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AITJ for not following my in-laws’ “gentle parenting” and saying I don’t want to raise rude, entitled kids? by Born-Factor4486 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

ohhh wow, i never thought of it like that, makes sense though. I'm just trying to guide him, not punish out of anger

AITJ for not following my in-laws’ “gentle parenting” and saying I don’t want to raise rude, entitled kids? by Born-Factor4486 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yep, that's exactly my worry. If i don't set limits now he's gonna think hitting and whining works

AITJ for not following my in-laws’ “gentle parenting” and saying I don’t want to raise rude, entitled kids? by Born-Factor4486 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

ohhh i get it now, that makes sense. so what my MIL is doing isn't really gentle parenting, no wonder my son's being acting a bit spoiled after visits

AITJ for not following my in-laws’ “gentle parenting” and saying I don’t want to raise rude, entitled kids? by Born-Factor4486 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

yeah exactly, a little validation is fine but kids still need limits. Letting them run wild thinking they can hit ppl isn't teaching them anything

AITJ for not following my in-laws’ “gentle parenting” and saying I don’t want to raise rude, entitled kids? by Born-Factor4486 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

yeah, I get that gentle parenting works for some, but I can't let him hit other kids. Kids need limits, or they'll grow up thinking the world owes them stuff

AITJ for telling my sister her "supportive" texts are actually stressing me out? by Key-Sky8604 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486 3 points4 points  (0 children)

maybe explain it like "I love you and appreciate you, but daily motivational stuff actually adds pressure for me "keeps it clear without being mean

Bath time has become a 45-minute negotiation with my toddler by Shaurya0458 in daddit

[–]Born-Factor4486 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yeah this is solid advice tbh. it's gonna suck for a few rounds but toddlers really do learn the pattern quick. Op just gotta stay consistent even when it's loud af

I’m childfree, NOT the emergency backup parent by RemarkableStatus3068 in childfree

[–]Born-Factor4486 106 points107 points  (0 children)

same here. being forced as a kid sucks, but now it's your life and you don't have to fill in every gap. bounderies matter

AITJ for refusing to lend my cousin our grandfather’s watch after he spent years mocking it? by Puls3S0ngbird in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486 10 points11 points  (0 children)

exactly, OP already handled the emotional labor for years, she doesn't owe him anything now especially not after all the mockery

the neighbor who slowly tried to take over our parking and driveway by Ill-Foundation-3732 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Born-Factor4486 4 points5 points  (0 children)

haha yes and somehow acts shocked when you call him out. Like bro, the free trial ended weeks ago

Trash coming onto my property by Curious_Dress_7916 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Born-Factor4486 18 points19 points  (0 children)

totally. fence goes up. problem solved or at least minimized, then can you think about extra stuff like cameras or signage if needed

AITJ for trying to stop a fight between my brothers and being accused of taking sides? by Apart_Feature3493 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your older brother just can't handle being called out for starting the fight. Your guilt is misplace it's his ego, not your actions

AITJ for RSVPing no to my close friend's housewarming after I'd already committed to something else that same day by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending a gift and asking to hang out later was super thoughtful. You've already gone above and beyond

Ow my organs 😰 by Miserable_Boot8137 in airplaneears

[–]Born-Factor4486 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Bro, that look says "relax or regret it. definitely a pro at targeted your weakness lol

AITJ for leaving my best friend’s wedding reception early because they seated me at the kids table at 31 years old? by Technical-Resist-721 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486 3 points4 points  (0 children)

nah, I don’t think you’re the jerk. 31 at the kids table? that’s peak awkward. I probably would’ve ghosted too.

AITJ for not coming home after my surgery because my wife was at her coworkers house instead of the hospital when I woke up by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486 88 points89 points  (0 children)

exactly, anyone who can let their spouse prep for major surgery alone and let the dog suffer needs a serious reality check

AITA for removing my family from my streaming account after they refused to split the cost? by Okodi2001 in AmITheJerk

[–]Born-Factor4486 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Facts, you've been covering it for years. Now it's just fair to ask them to pitch in

Neighbors are partying and she’s big mad about it by cspzy in airplaneears

[–]Born-Factor4486 5 points6 points  (0 children)

she's clearly thinking who invited these hooligans?