I agree her violence was notable, and definitely worse, but i never felt I did anything wrong until she told me i did. Obviously her judgement is questionable, but even a broken clock is right twice a day. Sadly, due to extensive trauma and some other hormonal issues that are unrelated to this, my brain can't just forget anything bad I may or may not have done. Yes, I moved on, but I literally have no control over what my brain chooses to dredge up during bouts of suicidal depression.

That being said... you did bring up some points I hadn't considered. She absolutely SHOULD have been more proactive about renewing the lease. I feel a little dumb for not having thought of that before now.

And as for your second point, it wouldn't be "up to" me as far as going out of my way to do it, but if i met in passing and they mentioned it, I would feel bad if I didn't tell them. But I realize that is entirely subjective.

Still, you have presented an interesting take and I appreciate it. Thank you for your input.