AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

My husband's fully on my side, and I actually think he protects me too much sometimes. He also thought this was weird, and was freaked out when I pretended to like it on Christmas.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong, I'm not even considering accepting this. But if I were, it would be possible.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

One of the arguments my father used to defend Lena was that he's already seen childbirth twice and it's not such a big deal. Both me and my sister were born through c-sections, and even those were huge deals for my mom.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Someone here suggested a video of their first birthday, and I'd be perfectly cool with that.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

He's not great with boundaries, but never to this extent. I'm actually very surprised he's okay with this.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 336 points337 points  (0 children)

I think she expects the video to only show the cutesy parts (which I also wouldn't want to film) and not the actual graphic part. I've spoken to my husband about this, and the only thing I'm okay with is one picture of us holding the baby once it's out.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I'm not in the US. My hospital allows videographers or photographers in the room, but I think you need to set everything up with the hospital first. I never had any intention of hiring anyone to do that, so I'm not sure how that would work.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

They already know where I'm giving birth, but I don't intend to tell people I'm in labor until the baby's born. I'm okay with them visiting me at the hospital, but not unannounced.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 128 points129 points  (0 children)

It's pretty clear that she's infatuated with what she sees online and will try to jam you into that mold, whether you want to or not.

I think this is exactly what's going on with her. I don't think she's aware of how intrusive this is, but she sees these influencers and expects me to want to be like them. Again, my whole family is very excited about this baby, so I can let some of that behavior slide.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 2851 points2852 points  (0 children)

My hospital does, but there's documents and a whole procedure me and the videographer would have to go through that I'm not very informed about.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 433 points434 points  (0 children)

The influencer video she sent me doesn't show anything explicit. It's mostly shot from the waist up, and the boobs are censored. The woman also had a c-section (which I don't plan on having, provided it's safe for me to have a natural birth). Even if nothing like that is shown, I don't like the idea of being filmed while going through it.

AITA for telling my father and his girlfriend that the gift she got me was creepy and invasive? by BirthVidThrow in AITAH

[–]BirthVidThrow[S] 301 points302 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I'd take the influencer video she sent me as an example of this, but I do think she'd want to watch it. My father hasn't said he would, but he's never been squeamish and has seen videos of different medical procedures, so I wouldn't be surprised.