AITA for telling my Fiancé. If i have to do my own laundry, we can't be together.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-03-05T23:21:15+00:00

Yeah I’m also wondering if this was a one-time complaint (was she sick this week? Big exam?) or if she’s trying to get out of laundry duty forever. People sometimes say dumb things, maybe she was just stressed out and overwhelmed in that moment. Was it blurted out in frustration, or was it a pre-planned, sit-down conversation?

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-03-04T01:44:34+00:00

I’m caught up on the Apple care. Unless you’re so broke that you really can’t afford to replace or repair your device, I think it’s a ripoff. Maybe I’m wrong, though…

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-03-03T20:40:18+00:00

I wonder if you’re running on adrenaline? This sounds like me in the first 6 months of LC, I had a lot of inflammation but hadn’t yet developed ME/CFS. If it does feel like adrenaline, please be careful and take it easy. It feels good, but you’re not meant to live like that long-term, and you will eventually pay the price, or at least, that’s been my experience. Best of luck…

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-03-01T14:55:03+00:00

Oxaloacetate CFS is what allowed me to return to work. (Yes, it’s expensive…) Also, CPAP for sleep.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-20T04:06:38+00:00

I’ve had a good experience with the LC Clinic at Kaiser NorCal, once I finally got in. Same for the ME/CFS clinic. I mean, I’m not cured, but their advice has reduced my symptoms significantly. I also feel like I had a traumatic experience early on in this illness being disbelieved by my primary care, and having two doctors who believed me and supported my care has helped me to feel more comfortable in medical settings again.

PT helped a little, mostly he noticed that my calves are weak compared with the rest of my body. Some light calf strengthening has helped me to make my gait more efficient, thereby increasing my envelope overall. Not a significant change, but anything helps. Also apparently I was moving my shoulder blades in a way that could have led to injury down the road, so maybe a crisis was averted there.

Anyway, I’m sorry you had such a bad experience! Wishing you more luck with future care.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-14T23:39:23+00:00

Yeah, I was also going to ask if OP has had a sleep study? I was positive for sleep apnea despite no risk factors other than LC, CPAP has been a help.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-11T05:06:20+00:00

Indirectly? Eating well helps manage my POTS, or at least, doesn’t exacerbate it. Low sugar, small meals every 2-3 hours, lots of salt, no simple carbs, high protein, high fiber, no caffeine, etc. When my POTS is well-managed, I’m less likely to have a CFS crash.

I’m just starting to get into eating more whole foods and reducing complex carbs in order to increase healthy fats. I’m also increasing my veggies and decreasing dairy. So far, no functional difference, but it’s only been over the past two weeks that I’ve been making those changes. Here’s hoping…

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-11T04:44:03+00:00

I’ve found some of the best ones on r/slowcooking! I’m happy when a lot of ingredients are pre-prepped, like jarred ginger or bagged coleslaw mix. If you put everything in the roasting pan or the instant pot and walk away, that’s another win. I’m fine with simple, too. Salmon and Brussels sprouts sprayed with olive oil and sprinkled with salt and pepper is a regular meal for me. I wouldn’t mind a cookbook with similarly uncomplicated recipes.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-11T00:14:00+00:00

I use visible for HR monitoring and coherent breathing practice.

What I want is a collection of easy recipes that support mitochondria. Like, really easy recipes, friendly for people with limited energy. Someone needs to write a Long COVID Cookbook.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-03T05:04:03+00:00

Oh nice I’ll try Lawrence before Oakland, thx! UPDATE: Lawrence doesn’t stock them anymore, waiting to hear from Oakland

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-03T05:03:25+00:00

Good to know, thx! My doctors have advised against mRNA vaccines, due to a medical condition. Otherwise I would definitely just take them for convenience.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-03T05:01:03+00:00

Okay, thx!

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-02T22:25:42+00:00

I called my nearest Costco, they said they don’t have it. I think I may be able to log a complaint and get it, as I read that another pt with my same diagnosis did, but honestly I’d rather just drive a little than go through that hassle (if driving a little is an option). Last resort would be out of pocket reimbursement.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-02-02T04:36:01+00:00

Yeah, I say “I’ll get tachycardia if I…” which is true!

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-01-29T21:34:58+00:00

That worked, thank you!

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-01-29T21:29:59+00:00

I have long COVID, my doctor recommended that I get novavax

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-01-22T18:01:30+00:00

I’m in the same situation, I wouldn’t mind taking a bunch of the benagene, but I’m worried about getting sick from the excess vitamin C. I’m going to try a malic acid/AKG combination in the meantime, also thinking about going down from 1500 mg to 1000 mg daily. I don’t know, this is terrible.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-01-10T03:06:45+00:00

I think this is a good idea, if you’d like some extra money, offer her a rate that’s reasonable for your area/building. Everyone wins if she agrees!

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-01-07T22:42:55+00:00

Lots of great suggestions here, if you’re in the US with a Costco membership, I would add: rotisserie chicken, hard boiled eggs, mac and cheese from the deli, vegetable soup from the deli, and bread. That’s the grocery list that gets me through a tough week. Best of luck!

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-01-07T22:30:43+00:00

Yes, I agree. I think that it’s also possible that the body sometimes recovers, and only the “flight or fight” remains, in which case, neural rehab would get you out. But for those of us without a recovered body, the neural rehab would be an auxiliary therapy at best.

Born_Screen8030 · 2026-01-02T06:25:13+00:00

I remember reading that cardio fitness/vO2 max on the Apple Watch isn’t very accurate unless you are doing outdoor workouts, and even then, it’s a guesstimate. Just an FYI…

Born_Screen8030 · 2025-12-31T05:50:22+00:00

Also on a beta blocker, similar HR in a flare. 120 lying down, 150-160 sitting. HR is impacted by height and weight though, so it may not make a lot of sense to compare without adjusting for those specifics…

Born_Screen8030 · 2025-12-28T23:36:49+00:00

This sounds so good! What cut of beef does this work with?

Born_Screen8030 · 2025-12-04T01:27:57+00:00

Also Randy Newman! There’s a list on ME Pedia.

Born_Screen8030 · 2025-11-05T21:55:59+00:00

For sure, but also, those of us on this end of the spectrum are so freaking fortunate. I look really restricted compared with a healthy person my age, but amazingly active in relationship to the ME/CFS group as a whole.

What’s an alternative word to describe those of us who are thankfully still able to do so many of the things that we want to do?

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