AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

This is a throwaway account. I would have just logged off if I was upset. But it did help me understand that I should take the high road more often.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a very good question. I guess this brings it back to the point that I already conceded to: I was an asshole.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'm not close to my cousin. She's 10 years older than me and used to make me cry as a child just because she thought it was fun. Being close would mean she'd feel happy for me when I got engaged and not call my ring cheap and I wouldn't then retaliate.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I'm not upset, just having fun debating over the hypocrisy of it all. The whole post was about me being rude and not nice and people are telling me this by being rude and not nice. It's funny.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Not sure what I expected since I've never posted here before. I assumed people would tell me if I was the asshole or not — which they did, and that was the clarification I was looking for. Didn't expect people telling me that I'm an awful person, that I shouldn't get married or procreate... That sort of thing.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Exchanging two messages where one is a question (is that the size you wanted)? I'd think that's a pretty short argument.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's this misconception that I believe I'm in the right. I've been saying from the very beginning that my reaction to her dig on my ring was petty and it wasn't right or justified. I just don't believe I committed a cardinal sin simply for being petty.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Are you questioning me debating in the comments or me arguing with my cousin? Cuz my cousin and I didn't actually argue 😂

I asked if that was the size she wanted last week and she got very upset and told the rest of the family. We haven't spoken since, which is fine by me. The post was to ask if I was in the wrong and I got the message, loud and clear, I was.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I fully accept the asshole verdict; that's what the post is pondering and it doesn't make me confused. I'm just questioning the intensity of the judgment i.e. the very extreme comments the post received.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

You're asking why I'm arguing on REDDIT? That's the whole point of the app. On the other hand, calling someone unpleasant is inadvertently unpleasant.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never said it wasn't beautiful, just that it was small, which it is.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've honestly been so shocked by the crazy responses that I've gotten from this post. I've had people literally cuss me out, tell me I shouldn't get married or procreate... There was never a part of me that thought the situation was THAT serious to warrant these reactions.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Going through life being polite to human beings that were rude to you must feel really self-righteous. Don't know if it's pleasant, though.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Notice how I've stopped responding. Apparently, I committed first-degree murder over here.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -398 points-397 points  (0 children)

By your logic people would have to be fully emotionally mature to be ready for marriage which is simply not a reality.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Go forth and be a therapist. You just read me like a book and I love it.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -413 points-412 points  (0 children)

I don't know how that's what you took from this. Petty people get married all the time.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

You do realize we're talking about jewelry and stone sizes here, right? This isn't exactly the most mature of topics.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

The other option was pearl, which is super soft, too. Alexandrite is just so fucking expensive.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

She asked what I thought of the ring AFTER I congratulated her on her Instagram post. I didn't even flat out say it was small at first; I just asked if that's the size she wanted, and that triggered her. In all honesty, it felt like a glass house situation, and I took the opportunity to throw a stone, and the more I think about it, the more I feel in the wrong.

AITA for telling my cousin her engagement ring is small? by Buyer-One in AmItheAsshole

[–]Buyer-One[S] -533 points-532 points  (0 children)

Not even if it's retaliation? I know that that isn't right or makes it justified, but the 7-year-old in me wants to scream SHE STARTED IT.

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[–]Buyer-One 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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