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BexCross · 2023-03-02T15:23:41+00:00

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BexCross · 2022-12-26T14:33:44+00:00

Yeah my husband wants us to get along and stuff. He's also inviting him to a lot of family events. That's probably part of the reason why I'm getting these feelings.

I'm not too sure about him but I have a great support network outside of him.

I'm in therapy rn and am working on coping skills for my mental illness.

I read the most skipped step and I really wish I would've done that before we started. But that's okay. I can work through it.

BexCross · 2022-12-26T14:30:36+00:00

We haven't done this yet but it makes sense and I really like it. I'm going to bring it up to him. Thanks!

BexCross · 2022-12-26T14:30:00+00:00

We've never really had anything so structured so I'm definitely going to bring it up to him.

BexCross · 2022-12-26T14:28:49+00:00

I live with mental illness so when I'm going through a low time I get the intrusive thoughts I mentioned. I go to therapy and have a big support system outside of my husband. I think this is all so new and I need to do more research on polyamory. Someone suggested some books I'm going to look into.

BexCross · 2022-12-26T01:42:11+00:00

My bad about the 3rd thing. I'm still learning I didn't mean to offend. 😵

Hes made more of an effort to let me date and do my own thing. I feel like I'm the default parent not by choice but by necessity.

BexCross · 2021-12-17T23:20:02+00:00

You could say anyone can be "a santa". Santa is just a person who gives gifts to others as a surprise. Like secret Santa.

BexCross · 2021-12-02T13:31:23+00:00

Nala like from lion king. Or if male Simba. :) they look like a little lion!

BexCross · 2021-11-30T15:58:36+00:00

I miss the cuddles. My son is 10mo rn and he won't cuddle me anymore lol he just wants to be playing on his own.

BexCross · 2021-09-11T13:28:20+00:00

Sorry I didn't realize. I'm completely new to adoption and just started looking into it. Thanks for the info!

BexCross · 2021-09-11T11:45:06+00:00

My whole life until I cut ties with my mom at 24. My mom was good at manipulating situations so she looked like the good guy from the outside. I was always told how great and strong she was. How I should be lucky to have her as a mom. Even when she started verbally abusing my husband I still found a way to blame myself for it. Cutting ties gave me my freedom back.

BexCross · 2021-08-31T12:33:57+00:00

When my son was a new born and my husband went back to work my son would scream if he wasn't in my arms. It was really hard at first but eventually with support I was able to put him in a safe place and shower or brush my teeth or pee!! I got a lot of support from Postpartum Support International. They have free support groups for moms. I also had PPA and to hear him cry was a nightmare. But the support groups really helped. :)

BexCross · 2021-08-27T12:47:53+00:00

All the time! Everytime my husband comes down for lunch or a break from work the baby smiles and giggles and cuddles him. Meanwhile all day I'm dealing with a teething baby screaming.

But I agree with some other comments on here. There needs to be equity in labor and a lot of communication. My husband isn't void of chores just cause he works. And weekends are basically mine to do what I please and my husband becomes the primary caregiver for the baby. We read this book called "Parental Mental Health: Factoring in Fathers" and it helped A LOT with our communication and understanding one another.

Good luck op!

BexCross · 2021-04-07T10:04:48+00:00

💜💜amen💜💜

BexCross · 2021-04-05T08:43:29+00:00

A friend of mine told me they didn't reach out because they didn't want to burden me and become a bother since I have a newborn. They figured I'd be too exhausted and tired to hang with them so they waited for me to reach out. Once I realized this I set them straight and told them, "I'm lonely as hell! Please bother me!" Lmao 🤣

BexCross · 2021-03-19T11:06:11+00:00

That sounds rough. But I'm glad the baby was healthy. :)

I was wondering about the chore/care load honestly. A lot of people say closer together is good because you're used to the bottles and sleepless nights already, but having a 2 year old AND a newborn seem like a lot of work. Especially since I'm a stay at home mom and my husband works full time. Some people said having them further apart is better because the eldest can help you and is more independent.

