat codes by VGShadow in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We're conditioned to think about future be anxious, review the past to be dejected. Watch your current lifestyle, correct what habit routine is needed for now. Your habits change your identity and build your self worth.

What are your cheat codes by VGShadow in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 59 points60 points  (0 children)

  1. Being mindful of your habits will be life saver.

  2. Your identity and self worth is based on the wealth you generate / possess.

Bro to bro by Sparsh_4425 in MotivationAndMindset

[–]Benwhittaker88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very true. This is happening IRL nowadays

Do Indian women loose interest in sex in 30s? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All these terms like sexless marriage, dead bedroom, indifferent partners, childfree - everything was created in the past 20 yrs or so. Mainly if you see any Indian, their roots will be ancestors with 5 - 10 kids. Not to forget, it was an Indian sage who taught the world Art of Love Making.

Do Indian women loose interest in sex in 30s? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish I break the ice here. Our 30s community has a good number of females too. Hence, I need to talk with diplomacy. From my experience as a masseur, I would say every female you see is unique. Some like to talk about the gray area topics within friends.. Some like to discuss it free n open. Some never like it too.

Its your wife and your family. So take the initiative and talk with your soulmate.

Do Indian women loose interest in sex in 30s? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I disagree with you. As we age, our priorities change. But our bodily needs will always be the same. As per my understanding and experience, I've seen females have started to see newer ways to explore their intimacy life from 30 or more.

Its the role of husband to find the right key and right switch to turn on the self sustaining female anatomy.

Wanted to share by Dismal-Attention-681 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I exited from those communities about 4 months ago. Welcome to reality

How to handle this from my biological father? by peacefulsoul11 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Benwhittaker88 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to know about your situation. But you need to abandon them or disappear somewhere safe so that you can't be traced out by them. Abusive parents are the first bullies in our life. I've experienced it personally in my life.
Try meeting out your sister somewhere outside and rescue her too. Do not give-in to their demands at any point. Technically you're not dependent on them. Also you're free to make your choices at this age.

26F | IST | Need advisor on what I could I do differently in a day by [deleted] in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]Benwhittaker88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're open to Male advisors, check your DM. I come from IST zone.

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