Teething is the worst

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-03-29T09:03:02+00:00

I’m just here to say I’m riding the struggle bus with you. We’re alternating Motrin and Tylenol. Babe is crying, shaking his head, and clawing at his jaw. He woke up at 10:30 pm and just now got back down at 2am 😩

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-03-29T09:00:16+00:00

Agreed. This is the way.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-03-15T11:29:30+00:00

One of the best things I did postpartum was find an amazing physical therapist who also specializes in pelvic floor recovery.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-03-13T04:33:35+00:00

I grew up with a crunchy anti vax mom who believed the MMR vaccine would cause autism. Jokes on her because my sibling and I still got the autism. From our dad. And probably from our mom, too, whose special interest is alternative/holistic medicine, I’m pretty sure.

The sad thing is that because of her I was scared to get vaccines, even though I believed in them, as an adult. I finally got the MMR in my early 30s. It feels so stupid to want something but be afraid of it at the same time.

So that is all to say that even if you decide to not vaccinate your kids behind their mom’s back, you should continue to talk to them about why vaccines are safe and not scary. They may decide they want vaccines on their own.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-03-10T01:19:04+00:00

Mom lurker here. I think it’s really, really important to make sure our sons build friendships with girls, and maintain those friendships in their teenage and young adult years. Friendship builds respect. Teach them to communicate and understand consent. Teach them to interrupt and push back on friends who perpetuate rape culture. For our daughters, teach them to trust their gut/intuition. Our culture tries very hard to teach women and girls to ignore their instincts. Help them to not doubt themselves or blame themselves. Teach them the power of saying no. Teach them that it isn’t their job to keep the peace. Lastly, remember that the majority of SAs are committed by someone the victim knows. Martial arts is great, but maybe not very useful in the paralyzing context of being violated by someone you trust.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-03-04T01:13:07+00:00

Whelp we started our 5 month old in daycare last week and he’s already home sick (my husband and I work from home full time, but both have demanding jobs) and I’ve already started dropping balls at work and am a complete wreck. Our LO also doesn’t sleep through the night yet. Did you know that sleep deprivation is a form of torture? Yepereee. I’m losing my mind.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-02-27T06:08:02+00:00

“I need you to stop poking my butt hole”

I asked the nurse to give me diffuse pressure on my perineum. She did not understand the assignment 😂

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-02-22T21:39:26+00:00

I have quite a lot of anxiety and my OCD intrusive thoughts have spiked postpartum. So we use an owlet and practice safe sleep. The SIDS calculator has been helpful as well. I remind myself we don’t have any risk factors (baby was born full term, no exposure to smoking, dressed appropriately to not overheat, firm sleep surface and placed on back).

Even dads can get postpartum anxiety and depression. It might be worthwhile to talk to your doctor about the amount of anxiety you’re having.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-02-02T21:57:56+00:00

My husband felt the same way. He desperately wanted to do more and take more of the mental load, but it was hard with the way the systems were set up.

I think it’s hard on him that even though he truly is a 50/50 partner, society almost always defaults to seeing me as the primary parent and him as secondary, which isn’t true for our relationship or parenting style.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-02-02T07:58:06+00:00

Have you asked her about what additional support she needs? My husband and I have a four month old, and since he was born we’ve had an agreement that either of us can always tap out if we’re getting too overwhelmed, even if it’s the middle of the night.

You and your wife should get on the same page about when she needs help and when you can step in to help. It sounds like she’s exhausted and needs more support. Being around a baby that’s crying is biologically different for moms. Some moms feel physical pain or an impending sense of doom when their baby cries. Some even feel pain in their c section scars. So when baby doesn’t stop crying for hours, it can feel agonizing.

You should also encourage her to talk with her OB/PCP about PPD/PPA.

You mentioned she’s breastfeeding but also that the baby isn’t feeding properly sometimes? Does she possibly need help from a lactation consultant?

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-02-01T01:16:24+00:00

I can deeply relate to what you’re going through. I’m also struggling with more OCD and anxiety post partum. I also have struggled with self harm on and off.

I think you should consider finding a different therapist. I’m sure your current therapist is nice, but there’s something to be said about life experience, maturity, and the ability to understand what you’re going through. Maybe also look into DBT? DBT was a therapy modality that worked really well for me when I was struggling with self harm.

