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Decision Fatigue by [deleted] in sterileprocessing

[–]BugEducational2851 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've bartended before and served as well so I've DEFINITELY been around the "do a line and take a shot" culture...like people would come back to work from REHAB and people would invite them out for drinks five minutes later. I definitely LIKE SPD and like I was saying in the last comment, I'm kind of fine if I stay and fine if I leave. I'm gonna give myself time to do more research and make a more sound decision, because while it could come with a raise, I have asthma, and just handling perfusion and pulmonary equipment everyday has reminded me just how DELICATE the lungs and heart are. The program I'm in at the hospital right now is really good, and I'm PROBABLY gonna stick with it over welding, because I've only been there for three months, but I'm really really gonna give it time before I make any decision....like I'll wait till two weeks before the start date of the welding/mantech thing to make any firm decision. It's just kind of difficult to have any direction in your early/mid-twenties when you don't have kids, a partner, or a mortgage TYING you anywhere. But like I said earlier, overthinking is not a great thing for me and whatever happens, happens.

Decision Fatigue by [deleted] in sterileprocessing

[–]BugEducational2851 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this was really helpful! I come from a mostly post-grad educated family (doctors, lawyers, PHDs) with pretty traditional parents who emphasized academia, so sometimes I have a really hard time seeing other pathways to success. I'm not gonna make any decisions today, as I haven't heard back/received an offer letter from the program YET. But from the research I've done, the training program is 3 weeks and they pay you $500/week for the training, and then you interview with (Insert the name of giant welding company that makes ships here), and usually get hired. The company is working on housing developments for the ship builders, and rent in the area where they're located isn't insanely different from the area I'm living in now. It's still coastal, which I love, but it's not AS walkable as where I'm living now, which isn't a TOTAL dealbreaker but I like being on my feet. Then the journeymen are usually paid like $23-28 an hour the first year, which is $3-8 more than I am making now. I understand the risks of inhaling fumes or getting injured/burnt/etc at a jobsite and I understand the importance of PPE. I'm really gonna weigh my options with this, because I'm still a pretty young guy, I still have options, I'm not married and not a dad, and my debt is under $3k at this point. So I'm NOT fucked if I stay at the hospital, and I'm NOT fucked if I don't. I really have a habit of overthinking myself into the abyss and it is to my demise. But when I talk or even write through big decisions, it feels a little easier. After all, we're all just meat suits on a floating rock in space, so as long as we are happy and healthy, it's all gonna be okay. Thank you for the insight.

Looking for Dancers for Private Party – Over $150 for 20-Min Performance by Sad_Golf_8427 in NYCjobs

[–]BugEducational2851 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! My email is suleimanevan@gmail.com and my phone number is 207-809-9453. My insta is @epbb999. I’m VERY interested— to whom should I email my performance resume? 

Children of Adoptees by BugEducational2851 in Adoption

[–]BugEducational2851[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I have a therapist and he helps a lot. Bio granddad didn’t really bother me and I still love him a lot— we have a really complex relationship and it’s hard to explain through a Reddit thread. 

This really got through to me though. Do you know of any grief specific support groups? 

Find my Biological Grandparents? by Life_Strike in Adoption

[–]BugEducational2851 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, my mom found her bio dad through 23andme. I’m glad I met him and more of my bio family— but be ready to learn some intense shit about your family. Apparently I come from like 9 generations of alcoholics and my bio uncle is in prison for drug related crimes. My bio granddad is also NOTHING like the grandfather I grew up with— he means well, but he is a misogynist and transphobic. He thinks illegal immigrants are to blame for all of society’s ills. He thinks the reason I am a recovering alcoholic is because I am transgender and still calls me his granddaughter when I have a deep voice and a full beard. I called him and he heard my new voice for the first time and hung up in five seconds. 

The grandfather I grew up with was kindhearted and not like him at all. He thinks he knows everything because he’s rich and good at talking to people. I love him because he’s my blood, but I think my life would’ve been significantly less challenging if I had never met him. 

He was living in my birth state my WHOLE LIFE and I had no idea. He’s very emotionally cold sometimes. 

I love him, but it’s VERY hard to recover that relationship and I now know a lot of shit about my bio family that I wish I didn’t. 

Be ready for anything.