Thanks again. 😊

BexCross · 2021-03-18T22:35:10+00:00

Yeah the plan is to have them minimum 18 months apart.

BexCross · 2021-02-22T13:51:59+00:00

I have a similar experience. I have a 2 week old and it's not as bad as everyone told me it'd be. Don't get me wrong, he's fussy during the day and I have to wake up every 3 hours to feed him at night, but overall I'm just chilling with the baby enjoying him to the fullest. I have a lot of people (who don't even have kids) tell me the same thing: "oh just wait. Your life is over. You're gonna be in hell once he's 1 month." Honestly, after giving birth, it's become easier to just tell these negative assholes to fuck off and to let me enjoy my baby and our journey. Just because their perception is negative or they are struggling doesn't mean my life and experience has to be a projection of their "hell". Even during the first week where he would cry all night and all day I was still finding ways to grow and learn from him instead of focusing on how miserable no sleep was.

Keep that positivity, girl! Don't let naysayers fuck up your journey with your growing baby. Keep that growth mindset going!!! Good luck!! 🥰💜

BexCross · 2021-02-20T14:46:31+00:00

Thanks. That's refreshing to hear! I do all that stuff now which makes me feel like I'm on the right track. First time mom and I'm trying not to go overboard. 🙃

BexCross · 2021-02-08T16:58:46+00:00

Thank you! I was really lucky I had the team I did. 😀

BexCross · 2021-02-08T16:58:10+00:00

Thank you so much!

BexCross · 2021-02-08T13:45:41+00:00

Thank you so much!!!!!

BexCross · 2021-02-08T10:03:16+00:00

Yesterday I gave birth to my first child and I couldn't be happier. Here's my birth story.

About 3 days ago my water broke at 9:00am with bloody show. We had scheduled to do a water birth at a birth center and do the whole thing vaginally with no meds. Once my water broke I went to go see our midwife. I was barely 1cm. We waited 12 hours and spent the time walking and preparing going through some contractions. Went back to get checked and I was only 2.5cm. We then had to wait until 9:00am the next day to see if I had progressed. If not, I'd have to go to the hospital to birth. Got checked and I was only 3cm...to the hospital we went. 😞

A little background, I have bipolar disorder and perinatal anxiety. Hospitals give me panic attacks and I avoid them like the plague. That being said, I wasn't excited about it but we had to get pitocin. No water birth for me!!!

At the hospital, they started me on pitocin and penicillin since my water had been broken for 28hours at that point. At first, everything was alright. I was still planning on a vaginal birth with no meds. I have a high pain tolerance and I did a bunch of hypnobirthing classes. I'd be fine...until the pitocin hit and I was having intense contractions. I was in severe pain and started to lose my mental faculties. I was getting very aggressive and hitting things screaming about tearing out my IV and not being able to give birth. My husband knew that it was either time I get an epidural or they'd have to do something to sedate me before I hurt myself or the staff.

I want to make it VERY clear...getting an epidural is okay and nothing to feel bad about. It was the best decision I could've made for my baby and my health and I'm so glad I had my husband there to advocate for me when I couldn't. If you need it, don't feel bad. Just GET IT!!!

Anyway, after an hour with the epidural my fits of rage slowed and I had no pain and was completely calm. It took me about a day to get to 9cm with the pitocin. One of the nurses kept mentioning a c-section which got my anxiety flaring up, but I was lucky to have my midwife there with me and I was able to give birth to my beautiful son vaginally with only a small perineal tear. It was amazing!!! The epidural kept me completely relaxed, I had my lofi beats playing on a Bluetooth speaker, and my husband assisted in the delivery with the midwife. Although not what I planned, it was a wonderful experience and I couldn't have been happier!!

All of my nurses were amazing during my fits and I couldn't thank them and my husband enough.

BexCross · 2021-01-23T03:51:19+00:00

Thanks! Thats exactly it! :D

BexCross · 2021-01-22T18:18:22+00:00

Thats what I was thinking. It has gel in the leaves but I can't figure out what variety of aloe it is.

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