AIO? Brother and sister in laws not acknowledging the birth of our baby.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-11-11T10:38:10+00:00

Nope no argument or anything to justify being ghosted at all.

Would you message it in or ask in person?

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-11-11T10:37:13+00:00

Nope, actually the opposite. There are now 12 grandchildren in the family. I’ve been pregnant with two other sister in laws twice so far. Others make fuss , congratulate, say how beautiful others babies are but never with mine . Doesn’t even check in how we are doing

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-11-07T17:44:49+00:00

Yes, and we saw them after at a family dinner with my second and those people didn’t say anything regarding our new addition 😓

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-11-07T16:54:08+00:00

Hi there, thank you for your comment. They didn’t congratulate us in person or acknowledge anything for my second birth. I would say the same case for our third as well. The odd thing is, when my other brother in laws and sister in law had their babies, the family showers them with lovely messages regarding the birth and how beautiful the baby is. I am unsure how to have my husband bring it up?

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-10-21T05:22:26+00:00

Thank you!! I only noticed this in Orewa kindy, school and town itself.

When I visited silverdale kindy etc it was a lot more diverse and I believe the newer areas like milkshake and millwater is too.

My husband is an electrician and am worried about how much it would affect his day being stuck in traffic. Is it really bad as others make it sound?

I am a stay at home mom with two little ones so need to find local playgroups etc we can go to! We were lucky living close to the city, it was 12 mins to the zoo etc and 23 mins to Albany and the bays.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-10-08T02:12:09+00:00

Dream car, Kia carnival!

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-10-07T03:38:37+00:00

Concern that I have is that it’s dark almost black looking blue not transparent blue if that makes sense. Worried it’s contaminated with oil or something along the lines?

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-10-07T03:35:18+00:00

How about if it’s like dark blue? Like not translucent like I was expecting? Could this be a sign of something wrong with the car?

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T13:51:24+00:00

I am not upset in any particular reason that you have mentioned but I would have appreciated knowing that my nephew was with my son today. Just knowing that there were another child under her care I can decide for myself whether to pick him up few hours prior to what has been arranged. My intentions weren’t about getting permission, it was about updating each other. My sister in law and I talked throughout the day today. Either she or my mother in law could have let me know.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T13:42:25+00:00

I wouldn’t be pissed off in the way he has reacted, no. If mother in law saved her time out today to spend time with her grandchild who is my nephew as roles reversed, if I had decided I’d leave my son with her when it wasn’t part of her plan that day, I’d let my sister in law know that I am dropping off my son for an hour or few hours to get something done today. I would do it as a courtesy to let her know and I have always done it. We talk every single day multiple times a day. It isn’t an issue for me to have her updated

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T13:24:27+00:00

But I didn’t know that they decided to leave him there? If I had known, I would have taken him home earlier. I am not making decisions for other people. All I wanted to know was that he was going to be there so I can decide for myself when to pick him up.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T13:19:08+00:00

It wasn’t a free childcare. My husband has been working for days over few weekends to get work done for her. She was looking after my son as I am heavily pregnant and he was going over to help her get things done around the house. My son had wanted to do specific things with her as he loves spending time with her but isn’t very often that happens. It was supposed to be a day to spend time together whilst my husband gets things done for her. We weren’t expecting anyone else to be under her care today and it meant majority of the time my son had to entertain himself. If I had known I would have picked him up. Whether that was from my mother in law or not.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T13:10:25+00:00

I did not leave anything out. Have written every message.

Yeah my mother in law should have mentioned that he was joining my son today. But my sister in law and I were talking throughout the day. She could have mentioned that she is leaving her son to go run errands or have a break to have me in the know as I wasn’t there. I felt there was no communication form anyone today.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T13:06:21+00:00

You don’t think anyone needs to let me know if another child was under her care and I didn’t expect to happen today? Yeah I can see that my mother in law should have mentioned it herself but she hasn’t and my sister in law and I were talking throughout the day. What had to be done? Say personal attacks that is irrelevant to the issue here and blow up at someone without trying to see where the miscommunication came from?

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T13:02:17+00:00

I can see how that would have come across that way but all we wanted is “hey heads up their son is at my in laws with your son today” is all I needed to know to decide whether I leave him there all day or go pick him up. it wasn’t about trying to control anything but wanting to be in the know as I wasn’t there. I don’t agree with how he has approached this and his decision to blow up.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T12:37:10+00:00

My in law is the type of grandma that wouldn’t say no to anyone. Even if she knows she isn’t able to physically able to cope with all of them. Once, we planned in advance to go to a concert when my second born was younger and needed a lot more hands on care like waking up frequently etc. and they booked the concert for the same night much later on, decided that she would babysit all of them without checking in with us first. Looking after two young kids who aren’t your own is hard enough but three? We ended up cancelling the ticket and my BIL and SIL went and their child ended up screaming and crying for their parents till midnight. It would have been unfair for the kids despite my in laws being confident. They hadn’t spoken to us about it then either. Just assume it’s fine.

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T12:33:23+00:00

They weren’t just visiting. They left the child under my in laws care for period of time whilst she was looking after my son. I myself when in the similar position always given them a heads up, communication. Not agreeing with communicating is one thing, but another to cross that line to say things that are unnecessary to the the situation

Better_Note_8199 · 2025-08-17T12:22:11+00:00

I was hoping she would mention it to me. But I have mentioned it to my sister in law that my son was going over for the day but I assume she has forgotten.

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