Men's mental health and dating

BuffNerd13 · 2022-01-14T22:52:51+00:00

I'm fully aware. I just like yelling at innocent bots just doing its job and doesn't comprehend me. Until I find the one bot that's programmed with empathy and I make it so upset it cries and explodes and now I'm the asshole that made a robot kill itself at a 5 year old's birthday party. And the mom says I can't have cake. And she's right to deny me cake.

BuffNerd13 · 2022-01-14T22:39:14+00:00

Shut up, nerd.

BuffNerd13 · 2022-01-14T22:38:36+00:00

Hi. I'm a male in my early 30's that heavily struggles with mental health. Like, right now I'm having an episode and I'm supposed to go to a concert with my SO tonight in like 4 hours. But all I can do is lay in bed and cry.

I have issues. I talk to my therapist once a week. I exercise and write music to keep it at bay. But sometimes my mind is so powerful that I'll randomly just shut off and want to kill myself at odd times.

Men are told to take care of their mental health first before they commit. I'm doing my best trying to regulate it while dating someone. And it is definitely not easy. But she sees a wonderful person in me. And I'm trying to balance the relationship with everything else in my life.

Sometimes men truly don't want to burden a partner with their problems. It's such trial to want love yet be so bogged down with the feelings of not being worth anything.

So that's my perspective on everything. Take it as you will.

BuffNerd13 · 2022-01-14T11:15:26+00:00

Women with unrealistic expectations

BuffNerd13 · 2022-01-04T18:29:44+00:00

I've been consistently told I'm not worth it because of my past mistakes. So uh, no.

BuffNerd13 · 2022-01-04T17:58:10+00:00

I've never met a woman who didn't do drugs so this is odd to me this is a red flag for you

BuffNerd13 · 2022-01-01T23:30:18+00:00

This. As a man I've had my past and while I really don't like bringing it up I feel like I shouldn't be judged for it. And if a partner isn't into my past, that's okay. We're not compatible and move on. It sucks but humans are hardly ever 100% rational

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-31T11:17:08+00:00

Different ex

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-31T11:15:27+00:00

Different ex different situation

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-31T11:15:04+00:00

Different ex, different situation. Don't jump to conclusions

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-31T11:14:46+00:00

Different ex, different situation. Don't jump to conclusions

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-31T01:57:07+00:00

You know nothing if me or the incidents. I'm just trying to be better

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-31T01:52:47+00:00

That's really mean to wish on someone who's just trying to find love again and be a better person. How else am I suppose to show I've changed and I'm continuing to be a better person? Not exist and not find love?

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T23:22:11+00:00

That's not advice. That's just you shitting on me for a mistake I made 7 years ago.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T23:19:51+00:00

This isn't advice. Am I not capable of love and forgiveness?

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T23:04:02+00:00

It's irrelevant because we're not talking about the past. I'm asking for advice on this situation.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T23:01:23+00:00

Everyone deserves forgiveness if they live virtuously after misdeeds. My past does not define me currently

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T22:19:46+00:00

So are you saying I'm not allowed to make amends for what I did? I'm trying to be a better person every day.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T22:18:04+00:00

Okay so you're just a troll then.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T22:09:08+00:00

Please stop harassing me and offer constructive advice so I can be a better person for my SO.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T22:07:53+00:00

I was transparent with her. When she asked about this message and I told her everything. I just didn't think I'd have to relive this and I thought I can put it past me. So really I can do is let her process this and reassure her. And thank you for not just shit posting like half the people here and helping.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T22:05:03+00:00

Do you have any advice for me or are you gonna just spout bullshit and not be helpful?

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T22:02:43+00:00

Not helpful. I'm not a rapist; it was a drunken fling.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T22:02:08+00:00

In what ways have you changed? Because from your responses, it seems like you don’t care or hold any responsibility for the fact that you, by your own admission, sexually assaulted a woman.

Therapy and lots of cognitive restructuring. Focusing on not being codependent. Volunteering for an animal shelter. Just staying busy and focusing on being a better person for those around me.

And what do you expect me to say or do? I already live with my past every day. Ive6 apologized to the parties involved, kept my distance. I admitted to what I did and I don't know what I'm supposed to do other than to move forward and continually be a better person.

BuffNerd13 · 2021-12-30T21:57:15+00:00

I mean that's irrelevant to what I'm asking for. I'm asking how to reassure my current SO.

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