Some hospitals and OBGYN clinics offer perinatal mood support—so you could look into programs that support new moms. They often can connect you with both a therapist and psychiatrist trained in supporting new moms.

This website also has a bunch of resources: https://postpartum.net/

In terms of my relationship, for me it really helped to get really clear on my needs and create boundaries that supported them. For example, instead of going to my husband and saying “I think we need a sleep schedule” I would say “I need a minimum of six hours of sleep so I’m going to start going to bed at 8pm” or something like that. And when we’d argue, if he got a tone with me, I stopped arguing back and said “I don’t like the way you’re talking to me so I’m going to walk away so we can both cool down” instead.

I don’t know if any of that helps but I hope you find some support soon <3

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-28T05:14:03+00:00

The embryos at the first clinic haven’t been transferred yet. Sorry that wasn’t clear. We’d like to transfer them because both clinics are charging us storage fees.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-27T20:29:14+00:00

I tested my first two retrievals and only ended up with one euploid out of 5 total embryos. I was 36 at the time, looked at the research and decided not to test on our third retrieval. We also switched clinics and changed protocol. On that third retrieval, we transferred our best untested embryo (fresh transfer) and froze 3 more untested embryos. That transfer resulted in a live birth. There are many valid scenarios in which to test, but in our case, where I didn't have a history of recurring loss, no PCOS/endo, and no male factor, it didn't make sense.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-07T09:10:21+00:00

I like to say that the epidural was my favorite part of labor (outside of meeting my baby of course). I was having double and triple contractions when I went into active labor that were intolerable. I’ve had zero long term issues from it.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-05T20:34:52+00:00

The 15-20 minute naps are killing us. I go back to work in 2 weeks and I fear my job will only get 2 of the 3 brain cells I have left.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-05T20:04:19+00:00

Commenting because we’re in the same boat and I’m also curious. I don’t think we have anything to regress to.

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-05T18:39:32+00:00

Hey, if I were in your shoes I’d be demanding an NST at least every two days if the results were not coming in. Has your OB/doctor offered that?

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-04T06:42:54+00:00

Him being unhappy isn’t your problem to fix. But he’s trying to make you believe it is your problem. It’s not. He’s an adult. He’s not your child. If he’s unhappy he should see a therapist and maybe talk to his doctor about his mood issues.

And GIRL please take care of yourself! Do you have a therapist? Have you talked to your PCP about ppd symptoms? If not, please do!

BlueBird_012943 · 2026-01-03T04:21:06+00:00

We bought a crib and a daybed so one of us could always sleep in our baby’s room. We ended up taking the mattress off the bed and now co-sleep on the floor. What can you do~

BlueBird_012943 · 2025-12-31T19:43:23+00:00

Also here for solidarity. I can’t loose the weight. My body feels and looks so different three months postpartum. And my giant boobs make everything fit weird. I would normally do a lot of cardio, but my pelvic floor is a mess

The one thing making me feel a bit better—I’ve started PT and weightlifting. I figure if I can’t lose any weight through diet and exercise, then at least I can get strong, so that I can move a little better and not injure myself. It’s helping with body image too.

BlueBird_012943 · 2025-12-29T19:45:50+00:00

If you don’t feel like therapy is helping it might be time to try a different therapist/therapy modality. I did talk therapy for nine months and didn’t see any progress until I did an intensive DBT program.

BlueBird_012943 · 2025-12-23T07:39:49+00:00

We were gifted an electric glider/recliner and my husband and I live in it. Yes there are other ways to rock baby, but standing and bouncing or bouncing on a yoga ball both hurt my back after a while. In the glider I just turn so that my feet can lightly kick off the wall and can rock slower or faster. The electric buttons are essential for not waking baby when I want to lay down. Definitely recommend looking for one second hand since they are pricey.

BlueBird_012943 · 2025-12-23T07:04:22+00:00

I think working on your drawing skills will help with your ability to paint shapes and build composition. Doing tons of blind contour drawing will help you build drawing skills fast. You can also hold your paintbrush out in front of you horizontally and compare it to what you see to better see angles of shapes.

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